Hello all,
I've been thinking about writing a second Take and I decided to write it about one of the most precious thing in our lives which is "Love".
I planned to write it as one Take, but when I realized it took more than at least 12000 letters, I decided to divide it into parts depending on their length.
It will be covering six topics as "Romance, Respect, Empathy, Loyalty, Sacrifice and Passion" in order.
There won't be any attendance in this course, so you can leave whenever you feel.
So, welcome to the first lecture.
To begin with, what is love?
Almost all of us eventually fall for it, fall for someone and we do have feelings, because we are humans. We cannot escape from this feeling no matter what kind of personality we have, eventually we like someone, we do fancy them and we fall for them in time.
However..
How much we know we really love them?
What if we didn't be sure our feelings and it was just an illusion?
How do we know we didn't deceive ourselves and it was all about enthusiasm, attraction?
Love is a serious thing. Love is not child's play. Love is not anything you can suddenly have and lose it in the same month. If you ever experienced, then you used love in a cheap way and before it even really existed, it already destroyed itself.
So, what exactly is love?
Love is a living thing to me, it has organs inside it just like us, it gets old it gets young from time to time and they are so important things that we must always take care of them. Luckily, love is something amazing enough where we can make it live for the all time as long as we know how to take care of it.
1- Romance
Personally, romance is the strongest core in love which triggers us all at the beginning. Before loving someone, we all have aesthetic standards and we do want to find ones we will fancy. I wanted to add aesthetics & looks into the romance part, because speaking for myself I can never start having attraction to someone in an emotional way before I fancy their looks.
Some people have heart to fall without even looks, they just care about who they really are and this is another way of looking at love. This is actually seeming something very cute, pure but it also has a time bomb where it can explode anytime in future. I dated with boys that I really fancied their looks, but I didn't start a relationship with any of them, because I didn't like their personality and they were never the ones I was going to love.
Am I shallow? Maybe for some of you, but the thing is what I do is the healthy way for real love. Just even thinking in a simple way, would it be easier to lose someone you just love them for their personality or someone melts your heart just even with their beauty and also great personality. Physical attractions have more deep values than we are realize. All those values increases how much we can sacrifice for them without we even realize.
I am not talking about how love can exist, I am talking about how it normally should be. Because either one of the six parts I am going to talk about is missing, then this love will start getting weaker in time.
Let's return to the romance' s real meaning. Romance is the heart of the love where no matter how much flaws it may have, we sometimes just can't break up and still want to keep the things up for only romance. Because the emotional attraction, the bond between two persons still attract them to each other. A relationship where it is based on benefits where romance doesn't exists is just a relationship without real love. The exciment makes us blind for the love, feeling the warmth of it in our heart makes us wanting to take further steps. Because for even very casual things in our lives, when there is no passion for it, they are just wastable for us.
If you have a relationship and if you really think you are in love, then for me please think of when did you make your love actually smiled with your lovely words. In a relationship where love is existing, the attraction and the exciment between partners can never end. This is a thing where we just cannot get bored or tired of it. Be as much as poetic you can be to your partners, be yourself always, do not copy anything from anywhere.
Your love always knows who you are and either you compliment them in a poetic or poor way, they will know you tried to make them smile, so they could feel were loved. Never stop fancying your partner, never stop complimenting to them in natural ways where they won't feel it was fake. I am not telling you cannot love them without doing all these, you may not believe in true love either but I do and this the way how I see it perfectly.
If you haven't done anything to make your love smile today, the day has still not over yet and you have time for it.
That's the end for today, a big thank you for coming to the lesson and reading about my view. I'll catch you in the next course.
-Selina_Kyle_
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