How do you handle criticism, and do you use it for personal growth?

[jack1924]

[DrPepper12]

The first principle MUST be "This event and my role in it is insignificant" like in Stoicism and Buddhism. Stoicism teachs that anybody that has constructive criticism to offer is not your enemy but your friend trying to help you. It also teaches that any travails of life are bearable and should be welcomed with a sense of honor and duty and propriety and gratitude. Buddhism teaches the reflective self, to truly fully and deeply get to know yourself through the most important conversations you will ever have, the ones you have with yourself.

At its essence, both belief systems teach to reflect and ask these questions:
This is false
This is unproductive
This is ignorable

Once you have the answers to those questions to the issue at hand, you would utilize one of these thought processor strategies:
This is temporary
This is universal
This is survivable

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Doesn't bother me at all because I grew up being criticized by my mom a lot so I'm very used to it.

If the critic is good then I use it to my advantage.

[jack1924]

Usually dads who criticize a lot

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I didn't have my father growing up but even if I did my father isn't that type of personality as he is much laid back and doesn't say much.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’ve gotten a lot better about it but originally I couldn’t handle criticism. I would take it as a sign of a personal flaw rather than a professional or academic misstep. Turns out it’s a form of rejection sensitivity and my brain simply takes all criticism or anything negative as some kind of rejection against myself. I’m much better about it now, I no longer cry over having to meet my manager privately for whatever reason lol

[DishLady]

First I have to separate constructive criticism/feedback from toxic insults and degrading commentaries. Once that's sorted, yeah, obviously no one's perfect and there's always room for improvement.

[Sevenpointfive]

if you were an AI bot, could i call you a dishwasher?

[DishLady]

@Sevenpointfive Either way, no bc it would just be rude.

[Sevenpointfive]

why? i'm a dishwasher.

[DishLady]

@Sevenpointfive Nice. I'm not, though, and have had the title thrown my way as an insult more than necessary.

[Sevenpointfive]

why would it be an insult. dishwashers are very high in my village

[Sevenpointfive]

it depends on what i'm being criticized for.

Her: "you should cut off half yer dick".

Me: grows another 2 dicks longer

[NathanDavis]

self-criticism is part of selft-growth...

[jack1924]

Agree 💯

[Nikki1989]

Yes, it is a learning process.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I totally ignore it

[Ms_Facesitter]

I listen and take mental notes.

[Dongie]

That depends on what's criticized and by whom.

[Dongie]

But, no. I don't.

[Simslover92]

I try to.