What calms you down when you’re in rage?

[Anonymous]

For me it’s having 20 coffee a day, a bath, something to punch, something to smash, and something to pull and stab. Then i’d feel just fine. Rage could feel like a huge energy bomb for me, and i cry when i’m in rage so i don’t hurt people physically or becoming frightening to people around me. What about you?

Updates

6 mo

Update: i called an emergency hotline, spoke to this person and she was the nicest person ever i almost cried

[DryGermanGuy]

I never had this sort of rage (I’m too stoic), at most it’s some flashes of depression trying to get out. 🤷‍♂️ Sport (e. g my bicycle) always helps to burn off negative energy.
A few times I had other people raging around me, which was rather funny. 🙄

[Asker]

lol that reminds me of when i was raging in front of my great grandma for 5 minutes straight without knowing she was there just staring at me 💀

[DryGermanGuy]

Well, in the Asian society context (I assume you are), losing control over your emotions means losing your face. It might be not as bad here, but it’s still seen negatively. I couldn’t take a business owner seriously anymore, after he raged half an hour against some colleagues for rather petty reasons.

[Asker]

Tbh in the work context i also would never rage in front of people, it’s just bad timings and the consequences is real. And honestly i come from a violent Asian family, but since we came from asia there’s a time and place for everything. We might not express our anger at work, but we will when it comes to people that aren’t stakeholders to our financial/housing security

[DryGermanGuy]

www.theguardian.com/.../the-one-change-that-worked-i-was-trembling-with-anxiety-when-i-found-a-fun-free-way-to-get-calm

[Phoenix98]

Nothing ever did I when I used to get anger my anger, rage would be so intense and visceral that on occasion everything would be tinted red.

But I trained myself and taught myself to temper my emotions and I haven't gotten genuinely angry in years.

[Apulu_backagain]

Crying and then drinking water. I cry whenever I'm angry and after a time it calms me down.

[beenherebefore]

For me is going home and talking to my Partner.

[Still-alive]

i just need a breather. ill stop whatever it is that i was doing and just watch a bunch of cat videos or maybe play a cozy video game like animal crossing.

[jahaims]

I'm emotionally healthy so that doesn't happen