How do introverted girls show interest?

[Anonymous]

I currently like an introverted girl and she really confuses me since she doesn't act like other girls. I mean she always notices me and smiles when she sees me, she's even given me her number and we've hung out before. She had fun and it seems like she's gotten more comfortable with me, but sometimes it seems like she's avoiding me and it makes me wonder if I'm annoying her. So I'm hoping some introverted girls can help me out and tell me how you show interest for a guy you like.

[Anonymous]

As a quiet girl myself, I don't really change my behavior from guys I'm interested in to guys who I view just as friends. The biggest thing I've noticed is that guys I view in a strictly platonic manner, I'm more comfortable with and joke around with them a lot more; however, I contribute this more to the fact that I've known them all for years whereas guys I'm attracted to I've usually just met them.

From what I've read, there could be two things going on with the girl you're into.

1. She likes you and avoids you because she feels self-conscious being around you (doesn't know how to act around a guy she likes, thinks you aren't as into her as you actually are, etc).

2. She likes you, but as a friend and wants to minimize any awkwardness of having to tell you that she isn't interested, so even though she enjoys your company she still avoids you.

I know it sucks, but the only real way to find out what she feels is to hang out with her more often. If she seems iffy about spending time alone with you, suggest a group activity. Don't come on too strong, but make it obvious that you enjoy spending time with her. When her walls come down a little, it will be much much easier to see any signs of attraction.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's exactly what I'm wondering right now, if she's just a friend or something more. She's never actually called me a friend and never talks about guys around me, but I still don't know what she thinks. We have hung out once before, and I asked her to hang out a couple weeks ago, but something came up both times. We're going to do something next weekend with a mutual friend and her boyfriend, but I'm not sure if it's supposed to be a double date or what.

[Anonymous]

The girl you're describing sounds SO much like me!!
I had a crush on this really extroverted guy but because I was so shy and introverted, I could never really show him how I felt so I would look annoyed when he paid attention to me and regret acting that way later on, but I couldn't help it!
She could really like you or like someone else said, sometimes, it's awkward when she doesn't feel the same way so even though she likes you as a person/friend, she might be avoiding to hint that she doesn't feel the same way.
If she does like you, then I'd advice to make her feel as comfortable with you as possible and be patient- she should open up to you. Good luck!

[FieryRedHeadGrl]

She's probably just shy and unsure about what to do. When I don't know what to say, I'm afraid I'll do something stupid or look weird, so I'll try and avoid putting myself into that situation. Just go up to her and start conversation. If she jumps in, then good, if she seems to want to back out cause she's uncomfortable, let her be. She's probably just trying to figure herself out too.

[Anonymous]

I once got into a "thing" with a girl that sounds exactly that. I grew so frustrated over the whole situation because I had a huge crush on her and I always knew inside she liked me based on the same reasons you gave. There were a many time when I wanted to to text her specific things but decided not to because I didn't want to seem desperate.

In all honesty, you just gotta give it time. Girls are like that unfortunately. It was only a matter of time before we grew attached. It eventually got to the point where we weren't dating yet we were sleeping together. Some things just happen like that, just try and be in the right "spot" in her mind when she wants to act on her feelings.

[confugirl]

She might just be avoiding you because she can't handle that much social interaction. Us introverted girls need a big break after socializing and can't do it every day, or at least not very long every day. She sounds interested though.

[TattedBeautyInk]

i can already tell you that she likes you. if she didn't like yo, she wouldn't notice you all the time and give you attention. now why do you think you are annoying her?

[Asker]

Sometimes it just seems like she's really annoyed, and I don't know if it's something else or the fact that I'm talking to her. I get a lot of attention from girls, and they're usually flirty and happy when talking to me, but being introverted, she acts differently. And her not being too open, I have no idea if giving her a lot of attention is bad.

[TattedBeautyInk]

being shy and introverted can make our actions confusing. The only way to know and find out is by hanging out with more and see how she acts around you.