Boyfriend's memory.. does it mean he doesn't care?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend doesn't remember when it's been like 6 months or any months, if I just mention "oh you know we've been dating for -- months?" with a smile he acts like it doesn't matter. Is this normal behavior for guys to not give a damn about how many months they've been dating their girlfriend? He was in a relationship for 7 years before so he probably doesn't think of months as anything now.

Also, sometimes he'll forget how he's introduced me to some of his family, or forget if I've been out there for Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner or anything and I'll have to remind him.

And lastly, recently he said "oh you met her, remember it was the Halloween before last? when we went out?" Me and him didn't know each other the Halloween before last.. not until 6 months after actually. So he confused me with a time he had with his ex. Is that a red flag? Him confusing things like this.. does it mean he doesn't really value our time together or am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?

[Ashley8282]

Mountain out of flat ground

Typically men have worse memories than women (women are better at multi tasking and remember small details)

Example, most mothers/women "run/organize" the house, they know when the garbage is due, when kims paino exam is, what time the grandparents are back from cuba, when the dogs water dish needs to be filled etc

My mom was gone for week when I was little and came back to disaster! Garbage day had passed, I missed my paino lesson lol you get the idea.

my dad has even forgotten how old I am..just the other night he said "you can't go to cuba your only 23"...i had to remind him I was 24.

It is nothing. Most/some men (and women) just have bad memories. It doesn't mean they don't care, they just don't remember

[Ammo186]

Yeh don't let that bother u..my boyfriend only seams to remember crap when we are fighting and I was in the wrong...but sitting there telling me our anniversary is going to be 2yrs when its going to b 3yrs..or he has a bad memory when it comes to everything else..guys can b horrible when it comes to anything worth while to females...sometimes

[Prettygurl12]

I don't even remember the months. My boyfriend does though. It's only a red flag if remembering the months is important to you.

[Belgie]

It's very normal behavior for guys.

Guys don't pay attention to dates and anniversaries. We're not built that way.

And when you've been with someone for 7 years, it's often easy for a guy to misremember the specifics of a date or location, and think you were there, when it was really the ex.

The best explanation I can give you, is that he is thinking of a happy time, a happy memory, and his brain associates YOU with happiness, not the ex.

It will almost never happen that he'll remember a sh*tty time or an explosive argument, and think it was you there, when really it was his ex. That'll never happen.

[K3v3n]

Damn..ok I've pulled this one too..and it wasn't that I didn't care..it kind of just went over my head you know..do personally the whole month thing..I've done that but mixing a girl and an ex..ouch..yea never done that..idk what to tell you about that..maybe he's just got terrible memory