If someone doesn’t offer a proper apology for hurting you and says can we move past this and pretend it didn’t happen, let bygones be bygones…?

[Anonymous]

you, should you keep them in your life? Why wouldn’t someone apologise for being cruel to you and want to merely sweep it under the rug?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If someone doesn’t apologize, then they’re not only not sorry, they don’t really respect you or your feelings. Problems don’t go away swiping them under the rug. And the first step to fixing the problem is admitting there is one. If this man can’t admit he treated you like crap, much less apologize for it, he’ll just keep treating you like crap. People will treat us the way WE allow them to.

If you allow him to just sweep everything away without giving you the apology and working on rebuilding trust, the relationship, things won’t change cuz he’ll think he can keep getting away with it and he’ll think you’ll keep putting up with it..

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mh… hope it helps🤗

[SnowedIn]

In this specific case would I keep them in my life, probably not. Because it appears to be a case not of them not knowing any better or not having a clue. It appears as though they understand they did something -- enough to say "can we move past this...". That tells me they're not interested in the relationship or they don't care or they're heartless or some combination of this and more. So, no, please not in my life.

[MrOracle]

That's not how it works. You don't get to any forgiveness until you not only apologize, but acknowledge what you did wrong.

He just wants a free pass so he doesn't have to deal with it, and that's not something you want in your life.

[Guy13]

I would imagine because he really don’t see anything wrong with it⁉️ Save that apology for the next time?

[tfan1]

No I’d demand a proper apology! I wouldn’t care if they meant it if not, the fact they say apologetic words is enough to me.

[Wise4myage]

Id base that on how and why they offended me.

[Asker]

He told me my life was shit and I told him that was deeply hurtful and I was devastated and cried and he just wants to move past it and pretend it didn’t happen.

[Wise4myage]

The hell with him then if he won't apologize.

[NerdInDenial]

What do you gain from the relationship?

[Asker]

They’re in my friend circle.

[Asker]

I would lose out on my social life.

[Asker]

By avoiding them but they told me my life was shit so I feel odd about going to events they plan as I do not feel valued.

[NerdInDenial]

What's more valuable your social life or your ego?

[Asker]

I mean I can go to his events but maybe avoid him?

[NerdInDenial]

Avoid him then; have fun with other people.