Why do guys have to do a lot of things to be tough or strong or a man at work and in life?

[Anonymous]

why do guys have to do a lot thing to be tough or strong or a man at work and in life? Like I get yell at for not have a job or the right job , I not fast or strong enough at work. I do not make enough money. I can not lift 1000lb. If I was fast enough I still get yell at for having and easy job. I feel like I have to go to outer space and pull the moon out of the sky and drop it at someone feet to make them happy and to be a guy. I feel like I have to work 60hr a week in a coal mine making 50 usd in an hour to be a guy. I mean all work want is strong guy as slaves. why do I have to prove that I am a guy. I not a guy cause I can not stop a women from doing bad thing or control her or get her enough money. I can not fix my life. I know everything wrong in my life is fault. I know it up to me to fix it. I just want a job where I do something important and interesting a job that someone off the street can not do. I do not care about money or what other say I just need enough to live on and a job that I can handle and do well that I like. I want to work hard just not for nothing. Why do guys have pull the moon out of the sky? Why we get so much crap from people? Why we have to take crap from people? why do have to have the best of everything? It hard to have everything.

[MrOracle]

Lots of men feel this way, and you aren't completely wrong, but you also need to remember that you have more control over your own life than you think. You may need to work hard at a terrible job in the beginning, in order to get started, but if you are smart, and save your money, and DON'T try to have an Instagram lifestyle (even the people who appear to have that lifestyle are usually just faking it for clicks), then you will open up some other options for yourself.

Try to figure out something you enjoy doing that is also a skill that is valued enough that you can get paid for doing it. Maybe you like to write, or edit videos, or cook, or whatever. Do that on the side, build up your skills, and once you have gotten your skill level up, you can find a job doing the thing you like and you can quit your crappy job that you hate.

As a man, you're always going to feel some pressure - there's no social safety net for men - but you don't need to abandon the control of your life to someone else completely. Build your own value, and you'll start having more and better choices available to you, and your life will improve.

[Anonymous]

Everything you listed has nothing to do with being a macho guy. Everyone has to work, and the sort of job you do is up to you. If you choose physical labor as your job because you do well at it, then you have to at least be efficient. A boss demanding you do well Dan happen in any job you get, what matters is the boundaries you set for that job. Like for me, I won’t bust my ass for minimum wage, or not getting paid extra for doing two people’s amount of work. For you, if you want to find something fun and enjoyable then find that job. But don’t blame it on proving yourself as a man.