Looks Matter In Romantic Relationships Whether You Want To Believe It (Page 2)

[LovelyFlower]

I agree looks matter to an extent. Everyone has standards some might not be as high as others but overall everyone has standards for appearance and what they like and are attractive to. It's basically like this you get what you give plain and simple. I judge people based on 3 key factors this is in random order Face /Body / Personality . The person obviously isn't gonna be a 10 in each category.

[Browneye57]

Of course they do, it's call ATTRACTION. Love can't start if there isn't any attraction in the first place.

There are a lot of confused little cookies here on GAG. ;)

[lizziepooh03]

Let me ask you this, have you ever been attracted to someone initially but once you got to know them better, you found that you do not find them attractive because their personality makes it impossible to like them?

[ADFSDF1996]

I still think they are pretty but I don’t like them as a person.

[lizziepooh03]

Do you still find them sexually attractive?

[animus1988]

did they have autism or something? you sound pretty judgmental

[ADFSDF1996]

Yes I did find them sexually attractive even though I don’t like them for their attitudes.

@animus1988 They don’t have autism, do you have something against autistic people?

[lizziepooh03]

Thanks for answering, @ADFSDF1996. :)

[Tmoney12345]

Looks do matter... they matter different amounts to different people, and to an extent people can train themselves out of it, but there is always some sort of visual component. The assertion that a good personality can't overcome them is not correct as a blanket statement, though.

[Blonde401]

Physical/sexual attraction gets your foot in the door but it doesn't mean you'll stay. Personality decides if someone's worth sticking with. And at the end of the day, good looks are super subjective.

[Qwertsy]

Just what I was thinking. Good looks can spike a person's interest in the beginning, but if our personalities aren't compatible with each other, there is no point in being in an unhappy relationship with someone just because they look attractive.

[Blonde401]

@Qwertsy someone can be the best looking person on earth but if they have a horrible personality, I won't look twice.

[Qwertsy]

What's your opinion on someone with a great personality that you have no physical attraction to?

I'm not taking someone who is (for lack of better termology) "ugly," but someone who you personally are just not very attracted to.

Do you think personality can make up for it?

[Qwertsy]

Sorry there were **typos in my one paragraph.

I'm not **talking someone who is (for lack of better **terminology) "ugly," but someone who you personally are just not very attracted to.

[Blonde401]

@Qwertsy personality can make them physically attractive to me... so. Yeah it can make up for it.

[Qwertsy]

That makes sense. People would be better off if everybody would think that way. But, to each their own.

[Blonde401]

@Qwertsy I'm just not particarly picky when it comes to looks. Personality and similar interests will always win me over. I want a partner in crime rather than a work of art.

[Chanel1981]

I agree that it is imperative to be attracted to your partner, otherwise it will never work

[samhradh_leannan]

Yes, looks matter. But that means different things to different people. I would argue that personality CAN compensate for looks, just only up to a point. Everyone has dealbreakers.

[Twinrova]

Agree.

[April10]

How ridiculous. Anyone with half a brain knows looks matter. The only people who claim it's shallow are the 'ugly' ones who are really jsut insecure. To feel better about themselves, they make it about the other person instead.

[Bluemax]

I am curious why you put "ugly" in quotation marks?

[Kkaos]

@Bluemax Because she didn't want to directly call them ugly herself, because that would make her sound mean?

[88flowers]

I feel like I'm too red-pilled for this thread. I'm more interested in whether a goy is fashy enough. Yeah, looks matter, but not as much as our compatibility and thus our future and that of our future children.

[JustAnotherGirlie]

Yeah sexual attraction is important but it's not the be all, end all. The guy I'm dating now is not conventionally attractive to my friends but I don't care? He's great and upright so his character > his looks (even though I think he's kinda hot)

[Kkaos]

The fact you said you think he's kinda hot means what your friends think is irrelevant. Now if you thought he was completely ugly, would you have started dating him in the first place? Probably not.

[BrittBratt2416]

Yeah, I already agreed that looks matter to a point. People who say it's shallow don't seem to think there are people they don't find attractive either.

[Anonymous]

There has to be sexual and physically attraction but personality does play a big roll.
I don't care if you're hot and turn me on like no one else could, if I can have a better conversation with the wall you're out.

[deraz24]

My s. o has to look like something to me. I want to be able to turn over and admire them, call them cute, compliment them that kinda stuff

[Anonymous]

I think it goes like this... You start because of the looks. You stay because of the personality.

[Twinrova]

I was looking forward to hearing your thoughts on the subject matter the title pertains to. Instead, I just get a rant about feminism and liberals.

[ADFSDF1996]

Feminism ties into this. Society plays a big role in how many people act.

[Twinrova]

It just seems like you really exaggerated the extent to which feminists are responsible for the pretentious people that say "looks don't matter." It feels like this was motivated more by your hatred for the other side of the political spectrum, than it was to inform people that looks count.

[ADFSDF1996]

That’s not the point. Even though I don’t agree with that side of the political spectrum, I don’t hate them, I just don’t agree with their views. I only briefly mentioned feminism here. It didn’t take up too much space.

[Twinrova]

I think I owe you an apology. I ctrl F'ed the post to find all your mentions of feminism, and tbh I think that I was mistaken. Ironically, it may have been me misinterpreting what I saw, because I took offense to your criticism of Liberals, because I slightly identify as one.

[ADFSDF1996]

It’s alright, I’ve misread a lot of post on here as well.

[ADFSDF1996]

I’m personally a centrist/independent so that means I don’t think liberalism in general is bad, I mostly disagree with extreme liberalism which is further left on the political spectrum.

[Twinrova]

I identify as a lover of the BBC.

[ADFSDF1996]

The British Broadcasting Corporation?

[Twinrova]

Yes.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

"If you get in good shape, change your clothing style, improve your hygiene and grooming, then you can go from a “4” to at least a “8” on the looks scale"

Don't push it. Lol

Overall everything you said is on the money.

[englisc]

No shit What will your next take be about? "Water is wet."

[Nina12345]

First of all , no one's ugly, unless their personality is ugly and the way they treat people then they are ugly.

[Bandit74]

I agree. People for whatever reason have a habit of trying to drastically undersell the importance of looks.

[genericname85]

I think there's some leeway making it possible that a better character can make up for looks to some extend. Otherwise yeah totally agree. I think people should stop denying it.