Are you guys the dominant, protective type?

[Anonymous]

I feel like that scenerio of males being dominant and protective over their girlfriends is gone? Is it true? Are any of you like this?

[Anonymous]

Thank feminism and more globally encouraged homosexuality for that. Guys are becoming more feminine then ever so don't expect that to be as common to find a dominant protective guy as it was years ago.

I don't conform to societal expectation so I'm pretty dominant and protective though

[Anonymous]

Women decided they're equal or better than men a generation or two ago.

We realized logically--no need to protect them, then.

[Asker]

why do men assume that women think that way? and why do men feel the need to generalize women?

[Opinion Owner]

Everyone generalizes because generalization is to see what the truth is for the majority of a group. Most people are interested in what the truth is for the majority, not the minority.

[Asker]

but why do you think most women think like that? I'm a women, actually a lady considering my age, bbut I've met many women in my life and none of them said that they're better than men.

[Konnour]

You forgot about one very important thing - women don't know what they want - all their decisions are led by emotions, they can't think clearly

So when a woman says she wants to be equal - don't believe her, treat her like a little baby who needs to be taught what are good manners but do look after her and protect her

[Asker]

wow, you're rude. I'm not even going to take the time to debate about this nor put some logic in you. though I sure do hope that you learn to not see women lowly. goodbye.

[Opinion Owner]

He's rude, but not incorrect. Truth frequently is quite offensive. Women suffer quite severely, on average, from solipsism.

[Asker]

and men suffer from jerkiness -_-

[Opinion Owner]

Indeed. However, "jerkiness" is an attractive feature of men done improperly. The guys that girls fall over themselves for in high school/college are frequently described as a**holes, players, but that doesn't stop them from getting tons of girls to happily hook up with them.

[Asker]

lol, I always hear about this. I also hear about how men prefer to only date someone who looks attractive to 'f***'.

[Opinion Owner]

The vast majority of the time, that's completely true.

[Asker]

well, I'm glad that we agree that neither of us is perfect. goodbye, sir!

[Opinion Owner]

If you're in a situation where you get to know guys--classmates on a group project, coworkers, guys may grow to be attracted to you based on your character and charm. If you're in a situation where guys won't try to get to know you unless they're interested--about 70% of your attraction is looks. And pretty much all guys date because they want sex. If they didn't want sex, they'd hang out with male buddies for companionship.

[Asker]

I happen to have male friends who are nothing like that. And I'm the shy, quiet type so I don't think there's any chance for me in the first place to make a guy like me, but thanks for lettig me know

[Anonymous]

We protect each other. His vulnerabilities are mine, and mine are his. Neither one of us is invincible. In a relationship, you look out for each other and don't stand by and let the person you love get hurt. That's the way I see it at least.

[Asker]

I like that :)

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, me too. :) I wouldn't want to be with a man who doesn't care about my well-being the way I care about his.

[dommage]

My boyfriend and I juggle being the dominant and the submissive or whatever. we don't take it into extremes so its good in my opinion

[lauramor]

I don't think protective and dominant men are gone. they ar enot the same and its still pretty common to see them

[Konnour]

I don't like the word "dominant" - it sounds like being a Muslim a**hole who controls every aspect of his girlfriend's life

But I'm definitely protective - nothing and no-one messes with people I love

[Asker]

By dominant I don't mean someone who controls every aspect of her life, nor somebody who doesn't let her do anything by herself. I jst mean someone who liked to take the lead in the relationship.

[Konnour]

I see. How do you mean it? Take lead in what? Making decisions? According to my experience - women JUST SAY that they want a man who takes charge but the truth is they want to take charge themselves and plenty of times they're unhappy with the leadership of a man in their relationship

[Asker]

Well maybe you haven't met the right women yet.. if a men thinks that by taking the lead, he has the right to treat her like crap than I wouldn't even bother listening to him. you just seem to think really badly of women. I wish I could have a microphone and yell at the whole world that not all women are the same. there are bad and good in everyone.

[Konnour]

You guessed wrong, I don't think badly about women in general, that's why I said - "according to my experience" - I do know that somehow I just keep bumping only on the wrong kinds of women

[Asker]

I think you're trying to make it sound like you don't intentionally think like that, but in reality you do. because why else would you say that they need to be treated like babies who need to be taught what are good manners? theyre not dogs nor babies.

[Konnour]

Again - it was not about all women. Why people keep taking things out of context?

[Asker]

because you didn't use the word 'certain' or 'some'. generally when they say a group of a certain name without pointing out that it's only some individuals of that group, it's seen as the whole group rather than some of them.

[Konnour]

Oh dayum, I forgot to type one word - now let the fem-judgement fall over my head!

[Asker]

im not a feminist. I just misunderstood what you said because one simple word changed your whole meaning

[Konnour]

Yeah, I agree with that

[drjohno]

Strong, independent women don't need Men's protection, not that We're interested in protect them either.

[Asker]

are you saying that men in general don't like to be the protective types? or they don't like to protect women who are strong?

[Anonymous]

Feminism pushed men like that to the brink of extinction. There are still a few of us though, and we'e making a comeback...slowly.

Feminism did some good things. for sure, but IMO it did far more harm than good. Still does...

[Asker]

What harm did they do? I'm not trying to start an argument, but I just don't understand why men hate them so much? I suppose I'm not a feminist since I don't go out fighting for equality,and I suppose I haven't met many feminists, but I have a friend who claims that she's a feminist and she treats both her girl friends and boy friends nicely.

[Cookie1995]

I got into a fight at school stopping a girl in my class being pushed around. I hardly know her but was not going to let anyone especially a guy knock her around. I'd do the same for anyone in trouble again.

[Daxusinferno]

Protective, not really dominant. Dominant kinda contradicts the whole "significant other" part of the relation ship.

[Anonymous]

We're living in a more gender-neutral society these days. Guys are definitely less masculine than they used to be.

[Anonymous]

we've been pussified by guys like Justin Bieber and one direction. isn't that what women want now days?

[Asker]

lol.. considering the fact that I don't listen to neither of their music and I don't follow their tweets and stuff, no.

[Opinion Owner]

good to hear.

[Anonymous]

I punched a guy in the face once just for looking at my girlfriend. hows that?

[Asker]

lol.. are you joking?

[maiez]

Im protective, but not over protective.

[Anonymous]

Some can be. it also depends on his temperament

[Moloch]

I'm protective.