Is trust earned or is it given?

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I would imagine that it's healthy to give it til it's broken but how many do that right off the bat, not just relationships, I mean trust in general, but when you meet a stranger nobody really trusts anybody until they at least no longer consider them a stranger, which in some ways thats kinda earned do y'all not agree, so is the real answer that it's earned? 🤔

DishLady · Accepted Answer

This is a fabulous question.

It depends on the type of relationship. For example:

Child/Parent Trust: Kids trust their parents implicitly/unconditionally from the moment they pop out into the world. This sometimes doesn't change EVEN IF the kid is in a toxic/abusive home. Logic can't explain this one. Some kids ultimately learn NOT to trust their parents and are consequently too emotionally scarred by that to be able to trust anyone.
Friendly/Platonic Trust: Friends tend to trust one another to a point. That's usually earned over time through shared experiences. This is where friends with benefits situations gum up the works, though, because the two people likely trusted each other enough to get physically entangled with each other... and then find out there's no chemistry... start being evasive... and trust evaporates.
Partner/Relationship Trust: In dating, you're supposed to be looking for things to build trust and as you move along in the association you choose to become partners based on mutual trust earned over time.
Blind Trust/Benefit of the Doubt/Trust By Association: SOME people have a "trust by association" sort of benefit because you know their family or circle of friends well enough to incorporate them into your world without putting them through the usual sort of "trials" you use to test another person's values and establish trust. This is the trickiest/messiest situation to be in because you THINK LIKE you know the person and CONFIDE in them, but they haven't earned your trust so they treat it like a cheap commodity.

StarWarGirl · Accepted Answer

Only immature person can give it all till it's broken. Give it all before broken means you are ready to risk your own stability, or health even for the person that has yet proven to be trustworthy or not. For example you can give them all of your life savings if they asked for it. Or you can give them your kidney even if they asked for it. Without even knowing that person is trustworthy or not.

With life experience and maturity people understand that we cannot trust anyone completely.

So most of people first give them a little bit trust, and further that person has to earn more themselve their own.

If we meet some stranger we trust them a little that that person will respect us, will not hurt us will not harm us. Then further their words and actions decide how much we can trust them upto which level. And it's very rare that anyone can trust anyone completely like 100% and it's more rare that they do so and not get hurt.

BobbieBoy666 · Accepted Answer

While you can initially "give" someone the benefit of the doubt, trust is generally considered to be earned over time through consistent actions and behaviors that demonstrate reliability and integrity; meaning you need to prove yourself trustworthy to gain someone's trust.
Key points about trust:
Earned through actions:
Trust is built by consistently demonstrating trustworthy behavior, not just by saying you are trustworthy.
Takes time:
Building trust is a process that requires time and repeated positive experiences.
Can be broken:
If someone acts in a way that contradicts their trustworthy behavior, trust can be eroded.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t automatically “trust” anyone , maybe that’s a me thing in light of my childhood or experience / relative maturity , and I’m never complacent with it. Over time assuming unbroken I would be less focused on it but never taking it for granted , nor would any expect any different from others.

I think to some extent we need to offer a little trust upfront being vulnerable then reward with mire as it’s proven deserved.

The people that are generally more trustworthy are the listeners and those that are more selfless

Apple1996 · Answer

I trust until someone gives me a reason not to. Which if someone is untrustworthy that'll show pretty fast

Summeroflove · Answer

Trust is a two way street that both persons need to earn that in one another. I do agree with that I think if two people over time start trusting one another more and more that’s healthy but once someone does something that forever damages that it’s over

Booboolove69 · Answer

Well, what I do when I meet somebody and I like them and I feel their good vibes. I give them all my trust and one time they mess it up. I’m completely done with them.
So it is given, and it is earned, and that’s the truth of it
You have to show somebody a little bit of trust in order for them to know what they need to earn

FreyaRed · Answer

Earned like respect. I doesn't mean I show people my disrespect or distrust if I don't know them but I definitely would never give them something of value for me or acknowledge their authority.
Trust comes with exchange of little insignificant favors without being exploited, we call it "one hand is washing the another". It takes some time and effort, that's why it's earned.

Lynx122 · Answer

I think to trust other people you have to have a certain amount of confidence that even if they betray you you'll be fine but then it also takes a person who is trustworthy on the otherside. In the early parts of my life I didn't rely on anybody because it was easier and more consistent to just do things slowly and steadily myself than to risk getting let down by someone but now I'm more open to it :)

jshm2 · Answer

Neither, it's developed over time, and experience.

What I always find funny is the people who talk about "respect" and demand it, are usually the ones who deserve none.

Also "respect" like "love" is something most people misunderstand more than understand.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Most people give some fair trustful to each other to some extent.. Like I trust the average person not to do anything heinous to me or to have any ill will.. But you gotta earn some of the more intimate types of trust.. Like to be somebody good to be around and loyal..

Justneedtokno · Answer

I think a little bit of both for me I give you a little bit in the beginning because I try to give everyone a blank slate, but also not the entirety of me and it also depends on what role you’re trying to play in my life

call_me_scar · Answer

Normal trust can be given depending on the circumstances like I wouldn't entrust a random person with my life however if I have to go into heart surgery then I would trust them with my life as the doctors are properly trained but that real trust when you can show whats really hurting you that is earned

chrissykerdock · Answer

swallow a man's cum a few times and he'll trust you

69Lonely69 · Answer

Depends entirely on who is giving the trust. It is how some people have their trust broken because they give it too freely. There are others who never give it because they've been harmed too much.
In my opinion its better to be optimistic about a relationship but to give trust when it deserved.

MemeSupreme · Answer

you give a little, but not all of it gotta earn the rest of it

nawtee_me · Answer

I trust everyone until I have a reason not to. That doesn’t mean that I am gullible and believe every word spoken. But for those who feel it has to be earned at what point has it been earned? And what do you feel if it isn’t given to you because someone feels you haven’t earned it yet?

HungTexan · Answer

I believe in “trust but verify “. It’s given but can be lost.

Fireguy17 · Answer

earned, and easily lost and damn near impossible to gain back.

MrOracle · Answer

A small amount can be given freely, but beyond that, it must be earned. The more you trust, the more deeply you can be betrayed, which is why trust beyond a basic level needs to be earned over time.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Trust is only ever earned. All forms of life learn this in their initial stages of life. We wouldn't my make it out of childhood without this experience.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Trust starts at zero or very low levels. You earn trust based on your actions over time, not your words. And trust can be squandered in an instant of bad judgement.

Babygirl_S · Answer

EARNED because my trust is precious like that.

Valdemort · Answer

Usually given, but once lost, hard to rebuild.

monkeynutts · Answer

Tough subject, I definitely think it's earned, but it also depends on the outcome if trust is broken, do you loose $20, or is it a cheating partner. It's all about the situation.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

I feel both I trust a person to an extent til they give me a reason either not to trust them at all or a reason to fully trust them but that's just me some people may have a diffrent view

Dargil · Answer

Presumed and then earned of not earned. Due process.

Bety23 · Answer

I do not really know much about trust i feel it has earned i feel i been hurt a lot by people so i feel it has be earned

fish5505_87 · Answer

It like the chicken and the egg! Trust is earned over time in my book. How your earn trust, now that's the question?

AviatorTom · Answer

Trust is given... until it's lost. The old saying "Trust, and verify" is a good way to live.

Anonymous · Answer

It's reciprocal. You offer for faith, they behave appropriately, you offer more trust over time. So it's both given and earned.

Dongie · Answer

Yeah, a minimal amount is there but it's most definitely earned.

Pohjolan · Answer

It's a bit of both depending on the context.

Sonorous · Answer

ask ya sistah

Crazzyyworld · Answer

You will know if he or she is trustworthy at first sight. I always believe in first impression. If she or he is not trustworth6 i dont believe her him no matter what he she does. Period

leahzrc · Answer

sometimes I trust the wrong strangers

LiamS95 · Answer

Trust is given when it has been earned.

strateguy632 · Answer

No, only earn trust.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Given until it's revoked and repaired

worldscolide · Answer

Trust, along with respect should be earned.

MikeRJ · Answer

It is earned.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

A bit of both.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Earned with me.

Miah06 · Answer

Earned

MatureMan40 · Answer

Both.

CubaPirate · Answer

Earned

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