Guys, are genuinely sweet girls hard to come by these days?

[loveisbeautiful]

I just ask because, all my guy friends always

comment on my sweet disposition and they

almost seemed shocked that I'm so sweet

and actually care. So, I was just wondering

if sweet girls are hard to come by in this

day and age or something?

I'm really just curious is all, thankies : )

[flawless]

I would say yes, considering most girls that I see generally gives of a strong vibe of negativity. Majority seem to have problems with guys and moral issues. They drink, smoke, swear, club endlessly hoping to attract attention.

I don't know if it is the guys at fault or the ladies or the society in general. I am guessing they are all factors in determine your personality in the end. To find a genuine sweet girl is like trying to win a lottery now a days, and when you do find one, it is already taken by some jerk they are not happy with, but still stick with them. Medias always telling you how you "should" look, music dictates how you should react "Don't care about anything". There are many factors that contribute to this.

I can analyze the situation all I want, but I think the biggest factor is "YOU". Failed to create the desirable situation for yourself. So I blame myself for the inability to find one. :D

[Theguyoverthere]

They are not as common as we'd like to see. A lot of girls claim that they are not judgmental and ironically, they are the most judgmental ones. A lot of girls will think they are sweet just for listening to a guy's problem but they don't realize that they don't actually do anything sweet.

The "genuinely" part when you say genuinely sweet is the hard part to come by.

Some girls I see are getting to a point where they think all guys are out to get down their pants and they don't want anything to do with guys and they sit around complaining about who is with who, who sleeping with who, who wrote what trash on the other person's Facebook wall, and so on. There's also girls out there marrying one guy, then seeing someone else.

Sometimes I'll also meet a girl, think she is sweet, and find out she is a player too.

Are sweet girls out there? Sure. Just hard to come by sometimes.

[MikeK]

Very true.

[manisha22]

To be honest I think it depends on the guy some girls just like to put on an act but there some girls that are genuinely down to earth and sweet. but for me think that guys tend to go for the opposite that's why girls tend to change themselves in order to be with a guy.

[COCOCHANEL]

it depends on what one would define as being "sweet"

some people think a sweet person is a pushover, easily taken advantage of.

others might say a girl was sweet until they got married after which she turned sour...

[why-makoto-kun]

Funny you say that. Like, sometimes I'll just open up to someone, and as usual, be myself, and the guy will make a big deal of it. I'm thinking "I'm not that special. Most girls are like this..."

[why-makoto-kun]

Also I end up getting taken advantage sometimes because of it; I ask for honesty and I'll sometimes get lied to so my feelings are "spared" and it just gets worse. I wish people didn't make decisions for me so much. :(

[why-makoto-kun]

Ah, so I'm a bitch huh? Screw pleasing guys like that

[Confucius16]

I think you can still be a nice girl. As long as you stay a nice girl but stand up for yourself if you're being taken advantage of. That's like how people think nice guys are pushovers. If you ask for honesty and get lied to, it's not your fault. More like the nice guys are also hard to come by nowadays.

Out of context, people won't understand that you were called a b-word. I'm guessing that some guys would just downvote you for that. Anytime you get insulted, let me know. I can do something.:)

[why-makoto-kun]

Exactly! Thanks :)

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Hmm. I suppose a lot of girls prefer to go out and get drunk while adoptin 'ladish' behavior so there has been a decline in sweetness.

But on the flipside, there's been a decline in chivalry. The world is becoming a much less innocent and polite place. Both still exist, just in lesser amounts.

[COCOCHANEL]

eloquently said

[Confucius16]

I agree.

[MikeK]

YES! It's a friggin' epidemic of bad, damaged, troubled women in the US... it's about time men stopped putting up with all of their crap.

I can count the number of sweet women I know just on one hand basically... the situation here is that dire...

Fellas, I implore you - seek out the sweet girl. Don't settle for some pig with no manners.

[aMuse]

It's not that hard to find sweet girls, it's just hard to find sweet girls that also possess other attractive features. Sweet is great, but it's not the entire package.

[funkadelic5]

This!

[GuyWannaHelp]

Best answer right there!

[Anonymous]

I've yet to meet a girl who just wants to be nice, and never puts up a fight...it's always "well you said this" or "i don't like that". Why can't she just say "that's cool" or "yes, I agree". Even if you don't agree, sometimes it's just nice to hear that you agree with us!

[why-makoto-kun]

So, you want us to lie to stroke your ego, and never speak up when you mistreat us? That means you want a doormat, not a sweet girl...

[Confucius16]

Neither the man nor the woman should fight. A sweet girl can "disagree without becoming diasagreeable", like Coach John Wooden says. The guy should also be nice, but he should also stand up for himself when needed.

That's why everybody needs to work on communication. If you go around insulting girls, it's unlikely that you're going to be able to find a nice girl.

[Opinion Owner]

I actually have a girlfriend, thank you very much

[martyfellow]

Yes, you girls are very rare these days in the good old USA.

. I gave up looking and married a Venezuelan, and a lot of guys did similar things after searching for you, in vain!

[MikeK]

Yes! YES!

[martyfellow]

Best Answer, for sure!

[Confucius16]

There are sweet girls out there, in the sense that they're really concerned for others, caring, and empathic. It's hard to find pure girls out there though, girls that are non-materialistic, down-to-earth, not vulgar, etc.

[why-makoto-kun]

Haha some guy called me a "bitch" below. So sweet = doormat

[Anonymous]

It's not hard for them to come by these days.

It's just that guys don't take the time to get to know girls better that's why they're shocked.

[Meedo]

To an extent yes . But sweet could have different meanings. I am attracted to feminine girls , but it doesn't mean that they shouldn't have an opinion . I just don't like vulgarity .

[kalimavictor12]

It is hard being a gentleman and trying to find a girl who is sweet, caring, honest, and all around perfect for you. We don't really know until we find out for ourselves.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of sweet girls, but guys tend not to appreciate them because they tend to be the shier, quieter, more lowkey girls; not the trophy hot girls every guy wants.

[Folklore]

lol. whatever

[Confucius16]

Yeah. I prefer those quiet, shy, low key people.

[Anonymous]

I would say yes.

It's certainly a big plus to guys who are looking for a girlfriend. In the past, one girl melted my heart with her sweet personality and I ended up asking her out and we became a couple because of that.

[Anonymous]

I can name at least 10 girls I know who are very sweet, but less than half of them are also attractive and outgoing. They tend to be more shy and quiet.

[CindiluvsFriends]

I'm told I'm sweet,wonderful and all that good stuff..

[Janson]

sorta yea

[Anonymous]

No it's not, guys just don't go for quality girls.

[Folklore]

what is a "quality girl?"

[Confucius16]

Many guys don't go for quality girls, just like many girls don't go for quality guys.

[Vandal]

Sure seems that way.