Is being called average an insult?

[Anonymous]

I have been called average by a guy who supposedly likes me. He said I was a five. Should I be offended?

[Anonymous]

I am assuming this guy was talking to someone else and you found out about it. So I don't see a reason for him to lie about it. He most likely thinks you are a 5. He may feel that he is also a 5 or maybe even less, or he may just be trying to have sex with you because he thinks he has a shot.

Most women like to believe they are at least a 7, and would be offended if someone called them a 5. When the truth is most of these women really are just 5's. I have even known 3's and 4's that would be offended if they got less than a 7. People need to be more honest with themselves. If a girl is in reality a 3, chances are she is not going to end up with a guy that is a 7. In that case they are setting themselves up for disappointment.

I assume most women will tell you to be insulted. I say you need to be honest with yourself. Are you a 5? If you really are higher than a 5, then be insulted.

[Asker]

Believe it or not he told me I was a five, and he was surprised that I felt insulted by it. I honestly thought I was a seven and I couldn't understand why he didn't think he was insulting. Care to help me understand?

[Opinion Owner]

Most women use a different rating system than men. Women go by whether or not they are attractive. If you are young and thin you should be fairly attractive. To most women, a fairly attractive woman warrants a 7. However to guys that only makes you average for your age group, since most guys actually find the average young woman to be very attractive.

[Asker]

So why would he give her a five if he found her very attractive? It doesn't make sense to me?

[Opinion Owner]

Because the average young woman is very attractive, and 5 is average. Of course everyone rating system could be a little different, but overall I think he is just using a different system than you.

[Asker]

If the average young women was very attractive she would be a 7 not a five.

[Opinion Owner]

If she was a 7 then she wouldn't be average. A 5 is average, and a 5 is still attractive, because average is attractive.

[Asker]

If she was attractive she would've been a ten! I appreciate fact that you tried to make me feel better :)

[Anonymous]

One mans trash is anothers treasure. OK maybe not the best wording lol but just because he thinks your a 5 someone else might see you as a 9 or 10

[Cottoncandydreams]

Well, put it this way he doesn't think you're ugly, but not gorgeous either. Somewhere in between.The Plain Jane /Girl next door type (Neutral). To be honest most people in society are average

Personally I would not take what he said to heart. Your average, is another man's beautiful.

[Oceanbell]

You sure as hell should! If someone likes you, he'll give you 7 or up. But maybe he's just shy and doesn't want to make it too obvious that he likes you?

[menina]

Well, that means he doesn't think you're gorgeous. But he doesn't called you "ugly" and that would be worse. So, I think you shouldn't be offended.

[Asker]

How would you like it if a guy you like said you are a five and you are average? Would you feel special, honestly?

[menina]

Of course, I wouldn't like it but I wouldn't be offended either. But I understand your point. Since you like him you were expecting him to think you're gorgeous and he doesn't, so it's a little bit sad.

[Asker]

Yes that was my point. Thank you.

[menina]

You're welcome.

[palek]

Many people would give their liver to a dying wino to be called average. And no mean number of them are well above-average. To whom much is given, much is required. And beyond that, opinions grow on trees.

[Asker]

Sorry palek I am a little on the dumb side lol please explain this to me in simpler terms lol

[palek]

I'm only saying that the world is teeming with people facing all manners of sicknesses and deformities to whom being "average" is a dream with little hope of fulfillment. And then there are those judged to be well above average in a variety of ways who strain under the burden and wish to live a "normal" life. And additionally, whomever told you you're a "five" is only entitled to one vote out of seven+ billion, so take his opinion with a barrel full of salt. Trust me when I say that there are

[palek]

many people out there who'll think you're a 10-and-a-half.

[Asker]

Thanks palek!

[palek]

; - )

[Anonymous]

Listen, he might think you are average but you are gorgeous to some other guy out there.

[Asker]

I liked him that's the difference.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It's just like, his opinion, man.

[Asker]

From a mans perspective is that a good or a bad thing?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Well it's not the best. As others have said, it's average. And he could be wrong.

[Asker]

So you would agree that its insulting for a guy to say this to a girl he supposedly likes.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

No. If he likes you, he finds you attractive.

[Asker]

Surely if you found someone attractive you wouldn't think they were average. Well that's the way I see it.

[Guy2000]

You and he both sound below average.

[Anonymous]

uumm yeah!