Why do some guys need liquid courage?

[Anonymous]

I've known this guy for awhile. When I see him, he's pretty happy to see me, all smiles, goofy, loves to tease me...yet he can't look at me. He's pretty content to talk to me but just stares ahead, not looking at me only occasionally glancing at me. It isn't until he has had a few beers when he finally turns to me, looks me in the eye and even taps my on my hand or arm or nudges me playfully. Why the liquid courage? We have known each other for awhile. What does this mean?

[jhpua954]

He definitely likes you. Most women don't know this, but guy have a very strong fear of approaching girls and it take effort go push past it. As irrational as it is, it took me a long time to get over it. Most guys never do...thus the liquid courage.

[Asker]

Even if he knows me, and I full on flirt with him?...I even try and sit near him!

[jhpua954]

Yes...are you interested in him?

[Asker]

of course!

[jhpua954]

Then go for it. He will not reject you.

[Asker]

read my comments to the girl below. He doesn't text me, I text him. When I DO text him, he hardly ever texts back. or waits hours. If we can't sit with each other, we'll actually text each other a few seats down teasing each other. I notice that if I come to sit next to him each time, he doesn't like it, if I sit a seat or two away, he's better. Sometimes, he even goes out of his way NOT to sit by me. I usually go and say hi and he does what I said above...am I trying too hard?

[jhpua954]

What's with this "sitting" foolishness? You are not communicating clearly to him. Ask him out directly and in person otherwise be contented with your relationship as it is.

[Asker]

oh sorry - at a bar...the only place I see him

[Anonymous]

he is basically interested in you and is unsure of how you feel it isn't until he has a few drinks and lowered his inhibitions that he gains the courage to talk to you

[Asker]

I flirt with him and always approach him. He's rather shy and insecure. Is it possible that he for some STRANGE reason, thinks that I only think of him as a friend? ugh!

[Opinion Owner]

if he is really shy it could explain the need for the liquid courage further. The thing is a shy guy is not too likely to just start flirting with you etc. I think guys are shy due to lack of confidence at least that's how I used to be.

[Anonymous]

It means he is too shy in front of you and isn't comfortable with himself. People like this use alcohol as their scapegoat and their safety net. He is interested in you but this behavior is a total turn off.

[Asker]

even after knowing him for awhile? In fact, it's been like this for a long time...

[Opinion Owner]

Yes its possible for him to like you for a long time. The question is whether you feel comfortable with his insecurity issues.

[Asker]

I just want to be sure if he does like me because when I try harder I guess it comes off as too much and he backs away. He never texts me, I text him. However, he always gets jealous or becomes suddenly aware when I talk to other guys and does not ever stop teasing me! It drives me nuts in the good way so there's a lot of mixed messages! I'm too scared to tell him how I feel!

[Opinion Owner]

He's playing the chasing game, the point of it is to keep you guessing and wanting more. He definitely may be shy but he also has issues. Start ignoring him and have him text you from now on since you have done your fair share. If he is truly interested in you he will be the one to initiate. If he doesn't then he is not worth your time. There are plenty of guys who will not waste their time with a girl brave enough to text them first.

[alicel]

his nervous around you maybe kinda shy. he probably likes you

[Asker]

we play this cat and mouse game. Just when I think he's interested and text him, he doesn't text back. I realize that I'm always going to him so I must be coming on too strong because the second I stop, he goes out of his way to tease me and be goofy...even if I'm just sitting there and not talking. You still think he likes me?

[thedude1994]

yup I'm the same with girls I need some booze to start a convo with them he likes you

[Asker]

Even if you've known thm for a while?

[thedude1994]

nope I have no problem to talk to my girl friends the problem for me is to talk to new girls even more to girls that I like

[Anonymous]

He likes you, but fears being rejected. The liquid courage allows him to loosen up and get past his fears.

[Asker]

that drives me crazy because I'm the one that has to approach him. He's much to shy to approach me and this has been going on for MONTHS. Do guys really think , that although we're coming to YOU that you STILL think that we don't like you? That for some reason, we look at you as friends? OY! Why don't we just make it clear by showing up to you guys topless! lol

[Opinion Owner]

Topless... LOL indeed.

Both sexes will continue to baffle each other for decades to come. Shy guys can often be a little different than the more forward variety that you are likely used to, Sometimes need different or a more direct approach.

Being shy, myself, I would appreciate a girl being more forward. Maybe you should risk being direct with him. I'm not guaranteeing anything, but the odds are in favor of advancing your relationship.

Good Luck :)

[Anonymous]

I use powder courage and it works a lot better.