Relationships aren't always fun.

[christian_witch]

There is a terrible recurring theme among people that relationships are filled with nothing but good times and rainbows. The truth is far from that reality. A good relationship isn't based just on how many flowers you get your girlfriend, or how often you do things for your guy. It's also your willingness to sit next to them while they are going through cancer treatment. It's comforting them after their mother died and they feel helpless.

That doesn't mean the sweet things are pointless. No, indeed they do play a part in things. However, they are simply one piece of the puzzle you have to fit in there. Relationships take work to make them last a long time. And that means they really take a lot of work. It's not always going to be great, and sometimes your mate might even make you consider punching a dolphin. But if you only stuck around for the perfect parts then they really wouldn't be that valuable, would they?

[KaitlynS198]

No, they wouldn't be. The valuable parts are when one or both (or more in polyamorous relationships) people are going through a tough time and the other supports and comforts them. Showing that person how much you care about them, how much you are willing to do for them, staying with them in the toughest of times, and making them feel better is really important.

[TomBradysJersey]

I know they aren't always fun but I have never had one, so that's why I want one.

[hibam]

No for me they looked like sun and rainbows, after a past heartbreak, they make me think pointlessly and feel how complicated they are. flowers and flirting never maintained relationships efficiently , You have to accept your partner's flaws, you have to dedicate your time and feelings, take care of them, hold conflicts and arguments well and understand their needs. Trust is the hardest part in a relationship, any dumb behavior can kill it easily and therefore end it up badly.

[SteppingOnRoses]

That is very true. It is with the hard times that we learn how much we really can love someone.