Ask Yourself Three Questions If Your Relationship Is Failing

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1. Am I Trying?

Ask Yourself Three Questions If Your Relationship Is Failing

Everyone loves to point a finger at the other person and blame all relationship problems on the other person. It's his/her fault, they should have done, why don't they...and on and on, but what are you doing? A relationship takes two and if your relationship is in trouble, what efforts are you actually making to make things better? Are you actually shutting up for a second and listening to why it is your partner is upset, or that you're always fighting, or the things she/he says that are breaking your relationship.

Of course it's easy to say...well F-you, I'm not the problem here, but if your partner is literally telling you the reason that they are fighting with you and that your relationship is not working---and you're ignoring those reasons or letting your ego get in the way of you listening and trying to act on improving them, then you're going to be in the same revolving door of fights and not getting a long and feeling bad about everything all the time.

2. Are They Trying?

Ask Yourself Three Questions If Your Relationship Is Failing

A relationship is a two way street and there is only so much you can do from your end. If you're the one who has suggested you talk, or sit down with a counselor, or who is always trying to be the bigger or more compromising person, or even worse, just agreeing with your partner all the time just to avoid more fights, are they trying? If a relationship is on the rocks, you've both got to want to save the thing or else it won't work because you can't be "the relationship" for the both of you.

If you've had far too many come to Jesus, as it were, discussions about trying to make this work, and your partner is making zero effort, they may be trying to eventually get you to break up with them or it honestly may be time for you to pull the plug if you feel that you've seriously given it your all and nothing is changing even as you've done all the things your partner said that they needed to make it work.

3. Is This Worth It?

Ask Yourself Three Questions If Your Relationship Is Failing

Not every relationship needs a hail Mary, or for the two of you to do Herculean efforts to try to patch it all up. Maybe, just maybe, this whole relationship wasn't meant to be. I mean, ask yourself if it's worth it to even try to save it. If you quite literally don't want to make any efforts to fix your relationship, why is that? That person may not be important to you anymore, or you may not like or love them enough to want to make things work...and honestly, that's okay, because you can't force yourself to have feelings you don't have.

If you dread going home because you know you'll fight or you feel empty or find that you do not miss your partner when they go on work trips or vacations without you enough to even care or want to call to check in, odds are, you may not yet have realized that it's time to call it quits. Don't just drag something on for weeks, or months, or even years because you simply like the title of Plus 1. You deserve to be happy with or without someone else in your life.

Ask Yourself Three Questions If Your Relationship Is Failing
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