I think that's fair. Your ex cheated on you, and you hate her, seems to make sense. However, when you eventually calm down enough to think about it, and I'm sure you will soon enough, then maybe think about WHY it happened. It's EASY to say they're a TERRIBLE and ROTTEN person to the very CORE and that's why they did wrong by you. Maybe you're right, but it wouldn't hurt to examine some of the reasons as to why, ok maybe it would, but maybe it'd prevent the next one from exploding in your face. I'm NOT saying it was or wasn't your fault. Just to go back and think about what happened to prevent it from happening again, to notice the signs and to try and talk more to stop this from happening. May you find happiness in this life Anon.
I have never cheated, nor have dated anyone who's cheated. I don't think I'd do this anytime soon, I hope I never do. However, I daresay for some who are cheating, that the wrongness of it IS what makes it sexy. That's a whole facet of why men want to bone nurses, teachers, students, etc. BECAUSE it's wrong, so please don't pretend they don't have a conscious. Most of them know exactly what they're doing, it just wasn't enough to stop them. Besides, most of the time I think it's less about horniness. If you're horny you can just wank, it's a matter of wanting emotional fulfillment and not having the ability to just talk to their partner about it.
@Edward_323 yeah I know all about this topic, don't need anyone to critique my definition, and cheaters are not necessarily bad people, just messed up, insecure, and Disloyal.
You having experienced cheating doesn't mean you "know all about this topic". You do indeed "don't need anyone to critique your definition". You can feel free to not reply as well. But that's getting a bit reductive. I wasn't critiquing your definition, I was saying that you were straight up WRONG, homie. They do have a conscious, that's a big factor for WHY people cheat.
And a sperate point about your reply is that they're not necessarily insecure and disloyal. Loyalty is NOT absolute. People waver and trip and fall. I'm sure it's great for movies to say that "snitches get stitches", but frankly lots and lots of people cooperate with the police. Just cause your partner or someone else's partner cheated doesn't mean they are somehow completely disloyal. On top of that, don't you think that some really fucking secure people cheat too? That may be a big reason why they do, cause they think they can and should get away with it (I'm not AGREEING with their thinking, just saying that I think it happens.)
That's kind of a nonsensical reply. I don't see what my having siblings or not has to do with what I was discussing. Nor does saying I'm "waffling" somehow dismiss the argument. It just means you're not willing to engage, that's fine. Just want to say for the record that this doesn't somehow prove that I agree with your opinion.
@Edward_323 definition of no conscience, an individual who lacks the empathy or consideration to care about another person's feelings, they know it's bad, they don't care. Your definition is different.
Liberating and empowering. Sure. Where do you come up with this stuff? Do you make it up or read it somewhere? And why are you trying to comment on something you don't know anything about? Typical.
You are 61 which makes me aware that age really doesn't mean being mature enough to respect others or even hide your prejudice against people you know nothing about. I don't owe you any explanations but since you accuse me of so many ridiculous things i can tell you that: 1. I've been engaged once but I was cheated even if we were happy. I was diagnosed with terminal cancer and it scared both of us. 2. I AM A THERAPIST. I dont need articles to know about relationships like you. I deal with many cases on daily basis. 3. Don't put your past frustrations of unhappy relationships on me. It seems you have no other thing going on in your life other than be online. Sorry about your failed attempts of love. If you were cheated because of a terrible marriage, dont blame other possible different people who were actually happy when for a impulsive mistake, ruined their lives.
Ah, just one more snowflake looking for validation and agreement. No, respect is earned - so far ya got nuthin', just more shaming. YOU are the failure. Oh well. At least you're transparent about it.
Woah! Youāre completely wrong there dude. How old are you? How much experience with women have you had that you can paint a whole gender with one label? Maybe the girls that youāve come across are unfaithful but the majority of us are. Iām in a relationship and itās not perfect. No relationship is. Every one has their ups and downs but I wouldnāt trade him for anything.
Are you serious? Women are biologicaly unfaithful? Ok Doctor Dumbass where do you get this from was it watching your mom run around with every adult male you knew. Or is it because some chick fucked around on you. I seriously pity you. Do you not have any woman in your life who has morals like an aunt or grandma a sister perhaps. I started writing this with a bit of anger to someone I thought was just a closed minded asshole but I finish writing this to a poor little boy who never saw any of the women in his life be faithful. I am truly sorry kid sorry that they all let you down.
You sound like a child. Iām 30 years old. I am way past the stage of dating someone purely because they are rich or hot. You get to a point where that doesnāt matter anymore. Iām more concerned if the guy is respectful and honest with me. Iāve dated a guy who is relatively wealthy before and he treated me very badly so no I wouldnāt trade up if someone richer came along.
Attractiveness is subjective. What one person finds attractive another person may not. For example some guys are more into blondes and some are more into redheads. I think you need to grow up a bit kid before making such silly comments.
@Kimrav1988 "anymore". So you admit that at one stage all you wanted was rich hot guys and you would cheat to "upgrade". I rest my case.
@Stockton women are biologically wired to sleep around in order to find the best mate who can best provide for her. If she has a man, she will be tempted to cheat to upgrade on her current man. You can live a little deluded dream where girls are perfect and loyal. They aren't.
I am living in no dream, little boy. I have been in the real world long before you were even a regret. I have lived and loved and had my heart broken and been lifted to the heavens by different women. You have no frame of reference for your assumption. You have barely been through puberty. Little one I don't know what has happened to you fill you with such disdain of women. Yeah some cheat and some don't just like some guys cheat and some don't. You are making such a wide and uneducated assumption about half the world's population, my favorite half. You come off like a infant who can't stop crying because he shit himself and no one will change him. I hope you are capable of personal growth otherwise your life will be one of misery.
I have never cheated on anyone in my life. Iām a pretty honest person. I never admitted to cheating anywhere in my post. Maybe you should learn to read. I really hope as you get older you have a more positive attitude otherwise youāre going to be a very lonely man
Cheating although as terrible as it is it's not illegal where as hitting a person is. It simply wouldn't stand up in court if they pressed charges against you. Just do something they can't do and that's to be the better person by showing some self control.
@Goodwifie believe me, I have. I stayed faithful. I told her it was over, and told her to move out... I even helped her carry her bags out. I never want see or hear from her again.
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Addiction /attachments sucks.
I'm getting addicted to gag and its making me go crazy.
I have no idea I've never heard of a happy person cheating before
Why? Because "happy" people can still be sick, evil fuckwads who deserve to die in a fire. That's why.
my ex heated on me and i hate her so i dont care what the excuses are because they are all stupid. there's never a reason to cheat on anyone ever
I think that's fair. Your ex cheated on you, and you hate her, seems to make sense. However, when you eventually calm down enough to think about it, and I'm sure you will soon enough, then maybe think about WHY it happened. It's EASY to say they're a TERRIBLE and ROTTEN person to the very CORE and that's why they did wrong by you. Maybe you're right, but it wouldn't hurt to examine some of the reasons as to why, ok maybe it would, but maybe it'd prevent the next one from exploding in your face. I'm NOT saying it was or wasn't your fault. Just to go back and think about what happened to prevent it from happening again, to notice the signs and to try and talk more to stop this from happening. May you find happiness in this life Anon.
Because they get horny, and can get away with it, and have no conscience.
I have never cheated, nor have dated anyone who's cheated. I don't think I'd do this anytime soon, I hope I never do. However, I daresay for some who are cheating, that the wrongness of it IS what makes it sexy. That's a whole facet of why men want to bone nurses, teachers, students, etc. BECAUSE it's wrong, so please don't pretend they don't have a conscious. Most of them know exactly what they're doing, it just wasn't enough to stop them. Besides, most of the time I think it's less about horniness. If you're horny you can just wank, it's a matter of wanting emotional fulfillment and not having the ability to just talk to their partner about it.
@Edward_323 yeah I know all about this topic, don't need anyone to critique my definition, and cheaters are not necessarily bad people, just messed up, insecure, and Disloyal.
You having experienced cheating doesn't mean you "know all about this topic". You do indeed "don't need anyone to critique your definition". You can feel free to not reply as well. But that's getting a bit reductive. I wasn't critiquing your definition, I was saying that you were straight up WRONG, homie. They do have a conscious, that's a big factor for WHY people cheat.
And a sperate point about your reply is that they're not necessarily insecure and disloyal. Loyalty is NOT absolute. People waver and trip and fall. I'm sure it's great for movies to say that "snitches get stitches", but frankly lots and lots of people cooperate with the police. Just cause your partner or someone else's partner cheated doesn't mean they are somehow completely disloyal. On top of that, don't you think that some really fucking secure people cheat too? That may be a big reason why they do, cause they think they can and should get away with it (I'm not AGREEING with their thinking, just saying that I think it happens.)
@Edward_323 Edward go play with your siblings, you got no idea what you are waffling on about.
That's kind of a nonsensical reply. I don't see what my having siblings or not has to do with what I was discussing. Nor does saying I'm "waffling" somehow dismiss the argument. It just means you're not willing to engage, that's fine. Just want to say for the record that this doesn't somehow prove that I agree with your opinion.
@Edward_323 definition of no conscience, an individual who lacks the empathy or consideration to care about another person's feelings, they know it's bad, they don't care. Your definition is different.
Liberating and empowering. Sure. Where do you come up with this stuff? Do you make it up or read it somewhere? And why are you trying to comment on something you don't know anything about? Typical.
Excuse me?
Your commenters get it better than you. Happy couples in love don't cheat.
Been on both sides of this - rather a bit of an expert on it. You write like you read some article somewhere and poached it. That's my guess.
So, tell us your qualifications. How long have you been married? How many times? How many times have you cheated and been cheated on?
My guess is zero, zilch, nada, nothing, a big hole. :)
You are 61 which makes me aware that age really doesn't mean being mature enough to respect others or even hide your prejudice against people you know nothing about.
I don't owe you any explanations but since you accuse me of so many ridiculous things i can tell you that:
1. I've been engaged once but I was cheated even if we were happy. I was diagnosed with terminal cancer and it scared both of us.
2. I AM A THERAPIST. I dont need articles to know about relationships like you. I deal with many cases on daily basis.
3. Don't put your past frustrations of unhappy relationships on me. It seems you have no other thing going on in your life other than be online. Sorry about your failed attempts of love. If you were cheated because of a terrible marriage, dont blame other possible different people who were actually happy when for a impulsive mistake, ruined their lives.
Have a nice rest of life!
Ah, just one more snowflake looking for validation and agreement. No, respect is earned - so far ya got nuthin', just more shaming. YOU are the failure. Oh well. At least you're transparent about it.
Old man, go feed the ducks.
I only do that on my day off. ;)
LOL!
Makes sense. The less you care about other people's feelings and attachments, the happier you are.
I think there are a lot of good thoughts in this article.
I am against cheating, but curious about consensual non monogamy
Girls are biologically unfaithful I think. They are wired to always upgrade on their boyfriend in order to get a guy who can better provide for her.
Woah! Youāre completely wrong there dude. How old are you? How much experience with women have you had that you can paint a whole gender with one label? Maybe the girls that youāve come across are unfaithful but the majority of us are. Iām in a relationship and itās not perfect. No relationship is. Every one has their ups and downs but I wouldnāt trade him for anything.
@Kimrav1988 ummmm ok
If a hotter, more fun and richer guy came along Iām not sure if youād still say that.
Are you serious? Women are biologicaly unfaithful? Ok Doctor Dumbass where do you get this from was it watching your mom run around with every adult male you knew. Or is it because some chick fucked around on you. I seriously pity you. Do you not have any woman in your life who has morals like an aunt or grandma a sister perhaps. I started writing this with a bit of anger to someone I thought was just a closed minded asshole but I finish writing this to a poor little boy who never saw any of the women in his life be faithful. I am truly sorry kid sorry that they all let you down.
You sound like a child. Iām 30 years old. I am way past the stage of dating someone purely because they are rich or hot. You get to a point where that doesnāt matter anymore. Iām more concerned if the guy is respectful and honest with me. Iāve dated a guy who is relatively wealthy before and he treated me very badly so no I wouldnāt trade up if someone richer came along.
Attractiveness is subjective. What one person finds attractive another person may not. For example some guys are more into blondes and some are more into redheads. I think you need to grow up a bit kid before making such silly comments.
@Stockton Dr. Dumbass, first name Anonymous. I think this guy's pathetic.
@Kimrav1988 "anymore". So you admit that at one stage all you wanted was rich hot guys and you would cheat to "upgrade". I rest my case.
@Stockton women are biologically wired to sleep around in order to find the best mate who can best provide for her. If she has a man, she will be tempted to cheat to upgrade on her current man. You can live a little deluded dream where girls are perfect and loyal. They aren't.
I am living in no dream, little boy. I have been in the real world long before you were even a regret. I have lived and loved and had my heart broken and been lifted to the heavens by different women. You have no frame of reference for your assumption. You have barely been through puberty. Little one I don't know what has happened to you fill you with such disdain of women. Yeah some cheat and some don't just like some guys cheat and some don't. You are making such a wide and uneducated assumption about half the world's population, my favorite half. You come off like a infant who can't stop crying because he shit himself and no one will change him. I hope you are capable of personal growth otherwise your life will be one of misery.
I have never cheated on anyone in my life. Iām a pretty honest person. I never admitted to cheating anywhere in my post. Maybe you should learn to read. I really hope as you get older you have a more positive attitude otherwise youāre going to be a very lonely man
The two of you are so delusional lol.
There can never be a justifiable reason to cheat.
I agree strongly, but there certainly are reasons, and it's folly to pretend there isn't.
@Edward_323 Such as?
There's no excuse for cheating. Period.
Cheating is a shitty thing to do. This is one time I think it's permissible for men and women to hit each other.
Cheating although as terrible as it is it's not illegal where as hitting a person is.
It simply wouldn't stand up in court if they pressed charges against you.
Just do something they can't do and that's to be the better person by showing some self control.
@Goodwifie believe me, I have. I stayed faithful. I told her it was over, and told her to move out... I even helped her carry her bags out. I never want see or hear from her again.
@Goodwifie but even though I was angry and hurt, I kept my composure. I don't want to hurt her.
@PIGVOMIT72 That's it be the better person š.
Although personally I would have thrown the bags out the door.
@Goodwifie tempting as that is, 2 wrongs don't make a right.
@PIGVOMIT72 I know m8 š
@Goodwifie I don't agree with you.
Are you seriously supporting violence?
When it comes to cheating, yes.
Iām not happy unless I cheat.
I'm so sorry. I hope you find the help you need.
Iām ready to get some on the side
i see nothing wrong with cheating
can't keep it in there trousers
*their
@Anon-ymous1 Thanks
Yeah, kay.
Great take!
Nice