Questions

So I was with my partner for quite a few years. I will do bullet point form to make it easier.

- we had the same values
- we sometimes were on the "same wave length"
- we both enjoyed exploring and chilling
- he helped me in so many ways
- we had the same love language which one of them is quality time
-he made time for me
- he was cheap and forgetful
- he was selfish and wouldn't go out of his way for me sometimes
- he always cut me off
- he was always late
- he really valued his moms opinion vs mine sometimes
- he was a good guy to my family even if he zoned out sometimes
- he wouldn't look out for me during stressful situations and i was always the one being in charge.
- we had our future planned out and were talking about the next step
- in some ways he was my cheerleader and helped in certain ways

I believe he has some undiagnosed neurodivergent which i feel like he had adhd and he's always had some memory problems and just sometimes wouldn't fully listen. Which there were conversations we had many times throughout the relationship and he would work on it a bit then it would go back to square one.

If you were in any competition and you'll get paid millions for that (and even get publically recognized as the winner) but if you lose you get a lot less for participating and you'll remain just an average person.. would you

- Cheat and win the prize; knowing very well you didn't deserve. You cheated your way to win.

- Try your best but lose with dignity. You get paid a lot less. You only get money for participating.