Trust is given. Think about relationships. You don't know people long enough by the time you give them your trust. You make a judgment call based on how good chemistry is between you. The reality is that trust is something that is lost. And once it is lost it realistically can never be earned back. That is a sad and bleak truth. trust is a good thing in fact it's probably the most important foundational element of a good relationship. Just don't put yourself in a situation where you crash and burn hard when that trust is destroyed. Oh they will say they can fix things and put it all back together and make everything like it was depending on whatever the hell they did which often is cheating but I've seen people break up over drug addictions and other issues. so I'm basically saying it's okay to trust people because you're not going to have a good relationship with somebody if you don't Trust them. Just always keep it in the back of your mind that there's a 5 to 10% chance that they are con artists like you would see in a movie or TV show. The other 90-95% of you will laugh at that 5-10% of you That's basically insisting you keep your seatbelt on just in case. We all wear seatbelts at least I hope you guys all do. And we all hope we don't get in a wreck. But there's always a chance we will and you'll thank your lucky stars that you took your time to put your seatbelt on. People are incredibly adept at fooling other people. Especially if they are predators and you are their perfect prey. People with these kind of psychological disorders can keep you fooled for years before you figure it out. So, trust but trust wisely if that makes any sense.
Hard to answer for there to be a positive relationship there has to have been trust built up and when you get that trust built up you have to keep that trust between you or it will slowly diminish.
Interesting and thoughtful question. I think I've often fallen into the "given" camp but it's maybe not been the best. I'm sort of like a dog in that sense, haha. If I get crushed out or determine someone is good or trustworthy I trust them. And it builds from there. But then, I think maybe the problem is I give trust too early, hoping they will respect it, before more realistic and healthy progression of trust is experienced. But I do want to love fully and not be too cynical or closed off when I'm first connecting with someone. So it's just a matter of balance, maybe?
I always show that I'm giving him my full trust right from the start 😊, but if he breaks it once, it's the end.
If you're suspicious of everything all the time, the other person will feel uncomfortable and guilty for no reason, and in that case, they won't care about breaking your trust (because there isn't any) and they'll be more willing to actually do something that might hurt you.
And you won't be enjoying the relationship yourself because you will constantly be analysing little things... why this... why that... and it will be a total failure
Both. A person doesn't have a chance to earn your trust if you don't first give it to them because otherwise you'll always be suspicious of their motives. You have to let your walls down and really listen to them and get to know their point of view then while they're showing you they're trustworthy they earn your trust by you giving it to them bit by bit. But it depends on getting to know them, spending time, the same way someone would earn their wage. You don't get a week wage for one days work but by putting in hours consistently over time.
Earned.
I always thought it was given. Something that is present by default in any healthy relationship. That might've been the case for the first 2-3 years of my relationship till some shit happened that completely broke that trust. Since then, I can trust my boyfriend on an almost conditional basis. I'm much more stringent with as a result, especially when it comes to him showing me that he deserves my trust, in spite of everything. (so maybe the whole idea of assuming whole trust is a bit of naivete?)
I believe there is a basic level of trust there, getting in a relationship. Over time it grows into a deeper bond and is not as easily broken and that’s the trust that is earned
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Trust is earned and it is not something that is given or bought or sold.
Trust is not words but is it the actions of the other person that is proven over a period of time.
In this day and age always remember this and you will never go wrong.
Never go by what a person says and only go by what a person does as actions have always spoken louder than words.
Trust should never be given freely. It should be earned progressively
It's naive and foolish to place your trust in anyone who hasn't earned it. It would leave you too vulnerable , and draw manipulative people to you, coz they'd look on you as easy prey
I'm very intuitive and perceptive, so I can see the early signs of a person's manipulative tactics. I need to know a person on a deeper level, in person, before I place my wholehearted trust in them
Ok so here's how I see it.
At first there is full trust unless proven otherwise.
Then if trust is broken you get another chance but you have to earn it back.
After marriage:
You can't ever divorce unless it get's really bad.
(My beliefs only, not meant to put a rule out there)
Trust is something that must be earned, otherwise it will hurt. I mean im kinda girl who trust to everybody, even strangers, thats my cons in personality.. Everytime i trust to somebody, i hurt.
So trust must be earned, to make yourself sure that the person won't hurt you.
Trust is earned most definitely. You don’t just meet a stranger off the streets and just say “here, hold my briefcase full of 10 millions dollars for me please”
Ok so i believe that too many people make others earn trust, respect, etc and that is ultimately what might be going wrong here. If you make the choice to start a relationship with a person weather it be a friendship or an intimate relationship trust should be freely given, until its broken. Without trust there is no respect, and without respect there is no relationship.
Both. You give a little trust otherwise you wouldn't let someone in to try and earn it. But they earn it as they go with their actions.
I think its a bit of both. It should be given at the start but also earned and proved as the relationships continues
Given. Once I have observed their behavior I decide from there if I should continue to trust them, or not. I can’t decide until I have some proof.
It's built. Would you trust someone with your life that you don't know well or someone you've been with and do know well
you trust from the start but not blindly. then your trust builds when you get proof via action that in this person you can trust.
I’m more trusting in the beginning. When I become emotionally attached is when I seek trust. I’m an idiot. I trust everyone.
Earned. Unless you like them already then you give it to them hoping they won't break your trust
I give all of my trust until the first lie or betrayal.
Always earned. If people just trusted everyone then that leaves people open to be hurt quite easy on
I trust people eaisly until they give me a reason not too
Trust is given until proven otherwise.
Trust is something that each persons got to earn.
It's given but you need to earn it to keep it
The glass is always half empty.
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