Why would anyone think making amends is pretending it never happen?

[Bostonbutterfly]

I've heard this scenario many times:

Someone wrongs you and instead of apologizing and asking to start over, they sweep things under the rug, pretend the offense never happened and assume you're going to magically forget about it. Why do they think that's making amends. That's not.

[sage2021]

I am very familiar with that one. When my boyfriend would be gone from 5:30 am on a Saturday morning and stay gone all day without a phone call letting me know he's ok.
Then when he'd finally come home he would act like nothing was wrong. If I asked where he was for the past 10 hours, he'd say "Can we just forget about it? Do we have to talk about it? And he just flat would not tell me. Naturally I thought he was another woman, which he had to be. Yeah, breakfast at Denny's at 6 am and spend the day together. The Denny's debit showed up on his bank statement. He never took me to breakfast at Denny's.
Maybe R. I. P. 🪦

[boggboss]

Because people don't like admiting they was wrong these days

[Bostonbutterfly]

Yes it's a sad generation nowadays. It's very pathetic. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. Admitting to it and making sure it doesn't happen again is progress.
By pretending it never happen then the same offense is likely to happen any time since the mistake was never acknowledged.

[provokeesmokee]

Anxious avoidant people do this often.

[jahaims]

They don't understand accountability

[Bostonbutterfly]

Indeed and it's a pathetic generation.

[Alex8736]

That's like an active alcoholic/addict in denial