What makes some guys so desperate?

Question

I’ve had a lot of desperate guys ask me out. Some of them offered to pay me for a date but most of the time it was constant begging which turned me off.

I always wondered what made them so desperate.

i1T2daty · Accepted Answer

Guys aren't desperate, they are determined. I'm not talking about a group of guys, simply one on one. I think t=tht already establishes some intimacy I can't speak for most guys, only myself, When I got over 35, my tastes started to change to feeling I had the ultimate power over a lover when my tongue had already excited he a lot ans we're closiong in on the (at least) First O. I can feel the catch in her breath as the orgasmic waves start to flow and now she has very little choice. Shorrt of a fire, she wants to cum soon. I want to stretch that out until she just can't stand any more sensations until their wonders of her own orgasm (s) squirm b=her pelvis and start her pelvic thursts. Hopefull yshe will be the type that once is the first O has happened, she will experience weytter and more intense orgasms each time thereafter. I also love keeping softened ice cubers in a glass and just as she's coming slide two inside both her pussy and her ass.

I'm just as desperate to repeating that as much or more than anything but I've noticed that girls who hav cum a few times and still want stim., will be anlot more experiemnta;. Its like theyv'e gottern permission to be nasty. Much to my delighty

BatmanofGotham · Accepted Answer

It’s gonna sound sexist but it’s because in today world women hold all of the power when it comes to sex, if a girl wanted to have sex she could literally just go out and find it whereas withguys it’s hard enough just to get a date which is the very first step to sex, and in that situation a million things have to go one of two ways to lead to sex all of which are controlled by the woman. That’s my opinion anyway

Leimarie · Accepted Answer

Eek! I would be offended if I was offered payment for a date. That’s a new low.
I imagine either they know that you are out of their league so they will do anything to be with you or they just have low self-worth and think they must bribe a girl in order to have a date. Either way it is really sad to think about.

Salsacumbia · Accepted Answer

It's not that they are desperate its them wanting affection.. . And if you're cool they want it from you to tell them they are special in many ways. It's a compliment to you... but that's just me. I get that too! 😊 i dont mind it... it just means i am cool!

BrittBratt2416 · Accepted Answer

Maybe they don't have a lot of luck with women and been rejected a lot. They are probably lonely and want the company of a woman cause they never been in a relationship.

vikrant_chib · Answer

Lack of Options.
First of we have to realize that men get attracted to women for different reasons. For men selection of mate depents on how fit the girl is meaning the waist to hip ratio and symmetrical facial features, which you girl take care of with makeup. Woman on the other hand are attached to the personality of the man caz she has to be sure that the guy is emotionally strong and can take care of her and her offsprings.
Secondly Lack of option, doesn't matter how advanced we get in society and technology the human brain is still working with evolution. A man's psychology while talking to a girl should be to be himself but rather they try to impress the girl by boasting and pretending to be someone else and it is a whole new task which takes effort. So men tend to stick to one person at any cost just because of the uncertainty of what will happen in the future (will he be able to impress another girl) just because of that fear man tend to get needy.

They boon on our society is that one the one hand they have helped woman get over they never growing self esteem with makeup and other surgical techniques but the shame is that men are still not taught to be themselves.

Side Note: The desperation of guys for you is good, try to understand it from the perspective of the guy. If guy stop being desperate and needy it would be a hard time for girl to find a guy for them.
You shuld help the guy learn from him, teach him and grow together. Caz thats wht life is all about.

fjh80 · Answer

Impatient society we now live in. Everything people want is available almost Instantly.
There's also a sense of entitlement with millenials.

In my day (because I'm SO old lol), we had patience. We enjoyed the "game" or the "chase".

You gotta make a girl want you. You gotta make a girl feel like she's worth the effort.

If you pressure a girl. If you can buy her, she's not worth it.
If you beg a girl that sends a message, "I beg for what I want, and I don't earn anything."

A man's gotta be a man. I think women can tell the difference.

Juan1312 · Answer

Usually It's becuase they dont have game in my opinion, either that or they really are desperate to have a girlfriend. They can also come off as desperate when sometimes they really aren't. What I would do is start a conversation with a girl, talk about similar interests if there are any, build rapport, flirt a little, make jokes and compliment her and then ask for her number or offer to hang out somewhere. If she denies, ill try convincing her. Though if she denies a second time, I'm not gonna waste my time, she is not interested so I move on. Most guys are just stupid on how to talk to girls.

BS123456 · Answer

Insecurity, being raised by a single mother, continued rejection by women are just three possibilities I can think of.
Just curious, why would you consider them to be desperate? Typically a male is desperate when he goes after the ugliest of females. Since you say this happens a lot maybe next time have a tad bit of empathy and tell them what you find so pathetic as to be a turn-off and suggest how he can man up. Many guys of this era were raised by a single mother and never had any male influence to teach them. Yes, there's an entire generation of what a girl-friend of mine and I call male pussies, a product of guy's being raised by single women who were taught to pee sitting down.

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

There's not just one thing that can make a guy desperate, there are quite a few reasons for that...
It could be that the guy has not been in a relationship for quite a long time, could be that he looks back at his life and realizes that he is not getting any younger and wants to settle down soon, could also be that he just hasn't had sex in a very long time. Maybe they are just really lonely or have social anxiety or something like that and can't make friends so they look to find relationships instead...

A-man-22 · Answer

Society does. Men get almost no women asking them out so it can feel lonely if the ones you try with reject you.
As a man I can tell you that it is very depressing not getting anyone ask you out on occasion. Desperation is just people who have been lonely too long.

thecd1979 · Answer

It’s a lack of confidence and most likely co dependency issues that are driving this. They’ve also bought into the whole idea that society has thrown out there that you need to have a partner in your life in order to be complete and happy, so they’re desperately looking for someone. A confident and happy guy can function and be ok without a partner in their lives.

JohnFrost · Answer

I would say lonely. Some people need some love and want to love others. It's not about the person just about the love. But it's a vicious cycle you are scared you will always be alone but you get more desperate and then it gets even harder to find someone.

Ak1rA · Answer

Guys believe that finding a a woman (either for sex or relationship) is generally harder than the opposite gender. That's why they will do things WAY more extreme than normal just to have a chance with you. And unfortunately the indoctrination we get from society that we have to push it to the limit EVERY damn time in order to "score". Taking no as an answer isn't acceptable for the median male. in my opinion it's terrible as a way of life but for some of us, it's all they know.

winterfox10 · Answer

For many guys chasing women is less of a question of who they can get with, and more about who they would rather waste their time on. Guys are taught that persistence is the key to getting the girl. If you are pretty, but not like supermodel pretty, a lot of guys will see you as more accessible and will try to win you over any way that they can.

TallAnon · Answer

Constant lonelyness, feeling of neglect, being alone for extended periods of time, trying to build a social life in any possible way.

Personally I live on my own in a country where I have tops 3 real friends, I get starry eyed when I get a text message, lol. I get why some guys go on a limb trying their best to start something to change a situation like that.

FractiousMoss · Answer

I've definatly been this guy but I'd put it down to a lot of my younger life I was bullied and because of this women thought I was a loser so I would get told by a lot of women I am a loser at the same time at home I was living with a single mum who verbally abused me making me feel worthless I've had to deal with depression my whole life as far back as I can remember which didn't make it easy so any time a women showed a shred of kindness I did become quiet desperate to be with and talk to them

AxlStahlmann · Answer

Firstly, I like it that you have the mark from Dishonored as your profile picture. Haha
But anyway, I think guys get desperate for several reasons. Social pressure, self-pressure that may stem from social pressure, biological pressure, and maybe others.

1CentWorth · Answer

After going dry for a while, men begin to lose confidence in their own masculinity and they forget what it is to be a man. what's left is only an outer husk of a man... unless he finally scores sex and start to feel confident again.

alimusharfx111 · Answer

I already turned down by a girl that I secretly love , we are having a good convo first then I show my interest and I don't know what happen then she stoped making any contact, i tried many times but no response , then one day I called her , finally she picked up and I want to ask her what happen? Why don't u replying me? I apologised for anything that hurt but she said "np" . she know I was concerned about her... So here I am desperate guy.. you are talking about guy like me?

Anonymous · Answer

hahahaahaah lol no
most guys are not desperate

they seem desperate to you
cause of their conditioning just like you are conditioned

just to give you an idea 1 in ever like 8 to 9 guys are desperate
and I know this cause im a guy

and girls have called me desperate when in reality
I never was

you are just conditioned
which honestly does not make you very smart
I can even show you how conditioned you
just based off your words I can tell what you are thinking

Anonymous · Answer

lack of love in their life. but they are using a conter intuitive strategy which dooms them to even more loneliness. they should be taught to break the vicious circle.

Astraea · Answer

I can't say anyone has ever offered to pay me for a date lol Some guys can act desperate though...

educi · Answer

Its because sometimes they are totaly alone because of rejection during shool times it depends, some of them are just assholes the other part are very nice people but the assholes bully them so that built insecurity and that make them desperate to feel loved or at least be wanted by someone.
Some of them get suicide after trying toó much depresion is bad.

wesb89 · Answer

Well I honestly think it's starts with early childhood insecurities. Or lack of attention from their mothers. Results in them seeking for attention and leads to adult issues such as jealousy, self consciousness, and about behavior.. that is my opinion. Basically vice versa of the phrase Daddy issues within some women..

MisticDAV · Answer

More than likely these guys have either been without a woman for so long n haven't even tried so they feel desperate n result to just trying anything to make a connection or they are lonely n can't even get a convo out of a girl or they r pigs n get hookers n just dgaf about u n how u feel or ur self worth so they offer money

Beidy_747 · Answer

If you have a big nice ass and big ass boobs and a fucking nice body then that is why.

Tomblebee · Answer

Saying please is just petistooling and automaticallly puts you at an upper hand sooooo DON'T DO THAT FULLAS.

s0m3do0d · Answer

Sigh, nothing Makes them that way--that's just who they are. For every desperate guy there's an easy girl somewhere. You should level up your social interaction stat so that you're dealing in more quality gentleman.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are desperate. For real.

Nature designed males to basically be ready to risk death to get mating opportunities. Men who quietly lived alone and died are gone from the gene pool and modern men are not descended from them.

unicorn1978 · Answer

I agree some guys are like that normally the one's who are supposed to be players are actually the ones practically begging

Anonymous · Answer

Imagine if no one ever approached you and 9/10 people you approached said no. Would make you a bit desperate no?

Anonymous · Answer

They just haven't discovered how much more fun it is to have high standards and self control. Women sense this and they are the ones that become desperate. Tell that to most guys and they would never understand.

redcheeks · Answer

Fine to be desperate but constant begging is a no no. Turn off for anyone.  In terms of why. Might just want to get in you pants maybe hahaha

Lance1965 · Answer

That is a good question and it amazing how low a mans standards will drop when they are desperate. Guys will beg, lie... whatever it takes once they reach a truly desperate level. I am not proud of it but I have done it.

torwulf · Answer

Because they where never taught how to be men, as a result they have no idea how to attract women (who are attracted to masculinity). Which results in little to no success and desperation quickly follows.

Anonymous · Answer

It sounds like you're very full of yourself, I'd work on that if I were you.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

I'm shocked I've never seen guys pay for a date I thought that was something that only happens in movies but I guess some guys have a hard time getting a date

ghost_leader07 · Answer

Being in love with someone who doesn't feel the can turn someone desperate but having to pay for a date sounds stupid and has nothing to do with love. So I can't pin down the reason behind it x

Proz11 · Answer

Men are more attracted to women than women are to men, dating is easy for women.

navyrobin · Answer

They can’t be independent. They depend on women’s approval too much. It’s fucking pathetic

CaptainLegal · Answer

SEX. Yup, SEX, they are virgins that think they will end up alone all their life if they don't have sex.

Caaarl · Answer

Lack of maturity and self worth. They'll learn to respect themselves as they get older.

Didi1337 · Answer

I wanted to say some have trouble getting some, and some might just really need it suddenly. Anyways who is and who isn't i don't care about

clh72481 · Answer

There small penis size! 😂

DamnMan · Answer

Maybe they think you are their only hope, especially when you have video game tats of the Outsider like that.  Do you game?

IV155 · Answer

Sexual frustration, loneliness, the need for reasurement, you name it

CuriousGirlx95 · Answer

Sexual frustration. Sometimes they really do just like you. But you never know until you get to know the guy.

smokey_420 · Answer

Just depends you get 2 types boys yeah one will tell you your hearts desires in wants to get in your knickers were is the other one will just be all sarcastically joking abou

valualty · Answer

High testosterone and exessive addictive wanking lol

gabrielesh · Answer

A lot of guys online don't know how to to interact with people.

noah_112 · Answer

Some are just very ambitious and don't know when to stop

royhobbs · Answer

They are desperate because you must be good looking and they want to get some of that really bad

Hagashi · Answer

Either they were thirtsy af, or you are some girl worth it

Anonymous · Answer

Imagine if this were the other way around. You don't seem girls doing this to guys.

GingerGuy · Answer

Girls saying no all the time of course lol

Anonymous · Answer

It's much more difficult for men to get a date than a woman.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Lack of success.

OralMayhem · Answer

One word... T-E-S-T-O-S-T-E-R-O-N-E

flowery123 · Answer

They think with their dicks

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

What do you mean "begging?"

leledolan · Answer

They are thinking about their dicks

Anonymous · Answer

Damn you must be hot then...

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

looking for love? l am nice looking lol

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