The Secret to a Strong Relationship: It’s Simpler Than You Think

[Anonymous]

Everyone wants a strong and lasting relationship, but the truth is there is no magic formula. Relationships don't fail because of one big mistake; they fall apart because of little things that go unnoticed.

Communication Is Everything
If you’re not talking, you’re not connecting. It’s easy to assume your partner knows what you’re thinking, but no one is a mind reader. Open and honest conversations, without judgment are the foundation of any successful relationship.

Effort Should Be Mutual
Love isn't just about feelings; it's about action. If one person is always making plans, apologizing first, or trying to fix things, resentment will build. A strong relationship is about teamwork; both people have to show up and put in the effort.

Don’t Lose Yourself
Many people make the mistake of becoming their relationship. While it’s great to be close to your partner, you also need your own life, hobbies, and friends. A healthy relationship is about growing together, not losing your individual identity.

Conflict Isn’t the Problem, It’s How You Deal With It
Every couple argues, but the difference between a strong relationship and a failed one is how those arguments are handled. Do you attack each other or do you try to understand and fix the problem? Learn to fight fairly and your relationship will last longer.

Ultimately, love isn’t about grand gestures or Instagram-worthy moments. It’s about supporting each other, choosing kindness, and making sure the little things don’t get lost in the chaos of life.

[MicahRaine]

This is a GREAT MyTake

Also, to your point about not losing yourself, there's an old couple that's been happily married for over 50 years and they said that "the best thing you can do for your partner is work on yourself"

[Summeroflove]

A true strong relationship takes equal work on both sides it takes communication and it takes loyalty as well as investment by both people.

A lot of people who are narcissists will drain the life out of empathetic people who just want to love and nurture someone. Who fall for their guilt tripping and sympathy tactics because good people project their goodness onto someone else while someone evil projects their wickedness onto someone. In their mind it’s all about hurting and using you before you can do it to them.

I agree too people shouldn’t sacrifice who they truly are to please someone else. Sometimes it’s trial and error some people simply aren’t meant to be with one another. Some people are meant for a season while others maybe aren’t meant at all but people try to force things that don’t work. Finding someone whose compatible is super important. To find someone looking for the same things as you are.

Conflict is another thing sure some things are dealbreakers. But some people refuse to have healthy communication. All relationships have bumps on the road (yes some more so then others) and all relationships have insecurities. It’s how people manage and deal with those things. Managing something is the short term it’s right now but also intervening the problem long term is super important as well.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The first 2 bullet points are valid, the 2 after them though are awful advice.

1. You do not need your own life and hobbies separate from your spouse, you need a spouse who also has that same life and hobbies. If they aren't mentally "another you", then you will get arguments, and the relationship will either fail or destroy you both, which brings me to your second bad advice.

2. Your wrong about arguments, compatible people have nothing to argue about, the right person will make you feel at ease even on the worst days, and genuinely agrees with you on anything that matters.

[overlord337645]

love it although i would add conflict makes relationships stronger now im not saying you should beat eachother up daily and apologize but when you argue and then work through it afterwards you both feel like you can handle anything and decide to invest more in the freindship

[exitseven]

Yes, i am a pretty closed off person. I was alone for a long time and never really had to provide much communication to anyone. This caused problems early in our marriage. I was used to coming and going as I pleased and never had answer to anybody.

[aquamarine321]

Brainwashing via social media, parents effluence, minor or major issues with who different individuals coming together with childhood trauma and they can benefit from being in that relationship as impacted the way how people view relationships, so people are more likely to give up on their relationships easily

[HungTexan]

Excellent points. We typically follow them all.

[yepthatsme1980]

I agree! It is called growing with one another. When my wife and I met almost 10years ago, we were both fit, attractive and looked good together. Fast forward 10 years and we both put on weight. I am just as attracted to her as I was 10 years ago.

[Manuelwe]

Tell you man your lover your menstrual and ovulation cycles. Are you a PMT or OMT sufferer.
Being honest and keep to your decision or explain way you change your mind

[WonderingManII]

I agree! I wish I could find someone that is willing to work at it as hard as I was.

[DishLady]

Amen. Well said.

[DishLady]

Oh my!!!

[Anonymous]

Very good but you also need a loyal and committed partner in the first place. It's no fun trying to make these things work on your own.

[Anonymous]

It is not really as simple as you make it out to be. These are complicated steps that a person must buy into before it works.

[strateguy632]

I agree.

[TheLovelyWoman]

Sex and money. Nothing more.

[Caroline005]

Communication is key.