Have you ever apologized for giving your opinion to someone in the moment?

[DishLady]

Was at a party.

Some gal I’ve never met before sat squarely in front of me and stared at my chest while she sipped her wine. "Girl, I've gotta tell you -- and let me preface by saying I'm totally straight and not trying to be weird here, but -- you've really just got the perfect boobs."

I didn't react, presuming I misheard bc (1) she had no reason to be so familiar with me, (2) the room was loud, and (3) there's no way anyone would actually be THAT rude, right?

Wrong... And there she was, still staring.

A guy who overheard craned his neck to get a look.

I raised my eyebrow and look at the guy, who quickly clears his throat and walks away. Then I look at the gal. "Sorry, it’s so loud in here I didn't understand you."

So she said it again.

I rocked back on my heels, my drink in hand casually shifting up to cover the goods praying my date would show up soon. "Thank you. You're very... direct. I like your dress." (A very nice conservative dress... You'd never know she was such a rude little pervert. Smh.)

Was so relieved when my date (another long story) materialized to save me from this bold chick.

I’ve said stuff to people that’s very direct, but I usually preface with an apologetic “Not to be too direct, but…” or “Stop me when you feel I’m being too nosy…” bc I understand that MY boundary of propriety might be higher or lower set than those of the folks I’m talking to.

What do you do when you’re about to say something too personal or too direct to someone?

[Daytoday79]

I would never say that, that's just crude and lewd. I admit I might glance at a woman's boobs for a fraction of a second if I thought they were impressive and then quickly look away, but the last thing I want is to be noticed doing that.. it's just really not cool.

[DishLady]

Glancing no one really cares about. I know I looked nice in that outfit. Actually the kindest compliment a fellow can offer is to subtly glance then find a polite reason to stick around.

[Daytoday79]

Yes, good point. I think most guys with manners will briefly glance at a woman's chest and it's telling. And if course they'll keep it to themselves but often guys will briefly imagine her topless but will be gentlemen and talk to her and try to get to know her better as a person, if they're decent people

[DishLady]

Is that true? 😂 ooof.

[Daytoday79]

Yeah in many cases, at least two guys I know admitted it 😭

[DishLady]

Hahaha. I’ll try not to think that next time someone stares. I’d end up super self conscious!

[Daytoday79]

Well I like to think most mature guys don't think that way, it's maybe a little more common with younger guys who haven't had a serious relationship before.

[Daytoday79]

And thanks for the mho by the way! 🙂

[DishLady]

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[slatyb]

I wouldn't make a comment about someone's body. I might compliment their clothing or hair, but I'm not going to compliment their figure.

[DishLady]

Precisely.

[OlderAndWiser]

What passes as acceptable conversation now is certainly far different from what was okay when I was a kid. When I was in high school, a girl would probably be suspended for announcing that she had started her period; that seems to be acceptable today.

[DishLady]

Yeah everything is too over the top now.

[MicahRaine]

Yes. One of my coworkers was a real piece of work. . . and not in a good way. One day she was venting to our bosses about some guy sending mixed signals (he couldn’t have been more clear that he didn’t like her) and our bosses were being nice and going “yeah I don’t know, that’s so confusing” etc, the whole nine yards. This when on for a bit and then before I knew it I said “girl he doesn’t like you at all.” Of course I immediately apologized because it was pretty rude, but at that point it was too late and the bosses were laughing 😂

[HawkPerception]

I'll be honest DL. I get that you're a conservative and respectable lady and all, but I've genuinely thought women were usually comfortable saying those kinds of things to each other. They're more open with those kinds of things.

Guys on the other hand, can't say anything to guys or it comes across as gay and we DEFINITELY can't say stuff like that to women, unless there's a special relationship between us (either a partner or friend we've known for many years and know each other pretty damn well).

I think it's fine to just take the compliment in that scenario and not be awkward about it.

As for myself... yeah I've found myself in that scenario many times, where I gave an opinion to others and saw their faces immediately change, I would have to apologize. It's part of the package when bluntness is one of your traits.

[DishLady]

In all my years I’ve never said “NICE BOOBS” to anyone. I’ll say, “I love that top on you. It really flatters your figure.” That’s the polite way to say it. And if a guy had said it I also would have been upset, particularly in context of where we were. It just wasn’t appropriate at all, HP. Seriously.

[HawkPerception]

Well your experience isn't everyone else's. She probably grew up around those who were more comfortable or used to it. I see it just as having no filter and being open about things.

[HawkPerception]

I doubt she would have said it if she knew you'd be offended

[DishLady]

Not sure why you’re defending rude behavior… She was at an event. We were all from a particular social circle. It wasn’t appropriate.

[HawkPerception]

And I'm saying what you see as rude behavior isn't necessarily what everyone else finds rude. It's not about defending her.

[Orion84]

I generally consider myself a fairly direct person, and "political correctness" is not really a part of my vocabulary, but even I would never say something that direct, and especially not someone I didn't even know.

There are certain boundaries you just don't cross in polite conversation, and that is one of them. If I was intimately familiar with someone, then sure, but not a stranger. That's just... wow levels of inapporopriate.

Assuming I did want to say something personal, and/or borderline inappropriate to someone, I would at least ask first, before just blurting it out like that.

[spartan55]

It's like you carry a magnet in your purse attracting these... people.
I would say lighten up, she gave you a compliment.

[DishLady]

It was weird. Even my friend who is obsessed with boobs would never say anything like that. Anyway, you didn’t answer the question….

[spartan55]

No, I've never said anything like that to anyone.

[Ironco]

I have not... I rarely apologize for giving my opinion, if ever

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