Does it piss you off more when you were so close to accomplishing a certain goal but didn't, or when you weren't even close to accomplishing it?

[EzraIsShy76028]

The "goal" in question can be literally anything, big or small. Where you either were so close to accomplishing it but didn't by just a little bit, or when you weren't even close to accomplishing it in the first place. Which is worse?

For me it's a tough question, but I have to go with when I was so close but didn't.

It just pisses me off when I probably easily could've achieved my goal but didn't just because of one little seemingly small mistake I made.

Whereas if I wasn't even close anyway it's just like "oh well, this thing was WAY beyond my abilities anyway."

But when I'm so close, it means I was capable of achieving the goal and could've done it but one little mistake fucked everything up. And that's more infuriating for me than not even being close.

If I'm not close at all I'm like "eh whatever." But if I was close it's like "NOOOO GOD FUCKING DAMN IT I WAS SO FUCKING CLOSE I CAN'T DO ANYTHING RIGHT ARRRRGHHH!!!"

[Nikki1989]

The pain of being close to a goal and missing it is often a lesson in letting go of the outcome and focusing on the process. You hopefully learn from the experience.

[WonderingManII]

Living with my learning disability I don't get my hopes up.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Not quite sure what that response has to do with my question title: "Does it piss you off more when you were so close to accomplishing a certain goal but didn't, or when you weren't even close to accomplishing it?"

BUT in general I do hear what you're saying, surprisingly or not.

For me it's a combination of learning disabilities, several mental illnesses, as well as being generally lazy and weak willed.

Life has basically been a living hell ever since I turned 6 and entered kindergarten. Being bullied by my peers and always falling behind no matter how hard I work.

At that point I've more or less given up and have no idea what I'm gonna do going forward. So like you I don't get my hopes up either.

[WonderingManII]

@EzraIsShy76028
Sounds like you understand my point.