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My boyfriend of 8 months and I got into a heated argument outside of a concert the other night. We both had been drinking and things just got out of control. I told him he was being rude to me, he said he wasn't I wanted to talk about it right then but he didn’t. I kept trying to get him to talk to me, but he wouldn't. He then called me a bitch and I reacted by slapping him across the face (not hard). As soon as I did it I said sorry like 500 times. I couldn’t believe I did that, but it was just a naturally reaction. I have been saying sorry, but he wants nothing to do with me. I know I was in the wrong, but I feel like he was too. What should I do? We have gone 4 days without talking. I was hoping we both would cool down and maybe work it out.
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Um, how do you "accidently" slap? Perhaps you both should be careful when drinking lol.
Sorry to say this, but when you slapped him, you put in his mind that you are physically abusive. I'm not saying you are, but he thinks so now. And not saying he's innocent either, name calling is almost, but not as bad as physical violence. Further complicating things was alcohol. Alcohol is known to reduce inhibitions and impair judgement.
You apologized, you admitted slapping was wrong. It's up to him to come around, if he chooses. You can try meeting him where he hangs out, apologize just one more time, explain you want to make it work.
And in the future, if alcohol is going to make both you act crazy, try to limit your drinking.
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From your view and many of the answers on here the double standard exists. Amazing how women want dinners paid, doors opened, can slap a guy in the face and have special privileges and men should just stfu.
Hitting someone because of words has got to be the worst excuse ever. Should we resort to hitting everyone who says something nasty to us? We'd have no one working in customer service if that was the case
Both of you are in the wrong, but you should have NEVER laid your hands on him.
I know a similar question was asked by a female months ago who said she said something nasty to her boyfriend and he slapped her. Not surprisingly, guys defended him and said she should never belittle him
In both cases, words don't warrant violence. You don't accidentally hit someone and it isn't a natural reaction.
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He called you a bitch and you slapped him. - That's fair.
You guys were drunk, had a bad night. Shit happens.
Although, you should know not to make a scene in public. He didn't want to talk right then, you should of respected that and waited till the next day when you're both sober to talk about whatever was going on.
Just call him and say you want to talk things out and would like to apologize for that night.
- If he doesn't answer, leave a voice mail and from there, the ball is in his court.
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Sure he made you mad, but you used physical violence. Unacceptable. You took it to a place that it didn't need to go. Had he slapped you, you may not be willing to talk either. I'm not trying to sound mean, I'm just trying to be honest. Its most likely over. He knows your sorry, but he is probably not willing to be in a relationship with someone who would lay their hands on him, regardless if alcohol was involved. Its not an excuse. Leave him alone. If he decides to forgive you he will do that when he is ready.
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Pretty bad move.
Let it be. If he hit you, you'd be long gone. All you can do is wait until he cools off and then see if he's open to discussing the situation. I wouldn't say you're an abuser for slapping someone one time, but I'd wager that you do have a tendency to lose your temper. I'd say that guys steam on things longer than girls do, so say your piece and let him work it out in his mind what he wants. Chances are, this isn't the first time that you two have come to this point, though maybe not quite as drastically. This makes me think you two have a communication problem. - Anonymous(30-35)
he called you a bitch...it wasn't like you just slapped him out of nowhere.
give him more time to cool down I guess? you did say you were sorry immediately afterward (and several more times later) so if he can't find it in himself to forgive you then you don't need a boyfriend like that. Arguments happen but a couple in a healthy relationship should be able to forgive each other and also care when their partner feels upset. -
Oh god, it probably wasn't that bad of a slap, his jaw didn't break ? Did it?
You shouldn't fight with him around people, this is so embarrassing, he won't get over it that easy but he will unless he is so bitter then forget it. - Anonymous(45 Plus)
Many girls answering this think it was okay to hit him because he called her a bitch.
If she had called him a name, and he had hit her, I wonder if they'd be so forgiving...
Somehow I doubt it. - Anonymous(30-35)
Thank god most girls I know in real life aren't like most of the answers on this site. This site truly is a piece of work.
- Anonymous(30-35)
Hey, I punched my boyfriend and I was fully sober. But he totally had it coming. You should say you're sorry and then do your best to make it up to him. Some guys don't recover from stuff like this.
Heck, my boyfriend hasn't yet. But he'll never tell me that if his child were dying in a fire that he'd only save it if it were a boy ever again. :P Anyway, you need to make it up to him. You're an abuser, sorry doesn't cut it. What you should do is stop being an abuser.
- Anonymous(30-35)
Its not really a big deal, he will probably get over it eventually. I'm thinking it was probably the argument, not the slap that made him angry with you.
- Anonymous(45 Plus)
So I can slap a female when she calls me a bastard?
- Anonymous(30-35)
Just call him every so often and see if he picks up. If he doesn't pick up after a few more days, don't bother. He'll either come to you later on or he'll still want nothing to do with you.
387 opinions shared on Other topic. He called you a bitch and you slapped him. For me, it's okay. I would do the same to my girlfriend says bastard.
- Anonymous(30-35)
lmao guys comments are overreacting! don't worry girl no big deal. guys can punch faces on each other and be friends after bahahaha
- Anonymous(30-35)
You don't accidentally slap somebody... I don't think there is much you can do
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