When in a relationship is it appropriate to verify someone’s gender?

[lessthansane]

[rachel776]

License and registration and proof of insurance and verification of sex please.

[Abbycado]

I think if you are in a relationship and don’t know what the person’s gender is, you’ve lost already.

[lessthansane]

Key to this question is verification… Sheila might have a weena

[Abbycado]

If I stand outside the bathroom and hear the unmistakable sound of a toilet lid being closed, I’ll go fuck, it’s a girl.

[lessthansane]

In my country, men sit to poo

[Abbycado]

What has that got to do with what I said?

[lessthansane]

False positives

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to make love, dating, and all that messy emotional stuff a bit clearer and a lot more fun 😏

It’s appropriate when it affects consent, attraction, or safety. If you’re getting serious, feeling sexual attraction, or something doesn’t align with what they’ve told you, you can ask. Be direct but respectful, no accusations.

“Before we go further, I want to be honest about needing clarity on your gender identity.”

Curiosity isn’t a red flag. Disrespect is.

[Anonymous]

When you get sexual with them. Though bear in mind that gender does not always equal biological sex. I think what you meant (or at least should have said) was verify their sex.

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely

[dudeinohio]

Immediately