I’m Not a Good Candidate For a Relationship or Intimacy, and That Is Okay!

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I’m Not a Good Candidate For a Relationship or Intimacy, and That Is Okay!

I decided to make this Take because you don’t see this perspective often, simply because most people want, hope and even know they will have a relationship and intimacy in their life, but I am not one of them! Not only do I not want a relationship or intimacy, but I am not a good candidate either and that’s okay! I am realistic and very self aware, which I consider a gift to make this decision.


To make it short and sweet, I am not good enough and THAT IS OKAY. Now, most of you are thinking, this is probably an insecure pretty girl that deserves love and is throwing a pity party. I am currently 290 pounds. That thought immediately left your mind right? Relationships and intimacy go hand in hand, and it’s hard to be intimate when one doesn’t find you sexually attractive. You’re probably thinking, just lose weight? I am actively losing weight and I am down 30 pounds since January 1! However, when I become skinny, it won’t necessarily change my outer appearance. I will still have broad shoulders, saggy boobs, love handles, narrow hips, man hands/feet, extremely dark inner thighs/butt/vagina, dozens of stretch marks on my stomach/upper arms/back/thighs, strawberry skin on my breasts/legs, dozens of scars on my arms/legs/butt and loose skin! Let’s be honest what is attractive about this? The point of sex is to turn a guy on, not make him instantly soft and running for the hills! 😂


Also, I have a very bland personality, awkward and shy. Now, do you know who isn’t like this or have horrendous bodies? The majority of women! I personally wanted a relationship and intimacy until I asked myself a realistic question. Who would want me? Then it hit me. There are millions of women who are significantly better than me physically, emotionally and personality wise. Why would someone want to be with me when there are millions of better options out there lol? I’d feel guilty, inconsiderate and selfish being with someone knowing I am holding them back from their fullest potential. It’s seriously not okay! Now I personally do not want a relationship or intimacy which is reasonable in my situation. I’ve seen men say that women have changed their lives, they are amazing and even want to marry them, and I can’t imagine someone seeing that in me. However, it’s a win win situation. I prevent a guy from being with a bland girl with a disgusting body when he can do better, and I never have to feel guilty, selfish and inconsiderate!


I genuinely hope there is no one out there like me. You DESERVE love and happiness with someone. You’re a beautiful person no matter your size or personality and there are people out there that would be lucky and thankful to have you! It can take time but please know, you are wanted and there is someone out there for you. I DO NOT want or need pity, to be told I will find someone, etc, because that will not change how I feel and I know what is best. This is simply to share my point of view. You can even tell me I’m right about this and I won’t get offended lol. I hope you enjoyed reading a different perspective! 😊🖤

I’m Not a Good Candidate For a Relationship or Intimacy, and That Is Okay!
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