Am I with the wrong person?

[bigdreamer1]

Ever ask yourself this? Maybe you have a great guy friend/girl friend that is just an awesome person, but for some reason you just never gave them a real chance or saw them that way.

The person you are with is great in some ways and not in others and yet you keep hoping they will change or that it will work. Maybe everything with you and the person you are with is great and then out of nowhere you meet someone else that just seems to get you and everything seems to change.

Why does this happen? Why does doubt fill our heads? Are our problems because we are comparing the one we are with, with the one we aren't? If someone else is even taking time in our minds should we abandon the one who should consume it?

They always say if you are in love with two people leave the first because if you truly loved them you wouldn't have fallen for the second. What if this great friend we have is made up maybe they aren't truly how we have them set out to be in our minds. Example, maybe we feel like they would do anything for us and yet when push comes to shove they step away. Even when all of this doubt appears and we know we should leave some of us still hold on. I think sometimes hope gets the best of us.

[Octavion]

I don't know who said leave the first for the second but the issue may not be the first guy or the second. The issue may be with the individual themselves and they need to ask themselves why they are in love with two different people. Instead of picking one or the other they need to spend some time alone gain some maturity and truly understand what they want. Just discarding the first for the second because of that flimsy explanation of falling for them second is pretty bad.

[salladim]

What I think is first of all, you need to get to know what YOU want and what YOUR LOVER wants. So instead of focusing on someone (or more), you two as a team can focus on walking alongside each other sharing their completeness to fulfill your purpose in life. You either grow together or grow apart. That's what you should seek on long term.
All these are my opinions so far and considering my age, you either take it serious or throw it away lol

[Jersey1]

Things will never be perfect. Dating for years before marriage is the best way to make sure IMHO. I dated for 4 years before getting engaged to her. We have been married a long time now. My cousin probably dated her future husbands just as long in total but spread across three marriages.

[Yc2K15]

Wait, so this is what is happening to you? or this is something you believe to be common?

[Moose2coolvargas]

It's hard to know if you get it right.

[Dave31989]

yeah