Why People in Abusive Relationships Can’t “Just Leave”. (Page 3)
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Wait a minute... Don't girls pride themselves on tearing down nice guys while deliberately dating assholes?
Food for thought.
whats that disease called.. the one where the victim falls in love with their kidnapper? something relating to Scandinavia, right?
Lol
Stockholm Syndrome
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that's the oneeeee
It’s not easy to leave I get that but they still can
I believe the psychological term is Stockholm syndrome. Even if you dont like it you eventually learn to like it and in some cases love it.
I don’t buy it. If you’re a mentally stable and mentally aware person, you’ll leave
Sorry to say, but I think so too. Just an excuse to be weak and lazy. I know too many abused woman the man could care less about leaving. Very few of the abusers are stalkers, some will leave you alone if you leave. I've had only a few follow me that I had to report. A lot of women think it's their fault because maybe it is. My mother too was abusive, stubborn, disrespect, irresponsible and spiteful. She made my father crazy on purpose, she had issues. Now she's abusive to my step dad who is a good man.
@azzntittiz agreed. It’s just a way to be passive and lazy. If you’re being abused, leave. It’s just that simple.
"If you’re a mentally stable and mentally aware person, you’ll leave"
"If you are drowning and you have limbs, you can get out of the water."
You have never been there so stop saying things you don't have first hand knowledge about.
@CubsterShura What are you doing in an abusive relationship at seventeen, shouldn't you be watching Hanna Montana?
@azzntittiz Who are you to decide what I should do with my life? Shouldn't you be minding your own business?
@CubsterShura Direct that anger at the person beating your ass, not little ole me.
@azzntittiz When did I say that I am in an abusive relationship? I'm much happier with my guy than you would ever possibly be in your life. Stop making assumptions about me already!
@CubsterShura You're seventeen, you have a happy delusional life now.
@CubsterShura people don’t drown due to lack of limbs😂😂
@azzntittiz Because you totally know what kind of life I have, right?
@You_Cant_See_Me I didn't say that, did I? -_-
@CubsterShura your analogy is no good. If you’re in a toxic relationship, then leave. That’s it. This isn’t too difficult
It's very difficult. Possible, but difficult, and it cannot happen instantly.
@CubsterShura Ok. I think you’re being genuine but I just don’t believe it. Maybe it’s because I’m so stubborn and strong willed.
No, it's because you're wrong and you never experienced being with a very abusive partner.
@CubsterShura ahhhh, so now you know exactly who I’ve been with throughout my lifetime 😅
Then you're exceptional.
@CubsterShura aw thank you.
@You_Cant_See_Me One time a girl in my country fled to England to escape an abusive partner. He followed her there and killed her.
@Dchrls78104 That's one real risk of abusive relationships! Also threatening to commit suicides.
@CubsterShura Another time a girl killed herself because she was being abused by her man and couldn't take the abuse any longer.
@Dchrls78104 I did not kill myself, but I did scar myself.
@CubsterShura I am sorry to hear these words which suggest that you were at one point involved in an abusive relationship. Criminals and cowards abuse their fellow humans and at all times should be condemned and held accountable for this violation of the most basic of human rights.
@Dchrls78104 Believe me when I say, you couldn't even tell that he's abusive. He was a well-disciplined studious guy and he has a good reputation in his school and family and even the people whom we both knew. Even now he surely does but not to me and my friend circle (including our mutual friends) anymore.
@CubsterShura It's not always possible to know an abuser until you're waist deep in the relationship because many abusers are crafty. They know what to say and do to gain your trust and get you to fall head over heels in love with them. Afterwards, when you are hopelessly connected to them just as they want, they show their real, inner, ugly selves.
Is that what you experienced?
@Dchrls78104 The experience is kind of like watching the sky darken. You keep looking and looking until you realize it's already dark.
@CubsterShura Those who don't like the darkness of night watch the sky anxiously for signs of morning. Its arrival fills them with relief.
Only for the victim of abuse, unless the abuser goes away or is put away, the morning never comes.
@CubsterShura Lmao yeah sure, you are trying to make abuse sound beautiful and poetic. You like being abused, you're one of those women that this k it means he loves you, and it's the only attention you get from him, so you're like ah, I'll take it. Bruh.
@azzntittiz Years ago Rihanna is said to have opined that it was OK if a woman's boyfriend beat her.
And then came Chris Brown.
Whether Rihanna really made this unfortunate statement or not, I have heard of women who subscribe to it. I think it lies somewhere between the Stockholm Syndrome and Masochism.
It is, in my opinion, the mindset of an individual in desperate need of psychological help.
@Dchrls78104 I think some women caused it on themselves, but I believe some men are just scumbag cowards who enjoy attacking women because they're weak. But whatever that may be, it shouldn't happen and it shouldn't be made to seem okay. As I said also, I've known too many women whose men want them to leave, she stalks him and causes him to beat her, because he's trying to make her hate him enough to go, disturbing stuff.
@azzntittiz One time in my country a guy was abusing his wife. The police were called to intervene and eventually shot and killed him.
She took to castigating the police for killing her husband.
@Dchrls78104 Wow, what could have he been doing so bad to get killed? I don't think if I love a man and called the cops on him, I'd want him to be killed. Unless my children and I were in grave danger, I'd want him to just be disarmed.
@azzntittiz Apparently he had been beating his wife.
@Dchrls78104 yes, but why couldn't they have just taken her put of harm's way? Why kill him? I can understand the shock the wife experienced seeing her husband get killed like that.
@azzntittiz I don't remember the whole story, but many in my country who are killed by the police have offered active resistance to them and even attacked the police with weapons.
@Dchrls78104 Oh, I see.
@Dchrls78104 Where are you from?
@azzntittiz I'm from Trinidad.
@Dchrls78104 Oh crap, I hear women are treated like garbage there. They have little to no rights, even the police abuses them and take advantage. Kinda like the same situation where I am from, Jamaica.
@azzntittiz It is often true. But many men here are treated no better.
Downright sad.
@azzntittiz If it were men alone who mistreated women, I should already have been married with kids!
@Dchrls78104 Well I stay to myself so I don't have to engage in the blame game.
@azzntittiz Me, too?
@azzntittiz Yes, me too!
@azzntittiz If that's how you interpreted my reply then you seriously lack some brain cells.
When I was cheated on, I just left, but without a fight
Very informative take... hopefully, people come to understand how destructive the relationship is...
Hopefully :)
Very good, it's a very sad topic, a lot of us are single, and it hurts to know how many ladies out there suffer at the hands of abusive men.
I were in a bad relationship once. ended it as soon as I sensed the bad taste of it.
just don't come to me saying shit like " but I love him/her"
Very true have been their in my life and no one even knew because i had to hide it
Good, but the "Solution" should be more in depth I think.
Men can be victims too. Men fear if they tell someone they will get laughed at.
Men also can't leave because nobody will believe them. All the support is set up for woman. Nothing for men
Very true. Good take!
Thank You :)
they can't handle change and there mind tells them better the devil you know
They can just leave, its not that they can't its that they don't want to. Most of these girls actively seek out abusers because its sexually arousing them to get abused.
Too bad some people are victims.
I've been there, and I agree with all you've said.
I think they can just leave
Nice take