These days,most people dont value things they supposed to be valuing.like :
Trust
True Love
Romance.
Working hard in your relationship
Connection
Accepting someone for who they are,accepting their flaws and imperfections and loving them
Loyalty
Honesty
1. Most of the people these days,dont care about breaking anyone's trust.they cheat on their partner like its no big deal,but the things they dont realize while doing that is, Trust is like a mirror,once you break it,no matter how many pieces you join back together and tape it,the cracks will still be there.
and by breaking someone's trust by cheating on them,they dont realize that they are hurting their partner very badly.they dont realize that they are hurting them,who truly loved him/her,who always trusted him/her,who was loyal to them.honest to them.and when you break someones trust by cheating on them,you are making a asshole move by hurting them like that.
2. People these days more care about things like Lust,Sex,Looks,Money,etc.its always easy to take off your clothes in front of anyone and get naked,but its very very hard to get naked for showing your soul to someone.i want a girl who is more interested in talking with me about life,stars,the universe,problems,struggles.stuff like that.a girl who would love to lay down with me at midnight and talk about things like life problems,sharing our dark past with each other,without judging each other,and accepting each other for who we are.
3. A successful relationship or a marriage is like riding a bicycle.one leg is you and the other leg ins your partner,if either one of you stop paddling,then you will loose its balance,and if you dont keep its balance then you both will fall.both partners must be willing to work hard,not just one.Most of the relationships marriages fail these days because of not working hard in your relationship,if your partner cheated on you,then its understandable that you ended your relationship,but if your partner is complicated to understand,or made any mistakes that hurts you,or you dont like,then you should talk about with them,and make things work,not think of leaving them and finding someone else.its always easy to run away from problems than facing them.and when they fight with each other,they dont think of leaving each other,they think of how to make things better again,by apologizing,realizing your mistakes,forgiving each other.
4. Connection
People should be caring more about things like love,romance,Intimacy,A deep and a rare mental connection,honesty,loyalty,etc.these are the things that you cannot buy,these are the most valuable things in life and in a relationship,
5. Understanding
Most of the people these days dont listen to others for understanding,they listen to reply,its very hard for some people to understand someone.because some people are too much complicated,its just like. "I am too insane,and you are too normal to understand me".
6. Accepting someone for who they are,accepting their flaws and imperfections and loving them.
Making sacrifices,compromises.
Making sacrifices and compromises for your partners is the biggest sign that you love them,making sacrifices and compromises for someone is never easy,and you do it only for the people you love very much.but most of the people dont do these things.
Why It Is Sooo Hard for Me to Get in a Relationship.
Sounds like we're in the same boat here. I feel like most guys only see a pretty girl when they look at me and don't actually care to get to know me. And then the guys who do want to get to know me felt like they can be open enough with me to tell me how they used to be players and about all the girls they screwed and other unattractive things. And all the other guys are already married
Depends on what you really want in life. Getting rejected over an over isn't fun but it's necessary... I believe anybody has the opportunity in finding what they want but... the effort in doing so usually doesn't equal the want. Just my opinion. Good luck man...
Keep trying if you have not given up yet. I've given up a long time ago, but that's after I had my reality check, and relationships and everything associated and relevant to it just became like meh, whatever to me and is no longer of a goal or objective of mines. Thus I don't care to try anymore to pursue anyone since I don't expect anything good out of it. I decided I'd save myself all the frustrations and problems I'd have to deal with relevant to relationships, etc. save all the time, money and effort that I don't want to invest and put into.
But if somehow later you ever decide to give up some day or eventually, then tell me about it. But I doubt you will though if you really don't want to. Nothing comes easy in life, including relationships.
Good and worth having is subjective to me as it's all a matter of perception and belief. Comes from desire. You'll either get it eventually or it does not ever happen, there are no absolute guarantees or certainties, but you'll keep trying as ling as you want to try and willing to continue trying.
It's true. Plenty of times love is being abused in order to extract any gain from it. But on the bright side being single because of it means being invulnerable to being hurt or drained by a fake relationship. So we have that.
Your username is "DecentGuy" lol. But decent guys dont need to display all that they are. And damn that is a lot of qualities that Im sure you dont live up to every single day, so how can u expect that in a partner? Lol.
I think you are playing victim "Im a decent guy why am i always friend zoned, feel sorry for me" and have high standards for your partner like take a look at your list... i bet you dont have all of these qualities. I think u can't find "the one" coz your fantasy girl doesn't exist
ahh man, another person who hates me for no reason at all. ok kido, buckle up and listen carefully. 1st of all. i live up to all those qualities every single day 2nd. i never been friend zoned because i never chase any women or girl. 3rd. if you are a slut and you dont have any of these qualities and you are jealous because i want those qualities then go fuck yourself somewhere,. and its not my problem, probably your mother was also used to be a slut thats why you are also a slut, so dont bother me with your slutty problems, and its very clear that you are butt hurt by my take, and i love it soo damn much that you got butt hurt by mytake. im loving the moment that i burned your ass soo badly by writing this take, i love this moment soo much that i wanna have sex with it. YASSSS
If you are anything like you are on GAG the reason you can't get girls is because you come off as a TRY HARD. Like those fake nice guys who tailors his behaviour to get people to like him.
For example- Why do you feel the need to post up pictures of your muscles on here and you wearing sunglasses/jackets in every picture?
Another thing why is from your responses you seem to come off too much like a goody toe shoes or tailor your responses to what people want to hear or what you think they would like. People can pick up on fakeness.
Lastly, true nice guys don't use name like decent guy or try to promote/publicise themselves as a DECENT GUY. They just do it through their actions.
To Summarise. Be yourself and stop tailoring your behaviour to other people.
It's hard because life is so simple anymore. With changing gender roles and more freedom, people have been become so entitled and will jump ship at the first sign of setbacks and people can afford to do so.
I think love is when you decide that that other person is YOURS, it's yours to take care of and to love to the best you can. You realize they are as valuable as YOU are, so you don't hurt yourself then you don't hurt them.
At the same time you realize that they are their own person who has their own interests, and you allow them to be themselves.
Just have to get out there and take some chances you see a girl you like take a chance, maybe she rejects you, maybe she doesn't, won't know if you don't try though.
No problem and remember this kind of stuff doesn't happen over night, it could take some time but nothing will happen if you don't put yourself out there ^^.
So everyone is supposed to value the things you listed just because you say so? Not everyone does, as you stated. Maybe even the majority doesn't. Trust = overrated, and no one should really trust anyone unless you like getting stabbed in the back sooner or later. Loyalty = if I wanted that I'd get a dog. Honesty = careful what you wish for, some things will probably have you wishing they were dishonest about.
Yeah, you are so unrealistic its not funny. Women do not like all of that stuff you mention. They complain guys do not have those qualities but they all just date guys based on skin tone and the height requirement they want.
Uh SOME OF us do. And I would never expect anything I'm not willing and able to give it out myself. I don't look for a loyal partner because I think I deserve it for whatever silly reason but because I AM a loyal partner. I expect people to treat me according to my actions and how I behave in this world.
And do MOST people generally want to be with someone they find attractive? Of course. That's biology. But that doesn't mean it's the be-all-end-all for every one of us. Most of the guys I've dated have been average to below average looking. It was other things that attracted me to them. Like their personality, their intelligence, sense of humour, fact that we both liked gaming...
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