How come girls never choose me...?

[Anonymous]

I notice that so many other guys basically have girls come up to them are interested in them right away, me though I've never had a girl choose me, I don't have tons of girls messaging me or choosing me. It feels nice to be chosen and I have never felt like that. I just feel like there's sometimes wrong and when I think about it, it hurts. I have been myself for many years now and still nothing, I have tried to be more fun, nothing, more serious. It's like I have to work really hard for even a girl to notice me and other guys just sit there. Guess I just want that feeling of being choosen too.

[Francia]

Based on your profile picture you don't seem to me like a bad looking guy.

You also stated that you have tried to be more fun and more serious. That's wrong, you should try to be yourself, be honest with yourself first. You don't want a girl liking you for who you're not... I know you want to be with someone, you dislike being alone, but if you do get some based on the "pretentious you," that will only make you more miserable in the relationship.

Being good looking is a blessing, but it can also be a course you know. When you're good looking sometimes girls are a friend to approach you, because they are afraid you'll reject them.

You also need to work on your attitude, try to be positive, confident. But don't be cocky. It's good to be serious, this shows to them (girls) that you're mature, but be funny once it a while, but don't make yourself the "clown of the group or class."

If you're good looking don't abuse it, take care of yourself... ( have a good hygiene, take care of your body, be more careful about the way you dress)

Simple things as this make a huge impression on girls...If you are not fit, start exercising and get fit... Girls like muscles.. Wear a nice cologne (not too strong, but something that will remain in their nostrils for a while as a remembrance of you.) Shave, change your hairstyle.

I don't know if you're in College or work, but improve your academical/ work performance... Girls like guys that are hardworking, smart and ambitious...

Hey don't feel bad, just try to be more confident and expose yourself a little more okay? You will find your special other one in no time... don't rust into things... It is better to be known by the girl as the "non player type."

Hope this was helpful.

[Lizardbreath]

Befriend girls. Be friendly to people. Joke around with others and just be yourself.

I'm a girl and I NEVER got asked out unless I made the first move or my friends enforced it.

And, because of that, I always felt there was something wrong with me. However, I kept being myself, dressing a little nicer, but still acted like myself.

I ended up befriending people I never thought I'd talk to. My current fiancee of now 6 years being one of them.

You seem like a great guy.

Don't let this get you down! You're bound to find the girl of your dreams! :)

[justbanANNAz]

lets change your approach:)

instead of thinking your the one who needs to be chosen, why don't you think of it as you being the one who can go out and get any girl you please?

as some girls said, they would choose u. it really depends on who YOU want. your a man and you deserve to pursue the woman that YOU want. just because a woman doesn't choose you it doesn't mean she doesn't want to b chosen.

get out there and control it. your way.

best of luck! :)

[Prof_Don]

Girls will SOMETIMES walk up to the guy and show interest...but if the guy doesn't make an aggressive move, she will lose interest VERY fast!.. no matter how physically attractive he is to the girl.

Why do you have such a passive approach with the female gender...when since the beginning of time men being aggressive with women has always resulted in sexual gratification?

Boggles my mind when people try to reinvent the wheel.

[moviedude714]

hate those that disagree that men do the choosing, it's women that do the choosing, this guy said so:

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=i4XPOe6w6bo

[britannny]

Believe me, other guys have to do more than sit there and look pretty to get a girl. Even good looking guys. Us girls are used to not having to do any of the work when it comes to dating. We don't usually approach guys. Girls a lot of the time assume if a guy is interested in them, he'll let her know. So if you're interested in a girl, express those feelings. Chances are, she's probably not gonna pick you out of obscurity. Let her know that you exist.

It's not really fair that guys have to do all the work, but that's the world we live in. If you want to date, as a male you have to actually do something about it.

[butterflyred]

hmm.. when you approach do you find yourself that you are confident talking to someone? you seem like a good looking guy. do you think girls will just sit beside you if you didn't say anything? make a good conversation that you want to know the girl and tell your opinion about it. ask.say something. make a joke to break the ice. be careful with your words. be a gentleman. mostly be real and honest on your words. if girls find that you are honest and trustworthy person they will stay with u.

[kheserthorpe]

You're 23.

Yeah, I know, some guys your age get hit on, you don't, it sucks.

Your odds of having women make the first move are going to be radically higher in 5-10 years.

[lulubear]

Because you ask questions like these

You need game

Ever seen a guy with a girl out of his league?

He landed a girl like that because he has game.

[ragazza91]

you cute though, well to me you are, I would choose you lol

[Anonymous]

Because girls don't choose.

It's guys who choose.

If you want to be chosen, put on a dress and go to a gay bar. Or look into sex reassignment surgery.

[tiredofwaiting]

Maybe you need a new approach,try to get pointers from your friends.

[donnamarie476]

It's all about the self confidence

[Anonymous]

maybe you should try new approaches.

[Anonymous]

If you got a ran you'd look more attractive

[Anonymous]

We usually wait for you to make the first move.

[Anonymous]

oh I chose you