If a girl I've been dating says, 'I enjoy your company', does it mean she likes me?

[j2016]

I've been on 5 dates with her over a month's time and she just began initiating contact as well (she was raised old-fashioned). Does she like me?

[mariamarmar]

i'd have to say that she does. I mean, I would say that to someone I liked especially if I was raised in an "old fashioned" manner. I think she does like you :) make the most of it!

[j2016]

Thank you. It's what I've sensed, but things are much more complex when one is in the eye of the hurricane. I'm a very confident person, but when someone that special comes into your life, you can't help but feel at least a bit of craziness in your head.

[mariamarmar]

of course! I'm totally in the same situation but with a shy guy. you're lucky she at least tells you stuff straight up! best of luck xoxo

[j2016]

It wasn't that straight up from her, I had to point out that I like seeing her, but that I'm unsure how important it is for her to see me, since she'd not initiated any contact before. I have no problem taking on the role a man should take, I've 'chased' a bit, while still maintaining my dignity, but I feel I've proven myself over the past 5 weeks so that she feels enough trust in knowing I'm genuinely interested in her, not just that 'one' thing'.

[j2016]

Thank you again, you've provided some reassurance in something I was already feeling. :)

[Stacyzee]

Its a good sign. Obviously she enjoys your company being that she is accepting all of your dates.

[italykam]

Yes she absolutely likes you. Old fashioned + saying something like that = good.

[sweet_18]

yes it does mean that she likes you. Wait, no, she hates you.

[bassman]

By contact do you mean physically, or through communication, or both?

[j2016]

She just started calling on her own, without having to be returning a call.

[bassman]

This is called INCOMING. It goes without saying that its a good sign. Is she calling to ask you out...see how you're doing or what?

[j2016]

Yes, and wanting to arrange a time to meet again, we haven't gone out in a couple weeks. I've moved very carefully, I've done 'the chase' already, so I feel she's letting her guard down a bit. Over the past couple weeks I've allowed some distance between us, to allow her to reflect and make the next move.

[bassman]

Good...you seem smarter than most guys. So what's your interest level in her? 80%? or higher? How much time did you let pass between communication? Couple weeks? wow.. I would advise letting no more than 10 days go by between dates if possible.

[j2016]

I'm definitely in the 90% range with her. I didn't mean I cut off contact with her for two weeks. I initiated contact once every 4-5 days, very brief, just to keep me in her thoughts, that's all.

[bassman]

Thats really high IL (interest level) for you man. I normally only call every 5-9 days to see about another date. HINT. They think about you more when you're NOT calling them often. I read above that you told her you like seeing her. I recommend SHOWING her that you do. Keep your verbal feelings a mystery for now. Don't ask her to be your girlfriend. She should be asking you on the next date or 2 about becoming exclusive. She should bring it up if her IL is still rising. I think you're in great shape.

[j2016]

By showing her you mean making a move physically?...Oh, and of course, I'm not letting on about my feelings any more than I already have. I brought that up in a conversation I had recently, where I was basically saying I'm a busy person who doesn't want to be the only one investing my time and effort. She seems to have gotten the message, she seems more communicative since then.

[bassman]

No..nothing physical except for a kiss at the end of the dates. In the future the girl has to know without you saying it...that if she doesn't act right ...then you'll walk. If she thinks your awesome...but knows she could lose you...and is not sure if you're dating other girls ..then typically they will ask about becoming exclusive around the 5-6 date. That is if you've played your cards right. By showing her I mean treating her very well (like a lady) on the dates.

[j2016]

Definitely, I have never let on whether I'm seeing someone else or not. I have no issues getting dates. I really don't mean to toot my own horn, but I sowed my wild oats for about four years in my twenties, with a vengeance, so I know how to play THAT game, I could just use a bit of guidance in actually finding a girl that's worth really getting to know. It's two completely separate games, in my view, and I appreciate your advice, thanks. It will be put to good use. :)

[j2016]

You play bass? (just gathering from your username) I also noticed you're from Norman, home of Wayne and The Flaming Lips, one of my favorite band. :)

[j2016]

*bands

[bassman]

Nope...Bass as in the little green fish.

[j2016]

I lived in Shawnee for a couple years in '99-'00, livin' outside of Baltimore now. Thanks for the help today, your advice was put to good use.

[bassman]

Cool! You're welcome. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Don't think too much into it, just something nice she said :)

[j2016]

I was right. I saw her tonight and things went very well. We're meeting again in a couple days, things are good. Thank you for the input.