Why I don't believe in love

[Drast]

Love is unconditional. That's bullshit, "love" is always conditional. Every human consists of two parts. The mind and the body (you could argue for a third, the soul, but I want to stay away from the topic of religion) That means that when one loves another he loves either their mind, thier body, or both. If you loved them for their mind (their personality) you would not love them in a separate body because ultimately, our bodies are a huge part of who we are as people. How you move about the world, what you are able to do, how you look, all directly affect how you think and how you are as a person.

The person you love will no longer be the same when his or her body changes. There is no extent to how much the body effects the mind. If you loved them for their body you still would not love them the same if their mind was different, as the body is a direct extension of what the mind has cultivated. Without the drive to do what they've done, or the history of the decisions they've made as a person, their body would be completely different then what you see now.

Love is never unconditional because human beings are always static. They change, and the person you "love" now will most likely not be the person you "love" in the future. And all this conditional love does is tie traits to a name. Once the traits change the name will have no meaning, thus love does not exist as no love can ever be truly unconditional. You may love the idea of them but you don't love the person. It is time that the word love be seen as what it really is, attachment. I know some of you believe in love, probably most of you, but I will never love, only feel attachment. This does not mean I will never care deeply for another, because I have, and I do, but it is not love. Love is a word with no meaning.

[HookingSwan]

I dont think they say love is unconditional meaning love never changes. Love is absolute and neverchanging.

I think what it actually means is, if it is love, it should strive to be unconditional, even when the goung gets tough or the other person annoys u or hurts u. Love should try to forgive and see past our human flaws. I think that is what it means by being unconditional.
Of course both parts should strive for this, and, if they make an effort, together, for the other person, love can actually grow into something beautiful and i might dare to say a love that can weather almost anything. A love forever.

But both people have to make ab effort, or else, of course it will be conditional love. No one likes to be the only one making an effort by themselves and forgiving over nd over again someone that seems not to care enough to make an effort back.

[Drast]

But that can never exist. Two humans will never think the same way, and even the mutual "love" they feel, is just chemicals in the brain, which can change with the simplest imbalance. Love is a construct, and ideal that can never truly be met by any two human beings.

[HookingSwan]

Well, I presented you with what I believe is tge unconditional love people talk about. Even parent's unconditional love for their kids can be tested sometimes. Still, dont u believe in love between a parent and his child? That is a form of love between two human beings. Therefore, love exists. As for romantic love, I believe it can strive to b unconditional too, like i said. U are entitled to ur opinion though. Just trying to offer u a different perspective on things.

[HookingSwan]

Many couples stay together for years. And many of them still have the chemicals that are associated with love, even after all those years. I think, it depends on how commited people are to one another. Of course the effort they make will not b equal. Everyone loves in a different way. What matters is that they try to make it clear to the other how much they still are in love with them. Trying to make it understandable to the other person.

[Drast]

They are attached to eachother, they care deeply for each other, but I don't think it's love. When I say love I mean in the romantic sense, sorry I should have specified.

[YourFutureEx]

My ratings to your myTake :-
First paragraph = 10
Second paragraph = 9
Third paragraph = 5

[Bonnie12I27I12]

love is conditional and im glad someone finally said it.

[Unit1]

You must be unique. I must give you that. Keep it up.

[9mfeo]

Well, that's depressing. You ok bro?

[Drast]

I'm good. What do you think about the take, besides depressing.

[9mfeo]

Nothing, just depressing.