5 Reasons Why People Cheat On Their Significant Others

[BarbieSoFetch]

1. They aren't truly in love

Being in love can be confusing. Sometimes the feeling you once had about the other person may no longer be apparent. They are probably in love with someone else but don't want to hurt you.

2. They want to experience another person

I've known married people who thought about cheating on their significant other because of their sexual experience. Marrying at a young age can be the reason many people cheat on their spouses. It's not because they don't love them, it's because they haven't experienced another man or woman. Life is short and imagine not being able to experience all of it's sensations because you made a commitment.

3. They aren't loyal

While a significant other may be madly in love with someone, sexual desires can be strong. Other men and women can be very malicious with their intentions, therefore making a lonely spouse an easy hit-and-quit.

4. They just wanted a quick nut

Though more common with men, sexual desires are strong and tempting. When another beautiful man or woman offer themselves for the taking for just a night and nothing more, temptation takes its course. Most men or women who cheat just want to satisfy their sexual desires without any personal intent of feelings or attachment.

5. They are douchebags

There are some people who just cannot keep it in their pants and have no real intention on staying with you for the long run. Some people do it for malicious reasons, such as revenge or to hurt their significant other. I honestly hope you never meet this person.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are people who are not really in love but they don't cheat. They may end up leaving the relationship, but they don't cheat.

There are people who want to experience another person but they don't cheat. They may end up leaving the relationship, but they don't cheat.

There are people who just want a quick nut but they don't cheat. They may go find a private place for a solo session, but they don't cheat.

There are people who are douche bags but they don't cheat. They may end up leaving the relationship, and they may be genuine assholes, but they don't cheat.

There is one reason why people cheat. They feel no guilt about ignoring their promise to be faithful. They think only of their immediate sexual gratification and nothing else matters. They suffer from a character defect. That is why they cheat.

[Goodwifie]

Agreed.
My husband wasn't giving much of a reason to love him yet I still didn't cheat.

[Charleslvajr]

@Goodwifie That's why you're a goodwife.

[red324]

@Goodwifie Did he cheat? Is the marriage you've been raving about on the rocks?

[Goodwifie]

@red324 my marriage hasn’t been perfect and it still needs work but we’re closer than ever before.
Then again marriage needs constant care and attention.

[red324]

@Goodwifie I see.

[red324]

You're still good looking compared to most women your age recalling from your picture.

[Charleslvajr]

@Goodwifie After 16 years I definitely can agree that a marriage is constantly in need of care and consideration. It's not a one time and done event but an evolving and growing experience.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Charleslvajr Being a partner in a marriage is like being a gardener. With constant attention, you can have a bountiful harvest. With neglect, the garden goes to weeds.

[Charleslvajr]

I agree wholeheartedly. Many people these days fail to realize you still need to do the weeding to succeed.

[Goodwifie]

The grass is greener where you water it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[red324]

@Goodwifie it's when both people quit trying that problems arise.

[Goodwifie]

@red324 yep we both gave up.
I thought a loveless marriage is what my husband wanted.

[Anon-ymous1]

... No.

[OatsnWhey]

very well put

[Logorithim]

Great points. How about revenge/getting back on their partner for cheating or other reasons?

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing I'll get a bunch of downvotes,
but can't a person love more than one person at the same time? If love is so great, don't we all want a lot of a good thing? I don't know since when commitment and love became equivalent and interchangeable. I guess since us possessive humans want a good thing all to ourselves? We get "cheated" on because of our unrealistic expectations from love, because we are confusing ourselves and expecting "commitment" from "love" when they are in fact unrelated. The only thing that relates them is our "possessiveness".
But think about it this way: Parents love all of their children (and grandchildren) and they usually have more than one. Children love both of their parents and wouldn't like to lose either of them. You probably love your aunts and uncles and grandparents, and would like to keep all of them at the same time. People who are pet lovers have more than one pet a lot of times but love all of them. Even with stuff, when you like a certain category of items, you like to own a collection of them. Ever had a hard time deciding which car to buy or which pair of shoes or handbag, and ended up wishing you could afford them all?
Yes, love is a constant competition, even though we try to take the edge off by asking for commitment. Which is a kind of competition in itself: "If you think I'm sooo great, then it's either ONLY me and you drop everyone else, or you don't get to have me at all." This unrealistic force we put on our partner, comes back to bite us in the form of cheating after the novelty wears off.
It might be very harsh, but it is the way we think primitively and primarily in our raw minds, before we create the fancy confusion of "commitment" to mask our possessiveness from the one we love. Just like the supply-demand rule that runs our markets.
Did you know that after the exact age of 36 months, possessiveness awakens in the human child, and that if a child over 36 months gets a new sibling, he/she views it as a BETRAYAL (of love) by his/her parents, and is greatly damaged by it.
Even I would personally prefer it was otherwise and I could have a full safe commitment from my lover, and I absolutely do not want to accept it this way. But, it is what it is.

[Opinion Owner]

It's like expecting a hungry child not to get into the cookie jar, and accusing him of being a dirty thief if he does.
How many of you would run for other partners the day your current SO agrees to it and fully accepts to forgive you and stay with you while you do so?

[CubsterShura]

Some people are saying that maybe the significant other couldn't give what he/she wanted that's why he/she chose to do this.

My ex never gave me time. But I didn't cheat on him! I waited for months before I finally dumped his ass, and till the last moment I was loyal. I did whatever I wanted to do AFTER I dumped him.

The one and only exception where cheating is justified is in case of compulsion. When you are left with no other choice. And most of the time when people think that they have no other choice, they actually do. Even then one should try to maintain as much loyalty as they can.

I'll give one example. Suppose a girl is forced to marry someone when she already had a lover. And her husband and in-laws are toxic. It's better for her going out to meet her lover and talk to him and then they both discuss their issue to figure out a way to escape from this.

[Guardian412]

Option 6. The significant other can't give something what the other one can give. I'm in a situation like this where the girl I'm dating with has a boyfriend. And I'm well aware that their relationship doesn't work at all as the woman wants. So that's why I came into the picture as there is something in me, what the other guy can't give to her. In our case its care and attention. Her significant other is a douchebag, cares usually only about him and his career. Me on the other hand I care about her. Is it her fault? Not at all. Is it my fault? Nope. Its the fault of her douchebag friend.

[LegateLanius]

why doesn't she leave him?

[coralee]

I agree with the other person. Why doesn't she just break-up with him and be with you. If she's not happy in her relationship she should get out of it.

[Guardian412]

@LegateLanius Good question.

[Guardian412]

@coralee People are usually stick with the "sure, but bad" unless they're not sure in themselves.

[avakarolinaava]

he said i wasn't keeping up my appearance, so he cheated on me with one of my used to be friends. i say im living life my way!

[BarbieSoFetch]

Good for you. We live and learn.

[SarahsSummer]

aside from some people not ready for relationships, cheating usually comes down to one reason. not getting ones needs met in the relationship. Cheating is not justified by any means but communication is necessary to be sure both partners are aware of the others needs and are able to try and provide them. If one or both partners can't provide those needs, the relationship is not a good match and both are best to move on. Anything less than that is just selfishness.

[Anonymous]

It is very interesting... and I might found myself engage with a cheater atm... if he is then he's definitely all of them!
And I would never trust the bs that they would leave their wife for me. Because if they can cheat on their wife who is to say they won't cheat on you?

[BarbieSoFetch]

Exactly what I always advise them of.

[NJ_Casanova]

Don't need to read it... They are WEAK and don't have the balls to break up and Don't want to be alone if it doesn't work with the other person... Plain and Simple.

Any other reasons are just EXCUSES.

FYI, anyone that says they still love the person they are cheating on... IS Full of SHIT... or have the Lowest Morals/standards of LOVE... Possible.

Cheaters should automatically lose 100% of their stuff... instead of 50/50 for divorces.

[BarbieSoFetch]

38 and still haven't come to accept the fact that prejudice isn't cool? Love doesn't come so easy and doesn't leave easily.

[NJ_Casanova]

Says the (15 yr old), LMFAO.

Only real reason Love doesn't come easy.. is Because of the FAKE/lying/WEAK people you describe in this post.

[MyExBackCoach]

Dr. John Gottman is one of the world's leading researches of relationships. He has found that most affairs are about seeking friendship, support, understanding, and validation.

Some people cheat because they are sorry individuals. But sometimes it's because they aren't with a great person or at least not with someone who is being good to them.

I'm not taking sides, I'm just saying that sometimes it's not just that the cheater is a bad person.

[lord_chilled]

Disagree with 2) completely.

" Marrying at a young age can be the reason many people cheat on their spouses. It's not because they don't love them, it's because they haven't experienced another man or woman"

Statistically, this is wrong.
People who marry their firsts are much less likely to cheat or divorce than those who slept around.

The more sexual experience you have, the more likely you are to cheat.
Think about it, if you have had more people you are used to more variety and more likely to crave it.

Also , its more likely that your current partner isn't the best you ever had, the more priors you have had.

People who have slept around more are much more likely to cheat and less likely to stay loyal.

So instead of what you said as 2) , it should say, sexual expereince: people who jave had too much sexual experience are more likely to cheat since they crave variety.

[ThePundertaker]

Your significant other can’t cheat on you if you never had one...

[windknowsmyname]

My reasons
- she's fucking boring
- she play games
- she cheated 1st
- she no fun to be around
- relationship was not worth the wai
- with hold sex
- girl is dumb as 2 bricks can't take the hint that i told her i didn't love her.

Now personally i never cheated in my life. Id communicate that i lost interest and break it off. But that list is mentally my reasons.

[azzntittiz]

I have met a few number fives who wanted to hurt me because they felt like showing me they can steal cheat on someone like myself.

[BarbieSoFetch]

Hopefully you'll never meet someone like that again.

[Prof_Don]

Some people cheat because some people are just not mentally built at that place and time of their life... to be monogamous.

Others cheat because their current relationship is missing something, and that missing piece (attention, sex, etc.) is fulfilled through cheating.

[Anonymous]

People cheat because they are emotionally unsatisfied in their relationships, and sexual satisfaction is a big part of emotional satisfaction, especially for men. In my experience that sums up the reasons behind most infidelity among men. I think we tend to overthink this issue.

[Lady_Frost]

Very clear, short and straight to the point! This was outstanding!

I would add another reason, which is starving your partner sexually and it makes them feel unloved. It drives them to cheat.

[DiegoO]

Anyone can cheat with a perfect storm of tons of distress caused by many factors that are intrinsic more than extrinsic.

Out of hatred several are going to say cheaters will allways be cheaters, and it's not the case. People change.

Cheating is the result of unsolve internal issues. Is an agresive respond of how somebody's feel towards an unwanted situation into a relationship. In other words is no way an assertive way to solve problems, or conflicts in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I"ve met number five.

Anyway as much as I love the female race I have to say women are more likely to go after taken men than single men because "he is in demand". It is absolutely incredible how many more women show interest in me when I'm in a relationship vs. when I'm single.

This is a double whammy. The taken guy gets tempted and the single guy gets further rejected. Ladies you REALLY need to control your fantasies about sleeping with a taken man. It hurts EVERYBODY in the long run.

[HOAAH]

Or their partner is having too much problems, they don't know how to deal so they cheat go escape their problems

[Anonymous]

Some say that people under stress and pressure, especially men , are more likely to cheat.
It all depends on the character development and how strong you are as a person.
Personally, I never cheated, even when I was in a relationship where my partner started losing interest, loss of communication, I started craving closeness of another person, I didn't feel in love anymore but I still didn't do it. After 3 months we broke up and I found out that he did...