I just started a relationship (friendship?) with this guy that I like. Well, not exactly... we had our first conversation recently. Anyways, it's obvious that the guy likes me back but we're taking baby steps. We haven't declared the feelings to each other but you can tell that there's something there. I kinda don't feel like we should be together but then again I haven't made my mind up on it yet. Anyways here's why we shouldn't be together if we ever were to have that official conversation.
You're a social butterfly
- If we got married you would invite every person you have ever came in contact with. From Brooklyn to all of Florida's cities. I mean it's not a "hey man, how are you?" but rather a thirty minute stand up conversation. You have created actual meaningful relationships with these people. I will be shaking hands with the masses that you have discovered when we date. "Oh! Babe this is..." x500
I mean you drove hours to come to a cookout on a sweaty, hot day with sports being played. It's very clear that you're an extrovert. That's just not me at all and I don't do sports.
I'm not a party person so what will happen if you wanna go to a party and some hot girl who is an extrovert just like you begins to flirt with you? I won't be there to check her. Am I supposed to be dragged to places or events that I don't feel comfortable at because you enjoy them?
I am finding myself and working on the person that I want to become. Maybe you'll have a part in that. I hear the best things happen when you step out of your box.
You have a relationship with Her
I have seen you guys smile at each other. You have followed her back inside. You traveled to New York with her. It was a group youth trip but still. She also served you some food at the cookout (and other people.) You sat across from her at service. She has told you to take your blazer off (it was a hot day, I'll admit). I don't wanna get in the middle of that whatever y'all have going on, of course. Maybe she's just friendly well TOO FRIENDLY but y'all are light years ahead in y'all friend/relationship. I would just hate to get in the middle of that.
You had a thing with another girl before me
So when I like a guy I become this FBI agent to protect myself. Why should I fall madly in love with a man to just reveal that he was on crack-cocaine for three years when I can just find that out on Facebook right there and then. It saves me time and wasted feelings and heartbreak. So anyway I find these pictures of him sitting shoulder to shoulder with some girl. Yes, these pictures are from April of last year and everyone is entitled to a past love life but HE WAS RUNNING GAME ON ANOTHER FEMALE.
Okay in all fairness she could have been your relative. But she dresses like a young woman.
You and her probably didn't blossom much past New York so you dropped her and now ya want me. I will not be second best!
You're a jokester, I'm not
Listen, I laugh every single day but at things that are funny. I hate people that are always joking. Can't ever tell if they're being serious. It's a roller coaster trying to figure out if they're joking or not. Then I have to whip out the fake smile just in case they are. How tiring it would be to spend an eternity with you! Jokesters are liars. I hate liars. How are you gonna claim a baby to be yours and then say you're kidding. (He likes me so he was probably trying to make me laugh.) Damn! We could've had a moment where we smiled and laughed at each other...I ruined it ;(
Brothers that I liked
Okay, I might have crushed on your younger brother for a couple of years. I tried to get close to him and lingered in eye contact with both of your brothers. BUT NOTHING EVER HAPPENED! Never anything sexual (ew, that's your brother). I never spoke to them. They never made any moves towards me other than stare back. All three of y'all look good.
That's kind of weird though. Gosh! Im such an eye whore. I didn't know you guys were related at first. I thought all y'all were just friends. This was before I ever liked you.
Sister has a relationship with a girl that's closer to your age
So there's this young woman that I am cordial with that I have seen play with and have your baby sister sit on her lap. She was having the time of her life with the young woman.Your sister has to be under ten years old. (I watched this happen before you tried to get my attention.) This means that your mother has probably met the young woman and sized her up for you. This young woman and you are much closer in age than you and I are. We're three years apart and she and you are one year apart. You two are a better match than me and you are. Plus your sister likes her already. ;)
You're Not What I Imagined
I imagined my partner to look the complete opposite of me. You know with different hair, skin tone, and culture. I'll have to cook traditional Haitian cuisine (that I've been eating all my life) to impress you and your family with.But, it is easier to teach my children Creole because you and I both speak the language. It's so much more than the appearance though. You treat me so well and you try to make me laugh and you treat me as a priority and you read my mind and you pursue me. There's something about you that I can't put my finger on but I find myself heavily drawn to you.
Just stepped into adulthood
Let me be me first. Let me finalize who I am and wanna be to the world first. Let me breathe! Say we are together for five years before we get married I'll only be twenty-three. (No, I don't think of marriage as some death trap with no freedom. However, I don't quite yet want to be making sure a man has eaten or washing a man's clothes at the age of twenty-four. ) I want to be with you and love you and honor and cherish you but I don't know if I'll be ready for all that in five years. It's too soon. It's frankly overwhelming. I wanna be me and responsible for me only and be selfish. So should we date for six years? Or should we be friends for two years first? Ah! 18+2+5= 25 I do imagine twenty-five being the perfect number for getting married.
Keep in mind we've only exchanged a couple of words and I do like him and yes he likes me. You see he didn't exactly process me dodging his advances towards me very well. (I couldn't keep my eyes off of him and he knew that) I actually like that. A man that knows what he wants and takes control of the situation. F***, I'm gonna end up ignoring all this and fall madly in love with him.
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