Is it ok to bring something up and apologize for it even though it happened months ago?

[Anonymous]

But you still feel guilty for it? or actually feel even more guilty?

I had a really good connection with one of my coworkers but I suddenly switched my behavior towards him and gave him cold shoulder because I've started to like him romantically and I couldn't avoid him therefore I tried my best to ignore him. I don't want him to treat me the way he did before though, I just want him to know I acknowledge I behaved like a B but I have this inner battle whether I should do it or leave it be. Mentally it's weighing me down but I don't know whether it's appropriate.

This has happened in February/March and I didn't really feel guilty at first because I thought I'm doing the best I can in that situation but the more time passes, the more I realize it wasn't mature at all and I haven't considered his feelings or how he would perceive things which is a really bad trait of mine.

Maybe I'm overthinking, maybe it's not that deep. The conversations went from 100 to 0 (which I completely understand) but we do smile at each other when passing each other in the hallway.

I appreciate any opinion or advice

[Inafishbowl99]

I personally wouldn't bother bringing it up after almost 3. months has passed. Like you said ' You didn't feel. guilty at first'. you feel. guilty now because you no longer feel the way you did for him. He probably knew that you were having feelings for him , that's why you distanced your self from him.

If it was to come up in a conversation at some point you could say sorry for just blanking him. Only if you feel it's right , trust your instincts. You don't owe him anything and bringing it up now might make him think he is in with a chance.

You still smile at each other when you cross paths. I wouldn't go any further with this personally.

[DishLady]

If it's still bugging you then yes.

[DannyUk2017]

No! Past is better to be In The Past, and also stay Buried if possible... i felt guilty of many things, and when brought up actually felt like i "stired the 💩" even worse and now started to "stink" very bad, and that is My Fault only... so one thing i have learned from my mistake... if the "💩" doesn't sink don't stir it"... simple, learn to put them thing behind you... as you might create more problems to yourself rather than being Honest! Trust me... Been there, Done that! 🤷‍♂️

[DrPepper12]

I would IF the opportunity arises and I wouldn't say the real reason but just say I was stressed or something. Otherwise let it be