so embarrassing to admit. i basically catfished a guy i was in a situationship with to prove he wasn’t being honest about talking to other people. he and i were involved for 8 months. he would consistently go silent and i would chase him asking for answers during the silence. his excuses each time were that he was busy, under stress or that he’s a bad communicator. at one point i tried ending things bc i couldn’t handle it anymore. i suffer from anxiety which is something i was open with him about earlier on and this was making it much worse. when we “ended” he apologized for stringing me along, and said he didn’t want a casual sex sort of relationship. i was confused by that bc i had expressed something similar a while ago and he told me he needed time to think about it. that was when he started becoming hot and cold. so i asked for a conversation after and it took weeks to finally have that. during the first week of silence i immaturely made a catfish account to see he why he kept doing so. i learned he started following his ex again after i brought up ending things, and i stupidly started keeping tabs from said account. he started talking to the catfish but stopped so i figured he wasn’t really pursuing anyone at all. i texted him a couple times during the 3 weeks of silence expressing how i truly felt about him and he eventually texts me apologizing and said he didn't want me to think i was being ghosted. he again left me in silence for another 4 days and i told him its become too much for me and i was done, i was fully prepared to move on at that point bc i realized how unhealthy the lengths i was going to to seek clarity were. he immediately responded and we finally had a conversation. he told he wasn’t talking or sleeping with anyone else. it lasted 5 days and we never even met up. during one of those days i was having severe anxiety due to separate circumstances and later started thinking he was ghosting me again after he wasn’t responding all day
Why do you want to continue to deal with a man that made you uncomfortable for as long as 8 months? There’s absolutely no reason for you to invest anymore time into this situation. 8 months is a lengthy time to be stuck in the talking stage with someone to begin with and then him playing all these games and downplaying the fact that he most likely never wanted to be in a relationship with you. You need to hit the block button and continue on with life.
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I feel you ramble on a bit, maybe because you don't want to lose what established connection you have with him but know it was wrong that you cat fished him. The reason I say this is because although you were together for 8 months why would you want to chase someone who goes silent (for whatever reason)? Other than the fact that there WILL be people who appreciate you as is (its a a matter of finding them) you should really consider addressing that anxiety which will only continue to add problems in various forms through your life, you don't want to be like me that buries anxiety for years until you freak out. I apologize if it seems strong but really the hell with everything you wrote which is you just working yourself up. Take a step back, see that the situation isn't suitable for what you expect and proceed from cautiously from there.
Perhaps, getting your obsessive Compulsive Anxiety under control from psychiatrist is a good idea. I am not a doctor but that seems to be the first order of business so that your thinking is clear. I am not a professional in that kind of thing but seems like common sense?
Why would you want to amend things? This dude is very obviously breadcrumbing you. Block his ass and move on.
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