How do introverted/shy girls show it when they are flirting with guys?

[megamanx2]

How do introverted/shy girls show it when they are flirting with guys.

[Lauren2410]

Believe me,i'm a shy girl.Shy girls usually don't make the first move(i've done it once and got rejected which made my self-esteem drop harder and I'm now more shy and self-concious) .They\ll either "admire" you from afar,or wait for you to do something or ..if you're already talking,they'll always be there,if you have a problem,even if you like another girl ect. Which is the main reason we get stuck in the friend zone (take me for example,i'm stuck in the friend zone,i'm close to my crush,we talk a lot online,almost everyday). For the flirting part, we're usually afraid to do that because we might not get the same response.I told you they live in the shadow. It took me a while to get used to my crush's flirty/pervy sometimes jokes and I've learnt to reaspond to them,even though he likes another girl,yet he talks sometimes to me like that. It's usually hard to tell if a shy girl likes you,they always seem like "just a friend" because of how nice they are. At least that's how I know from my point of view,me being shy.I'm much more open on the internet than face to face.

[Sib999]

I'll just smile a lot, laugh/joke and try to get in this easy going attitude where it's easy to talk about anything. If it's online chatting, I'll show I'm interested by replying with meaningful stuff (instead of only "lol" or smileys or stuff like that) and will ask about his interests i.e. music, videogames, movies, etc. so that I get to know him better and we have stuff in common to talk about. I usually only ask that stuff to people I'm really interested in, so that (at least in my eyes) is a huge giveaway.

I never make the first move, or do anything too obvious (not that there's anything wrong with that, though). I might dare to be a bit more straightforward, but only after we've talked/met for a while and I'm 200% sure he likes me back.

If you're crushing on a shy girl, I highly suggest you make it very noticeable so she can play along if she's interested. Just don't overdo it, that might intimidate her if you rush it.

Good luck!

[Sib999]

I forgot to add shy and introvert are not the same. Shy girls will think about you from afar, but will not dare to do anything else unless you approach them first. And even if you do, they can easily be mistaken for friends because they will never make it obvious that they like you.

That's why I said it might be a good idea to make it noticeable that you like one, but you have to pay a lot of attention to her reactions to see what gives. It's a bit risky, but well worth it if it works.

[Anonymous]

I'm a shy introverted girl and I don't flirt. Shy girls usually don't make the first move.The more I like a guy the more nervous I will be around him and I might even try to avoid him. It probably won't show that I like him until I'm comfortable being around him. This means that he has to continue pursuing me, even when I shy away and just make me feel comfortable and not pressure me too much. Talk to her a lot until she begins to open up more. Be friendly and light-hearted yet persistent. Shy girls are a lot harder to date/flirt with but its more than worth it in the end.

[Hamburgers]

".The more I like a guy the more nervous I will be around him and I might even try to avoid him."

Omg! How can we differentiate if you're interested but nervous, or just plainly disinterested? It looks the same! I get that reaction a lot and feel bad. :(

[Opinion Owner]

I know, its something that I'm working on u_u

What I mean is for example, if I see him but he doesn't see me I won't go approach him because I'm too shy. I'll get out of dodge so that he doesn't see think that I'm avoiding him (well I am but not because I'm not interested).

How do you know the difference?

[Opinion Owner]

I'll entertain his advances if he approaches me but I won't make any moves myself. Like if he sees me having lunch at a picnic table and asks to join me I will allow it but if I see him having lunch at a picnic table I will just watch him from the sidelines and hope he doesn't notice or make my escape before he sees me. If he does catch me I may say greet him or I may run away depending on how shy I am that day.

[cheesesteak7]

Yeah, I've had shy girls who liked me avoid me. It's so frustrating... and confusing... But I agree about the advice and the fact that shy girls are usually more worth it.

[Opinion Owner]

hamburgers and cheesesteak? O_o

[cheesesteak7]

Yeah shy girls are so frustrating. I love them, I really do. But dang they sometimes make it hard on us clueless men.

*sigh*...oh the shy ones that got away...

Anyway, all the replies here are pretty accurate from my experiences.

Short answer: they don't.

[Theguyoverthere]

They don't really. The most they'll do is be passive about it and keep sticking around hoping you'll make some sort of move on them.

They just claim they showed signs that they expected you to pick up on when they really just expect you to read their minds.

[Andie002]

You just said, she keeps sticking around. That's a sign. If a girl isn't interested she won't hang around you. On a regular basis. No, you can't read her mind but, you did pick up on her signals of interest. Next time make a move. If you like her too...that's just a shy girls way of flirting.

[Theguyoverthere]

That's not a sign for all girls and assuming that leads to many times where the two are no longer friends.

There are also plenty of girls have guy friends that they won't go further with. I know of girls who continually hang out with guy friends who make moves on them all the time yet the girl never cuts contact with the guy because while she doesn't like him, she likes the attention.

[Anonymous]

I don't think introverted and shy are necessarily synonyms.

I'm very introverted, but men KNOW it when I like them, because I usually just say so, haha!

I'm honest and blunt, but very introverted.

As for shy women, they usually just admire people from afar. Maybe make up excuses to accidentally be around them or something. They'll almost always wait for you to make the move.

[Hamburgers]

By definition, it certainly isn't.

Introverts enjoy quiet, less stimulating environments, smaller social group settings, introspection, etc.

It's commonly mistaken for "shy" or "anxious", which are completely different things. Those are "socially withdrawn" individuals, not introverts. Those who are introverted aren't socially anxious people, they just *prefer* a low-key lifestyle.

I type all this because it bothers me that so many people have the misconception (Not you). -__-

[Opinion Owner]

:-)

[Jordahn]

There have been shy girls who have been really friendly and warm-hearted, but acted cold toward me and completely avoided eye contact. But those girls, even though they'd ignore me if I was near them, I'd see them staring at me from afar.

[Jordahn]

So...see if they're body language or how they act is a lot different around you than everyone else. If she's way quieter around you she's probably just nervous.

[Arc2k]

But us guys are unbelievably oblivious to body language. I'm trying to make eye contact with you, but you're looking away. And I don't want to look at your body instead. Looking at your body language when talking to others and comparing it to when you talk to me? That's a whole lotta work

[Jordahn]

To Arc2k: Well like it or not, if you're into her, you're gonna be paying attention to that stuff (the body language) anyway.

[Arc2k]

Usually online. I might randomly get a message on fb from a girl, so I'll talk to her. And I'll find out she's all flirty and such, but face to face she doesn't say a word!

[Anonymous]

Uh I am super shy I normally wait for the guy to talk to me and express how he feels I can't even maintain eye contact with my crush or any guy for longer than a minute !

[Hamburgers]

Wow! I like shy girls, good girls. Party girls are NOT for me. But I often get the reaction you say you'd make. I always think they don't like me because of that

[kangaru]

I will keep looking at him, if possible hold eye contact and smile. I am an introverted and shy person.

[Hamburgers]

Shy girls always come across disinterested. :(

[thisiswhack]

... they dont

[Yeahhbro]

They don't

[Anonymous]

They just smile