How to tell if I can trust someone who had a dysfunctional behavior in the past, but in the present they seem to behave properly?

[es20490446e]

My doubt is how much they behave properly due to an honest willingness to change, versus just pretending and not maintaining it in the future.

[Anonymous]

You just gotta give them time and see if they can maintain the new change in behavior. People won’t be able to maintain a facade for too long, if they’re sincere and genuine then you should be able to see them at least trying to keep it up. But remember, progress isn’t linear, sometimes people do regress at times.

It’s up to you to give them another chance or not. If you do give them a chance tho, you also need to consciously try to open up your heart again in order to rebuild the broken trust.

[lightbulb27]

That's a toughie. Til you spend time over period of time, you can't. People can put on a face in public but in private the "stuff oozes out". Changes under pressure as well.

There are signs of deeper healing, and Id say that is ability to be open and honest with emotional control, and wisdom associated with what they say.

Secrets, lies, deceipt, games, avoidance, deflection... all bad signs.

[Maybeyoutoo]

Those who commit a crime once will commit it again.