Accidently Slapped my Boyfriend

[bcampbe6]

My boyfriend of 8 months and I got into a heated argument outside of a concert the other night. We both had been drinking and things just got out of control. I told him he was being rude to me, he said he wasn't I wanted to talk about it right then but he didn’t. I kept trying to get him to talk to me, but he wouldn't. He then called me a bitch and I reacted by slapping him across the face (not hard). As soon as I did it I said sorry like 500 times. I couldn’t believe I did that, but it was just a naturally reaction. I have been saying sorry, but he wants nothing to do with me. I know I was in the wrong, but I feel like he was too. What should I do? We have gone 4 days without talking. I was hoping we both would cool down and maybe work it out.

[TheUglyOne]

Um, how do you "accidently" slap? Perhaps you both should be careful when drinking lol.

Sorry to say this, but when you slapped him, you put in his mind that you are physically abusive. I'm not saying you are, but he thinks so now. And not saying he's innocent either, name calling is almost, but not as bad as physical violence. Further complicating things was alcohol. Alcohol is known to reduce inhibitions and impair judgement.

You apologized, you admitted slapping was wrong. It's up to him to come around, if he chooses. You can try meeting him where he hangs out, apologize just one more time, explain you want to make it work.

And in the future, if alcohol is going to make both you act crazy, try to limit your drinking.

[bcampbe6]

You are correct about the drinking. We have never had any fights like this before. I think he was more embarrassed than hurt by me slapping him.

[7gnat]

Would you of answered this the same if the genders were swapped?

[TheUglyOne]

yeah. where did I justify her violence lol?

[7gnat]

Not pushin you at all. Just read your answer again please then if you want then answer my question.

[7gnat]

From your view and many of the answers on here the double standard exists. Amazing how women want dinners paid, doors opened, can slap a guy in the face and have special privileges and men should just stfu.

[7gnat]

lol @ the idiot girl who said try me of course you blocked me. You talk and say you could take a hit from a man after hitting him lol you cannot even take comments from a guy. Pretty thin skinned for a big talker.

[peace-love-couture]

Hitting someone because of words has got to be the worst excuse ever. Should we resort to hitting everyone who says something nasty to us? We'd have no one working in customer service if that was the case

Both of you are in the wrong, but you should have NEVER laid your hands on him.

I know a similar question was asked by a female months ago who said she said something nasty to her boyfriend and he slapped her. Not surprisingly, guys defended him and said she should never belittle him

In both cases, words don't warrant violence. You don't accidentally hit someone and it isn't a natural reaction.

[7gnat]

Good answer from a chick with a helluva tan

[peace-love-couture]

; )

why thank you

[PoeticNinja]

He called you a bitch and you slapped him. - That's fair.

You guys were drunk, had a bad night. Shit happens.

Although, you should know not to make a scene in public. He didn't want to talk right then, you should of respected that and waited till the next day when you're both sober to talk about whatever was going on.

Just call him and say you want to talk things out and would like to apologize for that night.

- If he doesn't answer, leave a voice mail and from there, the ball is in his court.

[Robotic]

If you called a guy an a**hole can he slap you?

[PoeticNinja]

Hell no. - I see that equality comes into play. It doesn't always stay though. xDD

[PoeticNinja]

Oh wow. - You slapped your boyfriend (and according to you, it wasn't that hard of a slap) and mostly the guys on here are going ape sh*t. It's a f***ing slap. It's not a continuous bitch slap.

And they try to put the reverse situation on you.

[Robotic]

Again... can a guy slap you if you called him an a**hole and he didn't slap you very hard?

[PoeticNinja]

He wouldn't dare to lay his finger on me. And no, he can't.

Double standards play in this situation. Like it or not.

Trying to reverse something doesn't help the situation.

[Robotic]

no they do not. if a woman lays a hand on me like that she's done. I won't accept that sh*t

[PoeticNinja]

Cry me a river. One slap when you guys happened to be drunk.

It's not like she's going to be chasing your ass down the street with a butchers knife.

[Robotic]

Can you take a slap to the face by a guy?

[PoeticNinja]

No. A man can take a punch, why not a slap from a female.

I'm not saying what she did was right but come on. Under the influence of alcohol, anger = a slap in the face and name calling. Both were being immature.

[Claretica]

So you want privilege without accountability?

You sound like a child.

[PoeticNinja]

Then move along mister.

[Southerngal10]

Sure he made you mad, but you used physical violence. Unacceptable. You took it to a place that it didn't need to go. Had he slapped you, you may not be willing to talk either. I'm not trying to sound mean, I'm just trying to be honest. Its most likely over. He knows your sorry, but he is probably not willing to be in a relationship with someone who would lay their hands on him, regardless if alcohol was involved. Its not an excuse. Leave him alone. If he decides to forgive you he will do that when he is ready.

[7gnat]

This answer should be featured on gag

[aMuse]

Cool lips. =D I agree with this. If it were me, it would be over then and there. If you were in my place I'd kick you out and tell you get lost. If we were out drinking at a bar I'd leave you on the side of the road to figure sh*t out on your own. Hitting someone because they call you a name isn't a reason. If I tuned a girl up for calling me a name they'd take me down to the station. I think the break up would be the least of my worries...

[7gnat]

Great comment amuse and this girl gives great answers. This answerer has common sense and is a modern woman but is respectful at the same time.

[Southerngal10]

Lol thanks guys :) you're awesome.

[Anonymous]

Pretty bad move.

Let it be. If he hit you, you'd be long gone. All you can do is wait until he cools off and then see if he's open to discussing the situation. I wouldn't say you're an abuser for slapping someone one time, but I'd wager that you do have a tendency to lose your temper. I'd say that guys steam on things longer than girls do, so say your piece and let him work it out in his mind what he wants. Chances are, this isn't the first time that you two have come to this point, though maybe not quite as drastically. This makes me think you two have a communication problem.

[Anonymous]

he called you a bitch...it wasn't like you just slapped him out of nowhere.

give him more time to cool down I guess? you did say you were sorry immediately afterward (and several more times later) so if he can't find it in himself to forgive you then you don't need a boyfriend like that. Arguments happen but a couple in a healthy relationship should be able to forgive each other and also care when their partner feels upset.

[bcampbe6]

I tried to explain that to him, but he didn't seem to care. He still hasn't said sorry to me for calling me a bitch.

[3boys4me]

You physically abused him. He doesn't owe you a thing honey. Yah he was an ass for callin you a bitch but you brought it to a whole nuther level. Whether or not he decides to apologize is completely up to him. You crossed a major line and you just may have blew it for good.

[TheThirdSeason]

Oh god, it probably wasn't that bad of a slap, his jaw didn't break ? Did it?

You shouldn't fight with him around people, this is so embarrassing, he won't get over it that easy but he will unless he is so bitter then forget it.

[TheThirdSeason]

Leave him for a couple days then Call him , till he answers and if he answers,ask him to meet you and then apologies or I give you a solution, when you see him, wipe the slap and kiss him where you slapped him and say sorry. he will get over it quickly lol joking but it will solve the problem really hahaha unless he is so bitter. Try it won't hurt him .

[Belgie]

And if a guy slaps a girl, do you still decide it's okay so long as her jaw didn't break?

[TheThirdSeason]

<_< no, you are right ,I personally don't agree with violence, it is humiliating.

I do not know how guys feel about being slapped but some men find it a turn on "I heard " and it never hurts. It is like a child's slap. Not fair for you guys right?

Her hands aren't that strong or big but yea, I can't argue with you or say you are wrong.

[Claretica]

Doesn't matter if it hurt or not, it's the principle.

[TheThirdSeason]

If a girl slapped you, how would you feel about it? Humiliated? Or you lose your pride? or feel weak? What does it make you feel? Just curious.

Someone should make this question, I really want to see the deal in it.

[Anonymous]

Many girls answering this think it was okay to hit him because he called her a bitch.

If she had called him a name, and he had hit her, I wonder if they'd be so forgiving...

Somehow I doubt it.

[aMuse]

I know right...

[Anonymous]

Thank god most girls I know in real life aren't like most of the answers on this site. This site truly is a piece of work.

[3boys4me]

What he said^

[Anonymous]

Hey, I punched my boyfriend and I was fully sober. But he totally had it coming. You should say you're sorry and then do your best to make it up to him. Some guys don't recover from stuff like this.

Heck, my boyfriend hasn't yet. But he'll never tell me that if his child were dying in a fire that he'd only save it if it were a boy ever again. :P Anyway, you need to make it up to him.

[bcampbe6]

So you and your boyfriend are still together? How did you make it up to him?

[Opinion Owner]

I told him I was sorry and he told me if I did it again he'd hit me back :p I said that sounded like a fair trade.

[7gnat]

If I said I punched my girlfriend but she totally had it coming that would be cool yes?

[Opinion Owner]

Yup.

[7gnat]

Last time I punched someone I broke their eye socket, their nose and knocked a tooth out. Not sure how many people would be "cool" with that.

[Robotic]

That is until she calls the cops and files a restraining order on you...

[Opinion Owner]

The last time I got in a real fight with someone (me punching my boyfriend wasn't very hard) I broke their nose. I don't give what I can't take. Fair is fair.

[7gnat]

If I didn't call 911 the person I hit would of bled to death. What isn't fair is putting someone in a position to want to defend themselves but they can't because of laws and morality. You mam clearly could not "take what I gave back"

[Opinion Owner]

Try me.

[aMuse]

You're an abuser, sorry doesn't cut it. What you should do is stop being an abuser.

[Anonymous]

Its not really a big deal, he will probably get over it eventually. I'm thinking it was probably the argument, not the slap that made him angry with you.

[bcampbe6]

I also forgot to mention that we were around 2 other couples. He seemed more mad that I embarrassed him. But the other to couples said they would have done the same thing, even one of his guy friends.

[Opinion Owner]

Ah yeah that's probably why then. No guy wants to get embarrassed in public like that. You should try to go see him in person and apologize. Don't leave 17891237 voice mails or texts.

[bcampbe6]

I haven't text or called him since the incident (which has been 4 days). I was giving him some space. As soon as it happened I said sorry to our friends and they understood fights happen.

[7gnat]

And if the story was a guy slappin a girl you would still say no big deal?

[Anonymous]

So I can slap a female when she calls me a bastard?

[Opinion Owner]

And western women wonder why western men want a better woman.

[peace-love-couture]

This has nothing to do with western women...should we make statements about western men beating their women? Cause domestic abuse against women is far more common

[Opinion Owner]

Lol western men have laws to follow and are not even close to as abusive per capita as many African nations and almost all middle eastern nations. Move to Iran and see how a husband is allowed to treat his wife.

[Opinion Owner]

And you may of meant abuse against women is more the abuse against men. If so I agree with that even though abuse against men is much less reported then the abuse against women. There is a huge social stigma for reporting abuse from a female spouse. And this has much to do with western women. Since the 1960's many great and many bad things have come from women's lib.

[peace-love-couture]

We aren't talking about other nations. This behavior isn't limited to the US

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha

[Anonymous]

Just call him every so often and see if he picks up. If he doesn't pick up after a few more days, don't bother. He'll either come to you later on or he'll still want nothing to do with you.

[Dragan]

He called you a bitch and you slapped him. For me, it's okay. I would do the same to my girlfriend says bastard.

[7gnat]

Then you are an insecure idiot...no offense

[Dragan]

When someone tells you that you are bastard , you thank him, I would have slapped him or her, one slapped would not hurt too much.

[7gnat]

You really feel the need to assault someone when you are insulted? I am secure enough to know who I am and if insulted I brush it off.

[Anonymous]

lmao guys comments are overreacting! don't worry girl no big deal. guys can punch faces on each other and be friends after bahahaha

[Robotic]

Can a guy slap you if you called him an a**hole?

[TheThirdSeason]

Lol yea, you are right hahaha .

[aMuse]

Why you trolling granny. =P

Yeah we can fight a friend and get passed it, but then again we don't love our friends and are NEVER gentle, soft, vulnerable, carrying, etc. with them. You cross that line, and you lose that... There's no going back. Simple as that...

[Anonymous]

You don't accidentally slap somebody... I don't think there is much you can do