You're Too Much of a Nice Guy

[RalphBlack]

Be a Well Balanced Man

You can't win the approval of everyone. Its like prostituting yourself.

When you become consumed with the idea of losing the attention or affection of a girl, you've already lost. Now, because of this, instead of being who you really are and allowing her to appreciate your magnificence, you are no longer being magnificent at being you. Instead, you're hanging around on her like a servant or a butler would.

Being Clingy is a Turn Off

Its going to be a turn off when you go down that path with any woman for that matter. When you know what you are doing and can love yourself in such a way that you can meet them and can love yourself in such a way that they feel free.

Whats amazing is that you can meet them, look into their eyes and you know they want you and they know that you want them. You can arrange a date, he date can start then and there on the spot and its like you're always together.

Its effortless and magical this way...

Never Chase Her

You've got to be willing to let that person go off and do their thing instead of chasing along after them. The key moments when they sense that being with you is really no different than being by themselves other than the fact that they get to share the awesomeness with you.

In other words, what I am trying to say is don't try to possess them, control them or get them to commit. Stop chasing them, and let them come to you

After a date or hookup, go back to their place then simply say, "Great! Call me later! And they call you later and arrange the next time you two are going to get together. And if its so easy, so effortless and you both in the same wave length, you've grown to that place where you've literally become the kind of person that you want to attract, you won't be able to get rid of them.

Let Go of the Past

The more you waste your time being strung up on the past, the more you see the struggle. The more you stay involved with people that are a struggle, things aren't going well or maybe it didn't work the first time, second time or third time eventually what is helpful about getting ex back you get to have experience of knowing how.

Nine times out of 10 what turned you off before is still there. Eventually you will get turned off, but you'll be able to end the relationship on your terms as apposed to always thinking...

"What if I had said this?"

"What if I had said that?"

"What if I had tried this?"

Instead, you'll walk away in peace with your head held high.

[PhiOmega]

I'm going to come off a bit dickish, but I've read a couple of takes like this today

And i have to say, it's articles like these, along with several disheartening post that make me belive GUYS r turning into pussies

These articles treating men like children, trying to nurse them and teach them "how to get a girl!" I feel conflict with much of the sentiment expressed

I remember when the advice was, "be yourself ", but now all this coddling... ugh

These takes are just like the spam articles all over the Internet "how to make girls want you"

wtf

[RalphBlack]

Well, as you have realized social interaction and relationships have changed ever since the internet introduced social networking and as it has gotten popular.

There is nothing wrong with the way people getting coached on how to be a little better as a person of who they are in this world. And the world is changing day by day.
Sure being yourself is the correct way to be but still a lot of people don't know how to be themselves or figure out how to find true contentment within themselves.
maybe you do not agree with some of this but hopefully you have gotten a little out of it
and when you possibly come across an experience that relates similar to what I talk about here then you will remind yourself of what you have read.
then you will make the choice whether or not to use it.

[PhiOmega]

Its not that there's not any merit to what you say, and it's not that it won't be beneficial to others, but i kno it's not 4 me

Me venting had nothing to do with how u presented it, but the fact that I've been seeing it back to back

I'm a bit of romantic i guess, and i understand a lot of romantic ideas are just cliche fairy tales, but i don't wanna look somewhere and be coached on getting a girl

If i could nvr find a soulmate then that's sad it would be a shame, but i still wanna believe i have another half out there who loves who i am, as i am

I wanna love her the way i wanna love her and i don't want someone to tell me "don't love her too much, it's not attractive" or anything like that

I feel like if your Google'ing "how to get a girl", "how to keep a girl", "how to please a girl", then your chasing the wrong damn girl she dose not want YOU, and to "fix" ur self for her is pointless, because there's going to be a girl out there who loves the way you love her smile

[RalphBlack]

Well the good advice tells you exactly that on the Internet. You are right about treating a woman right during a relationship but mostly in the beginning of a relationship, to get her comfortable with you then you can't constantly try to show her everything about you.
Let's say you like a girl and you really want to get to know her.
But then you call her constantly and text her 50 text messages before she can respond?
She might be busy at work or hanging out with her friends at the moment.
Then all these thoughts keep going through her head freaking out because you over pursue her and you aren't giving her a chance to think about you in a romantic way.
Instead *since she doesn't know you yet* she thinks that you have no life and may be controlling or a serial killer for that matter.
So let her get to know you by your positive actions and not by your negative actions.
sometimes the words that you think are going to make her smile may disturb her if you just met if actions (-)

[RalphBlack]

*if actions are negative

[PhiOmega]

Not saying I'd ever do that, but the guy that does probably just has some anxiety, we all get, we all get over it, if he's the type that has to read Somewhere how to get over it, well he's come to the right place

But if he's just a crazy dude, i say he should look for that crazy chick staring at her phone for a reply, really though I feel that something you want do you doing for three years straight before you learn your lesson

[PhiOmega]

Like i said, this is vry helpful for others, just not me

[RalphBlack]

I hope I'm no way that you think that I am offended by your way of thinking.
I just thought I would share my point of view, wisdom and knowledge.
This could help somebody learn or it could have been something related to an experience.
I respect your opinion though

[legalboxers]

nice article indeed. But you always will have that "What if" in your mind, and if you dont chase her, per say, she may not thing your interested, so its a catch 22

[RalphBlack]

you reach out to her. you don't chase her. chasing a girl is over pursuing which can come across as too needy, desperate and freak the woman out.
its like playing tag. The faster you chase then the faster they will run into another mans arms who tends to have his emotions more in check with masculinity and treating a woman in a way where she finds attractive

[RalphBlack]

"there is a difference between chasing and reaching out!"

[legalboxers]

I try and even that out, but I more go towards just sitting and watching, some ladies like being chased. The last 2 I knew expected me to them. My answer to them was "Chase you? do I look like the police?"

[RalphBlack]

Or you could say, "Chase you? Please, I only chase my liquor"

[legalboxers]

amen!!!

[RalphBlack]

Yeah, a girl will tell you they like being chased but a lot of times they are thinking something totally different than what they actually mean. Sure they want you to show interest and pursuing. But a woman who actually wants a real man wants a guy who shows true masculinity. She wants to feel safe. A lot of times guys who chase are acting needy and desperate *especially in the beginning* really freaks the girl out. Like if the girl didn't know better and was weirded out by the guys over pursuing whining about how he isn't getting her right away. Well then they get in a relationship and he is controlling her, not letting her hang out with her friends or family. A needy single man who chases is more likely to control. That is why it is important to show interest but to also work on a life outside of hers so that you can focus on hobbies, positive goals and your career to be a better man and a well rounded individual all together.
Lets say you guys break up for good or just have a long

[RalphBlack]

long break. A lot of those times a woman breaks up with you is because she sees that you will never change. So during that tie you have to prove to yourself that you can work on yourself and be a better man. Then she will wonder in that time what you are up to if you gave her space. If she sees no progress and especially if you are constantly chasing her by calling her constantly begging to get back together then it will turn her off. And if you got back together then nothing was fixed an the same results will happen over and over again

[legalboxers]

I turned 38 a few days ago, I may try the articles POV.

[RalphBlack]

Good luck! I suggest you watch Corey Waynes YouTube videos and also buy his book on amazon called "How to be a 3% man"
The name sounds deceiving but he named it that because this day in age only 3% of men in this world actually understand how to be a man for there woman and 97% of men have no clue.
If there is any person I would get advice from is this guy. He is not only a relationship coach but he is a life coach as well. Its psychological and scientific facts of the human body and behaviors so to speak.

[legalboxers]

TY for the MH!

[RalphBlack]

No problem

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with not chasing.
I feel that people should go after what they want, not wait for what they want to come to them.
If he wants her, he should chase her.
If she wants him, she should chase him.
I don't make him do ALL the work, but I don't want to do ALL the work myself either... it's take two.
Now, don't chase someone who's treating you poorly or giving "uninterested" signals, absolutely.
But if you like someone, I feel that one of the sexiest things a man can do is just to bluntly say that.
Maybe that's just me...

[RalphBlack]

Maybe that's just me

[Opinion Owner]

Huh? haha

[RalphBlack]

Oh nothing lol

[inamorata]

Agreed!

[Anonymous]

Three facts of life that suck for the kind hearted male:

1) If you are a dick to everyone, it means more to someone when you are nice to them suddenly. Also, when you suddenly show that niceness to a girl then resume dick behavior, she will keep and keep trying to see that niceness again.
2) Attractive girls get hit on all the time and respond more to asshole behavior. If you want to hookup with an extremely attractive girl, you have to be an asshole and pretend to be disinterested. She won't stop until you finally give in and fuck her. If you want to date an extremely attractive girl, tough shit bro. She has tons of guys just dying to be with her. One of them is probably smarter, richer, and more attractive. Help her get over herself, and move the fuck on.
3) The more you know someone, the more of an asshole you are to them. It's just human nature. If you're always nice to a girl, you don't know them well enough and you're doing something wrong. Figure out what you're doing wrong, fix it, and then actually get to know them. If she doesn't let you get to know her at that level, move the fuck on. If it turns out that you two aren't really compatible, move the fuck on.

[RalphBlack]

It depends on the attractive girl. Like I know this attractive girl who appears to have the heart of gold.
She's even admitted that she isn't the girl I know and talk to at work.
As I have gotten to know her, I have realized that she does have demons.
She is honest about her maybe not being as real as she should which I admire.
She's very humble and mysterious on her life which is cool.
She also is dating a dude who looks like a cross between Shrek and the marshmallow man but he somehow always has her attention even though he ruined her life by calling the police on her and having her do some jail time.
She still go's back to this guy. It's kind of a little strange.
I am a good looking guy but I am figuring out day by day what I need to do to be more than just really really good looking.

[Local_hero]

Nice article bro.. I can relate to most of it. I definitely am a 'nice guy' and have made most of the mistakes you listed.
Just my opinion, a lot of guys try to change who they are in order to win over a girl. Big mistake, although as you mentioned there are tactics we can use to make ourselves much more attractive.
For me, this means: NOT trying to act like an asshole, because that's not who I am. Instead I'm good at giving complements (typical nice guy) but I have learned to do so in a playful manner and also try to disagree with her and argue about something trivial. It's great for creating sexy banter.
And yes, as you said DON'T be needy. If you see a girl you like, go talk to her. It doesn't matter if she's busy. They like it if you have the confidence to approach, and you don't have to be a jerk to make her like you.
Using methods similar to the ones you described helped me land a lot of dates this year.. up to 3-4 per week at times.

[Anonymous]

I never understood how being nice makes you come across as insecure and needy, I respect people because I treat people the way I would want to be treated not because I want something if a girl wants to be with me fine if she doesn't fine, I am not changing who I am because honor is what I am about. I know what I have to offer and some day a girl will appreciate it.

[RalphBlack]

Then you are real and also you stand up for yourself.
That is what a woman wants.
Now if you tried way too hard to be nice just to get in her pants secretly then she already most likely knows it.
Or if she doesn't know then she knows something odd about you and can't put her finger on it.
So she says, "You are just way too nice"
Really she's saying, "You don't stand up for yourself and you let me walk all over you. There is no challenge"
Girls like a guy short and to the chase and doesn't Chase by holding back.
But also not throwing everything out there as well.
There might be a girl who says, "You're too nice!" Just to test you but a nice guy such as yourself has a backbone and stands up for his own self will by walking away.
If you do this then the girl will think, "Wait, I don't have him wrapped around my finger. Wow, he is the whole package."
The girl is attracted

[SakuraChii]

If the guys don't chase women, then what about women that don't chase men? There would be nothing I think that the guy should at least do something's first then back off, if he doesn't then the girl will think that he's not intrested or will feel clingy

[RalphBlack]

Well of course show interest but show 1005 confident interest. A woman can smell an insecure man a mile away. And if a girl doesn't pursue at all when you show 100% confidence of attractiveness then she has no interest in you whatsoever so you move on to someone who appreciates you for being awesome!
We are animals. We are born with natural mating instinct but our brains are often clouded by human intelligence such as every day bills, working and worrying about surviving in this fast paced world. We forget our natural animal mating calls to each other.

[RalphBlack]

*100% confident interest

[Hajar_Whitestone]

Don't chase her? LooL no girls in this world would go to a guy what ever he is if he didn't start chase her so that no chasing rule won't work..

[RalphBlack]

You will never get a girlfriend if you chase her, bro!

[Hajar_Whitestone]

You need to make different between girls and boys here dah.. the day you make the different then we can talk

[RalphBlack]

I don't understand your sentence. ANyways... women don't like to be chased. Any woman will tell you that

[Hajar_Whitestone]

So you are a women get out of here, you don't know what women's need or want so shut up before talking about us you need to understand us..

[RalphBlack]

How come people keep telling me to get out of here when I am the one writing the post? I mean it would make more sense if I wrote on there posts and started being all stupid and annoying.
Like I've said before in my last take. Somebody told me to get out of here and I said, "What if I invited you to my home to visit and you got offended an then you told me to get out of my house?"
I live at the house so you got invited. I said something that hurt your feelings but you tell me to leave. Wouldn't I have more of a say in the situation? If I had someone at my house telling me to leave and they refused to believe that it wasn't there house then I would have to call the cops to escort them off my property.

[pyramid_princess]

most women i know do like to be chased, @ralphblack

[RalphBlack]

www.understandingrelationships.com/.../5557

no they dont

[pyramid_princess]

Yes they do, i said most women i know!!

@ralphblack

[RalphBlack]

there is a difference between chasing and reaching out!"

[Hajar_Whitestone]

You are so cute :3 :3 :3 I Like you :P

[koibito]

I like what this article is saying. Though I wouldn't say this is recommended for all guys, nor does it always work even for the guys that it does work for. As with all things in life, your mileage varies. There is no sure-win strategy, if there were, there'll be lots of winners, and life can't have that.

If you are casual and non-desperate, yes it'd most likely get you a couple more dates.

[RalphBlack]

Very well, then

[alphadoggystyle]

I wish more girls would comment how much of an issue this is.. im a nice guy to unfortunately, and maybe a slight bit to honest and open early on for my own good. I can attract girls initially no problem, but i can't seem to get them to stay.. im seriously thinking it might be that im to nice and easy to please.. but im not always like that, just mostly..

[RalphBlack]

To be honest I am the same way but I suggest watching Coach Cirey Wayne's YouTube videos online.
This guy has had no negative reviews that I know of and really knows what he is saying on relationship advice.
I bought his book and it is really educational.

[alphadoggystyle]

I just hate the idea that i might have to change my personality to get a woman to fall in love with me. I mean in my opinion if you have other attractive qualities i just dont understand how being nice and easygoing could be such a dealbreaker. Although i guess you just have to not be to friendly and easy in the beginning... and once the girl gets attached then you can start to be nice and friendly. At least thats what I've heard. I just wish trivial things like this wasn't so important to many women.. such a headache

[RalphBlack]

*Coach Corey Wayne

[RalphBlack]

You don't have to change your personality. You just have to respect yourself more.
If you figure the little tests that a girl does to see off you are needy or not, then you got to spot what she's doing and back off a little.
Most girls want a guy who makes her feel safe.
The more hot the girl is the more she may come across as shady because she is constantly getting hit on by guys.
It may not be because she is full of herself but she has her guard up from creepy weirdo guys so she is looking for a guy who seems to have it more together so she can feel safe in a relationship.
Your whole mission in life is to be happy and be yourself. If you are sad all the time it means that you are worried about something and it can cause you not to focus on your main goals that you want to accomplish to be true to yourself.
So this won't make you secure which makes a woman that you want to attract not feel secure.

[R3d_Anonymous]

Frankly, I don't give a shit anymore. If the only way to get a girlfriend is to be someone I am not (within reasonable bounds), then I'd rather be alone.

[alphadoggystyle]

Yeah, True, I've kind of realized that thing about letting the girl come back to you after you know they like you.. but some times the change in mood is so quick that you dont even have time to adapt. This happened to me recently.. although in this case the girl basically wanted to get away from me after we hooked up because she already knew before our date i wanted a relationship, and she realized she wasn't ready for it.. Although i might have possibly got to see her again if i didn't act needy the following 2 weeks, where i tried at 4 different occassions to call her, but she always had an excuse to avoid the call. In this cas i dont think it was my needyness that killed it, although it certainly made it easier for her to drop me im sure..

Those videos definitely help though. As soon as i notice a girls interest fade a bit suddenly without knowing why il back off myself from now on.

[RalphBlack]

Being alone is horrible. Trust me.
But yeah, I've been where you are coming from.

[Kinstrome]

I think there's a few small things missing, but I agree with the angle and appreciate that this information is out there for many other men.

My personal choice is this list, which is a modified version of another list:

www.nicknotas.com/.../

I think people here to it regularly.

[pyramid_princess]

If I " hooked up" with a guy and when he left he said, " great. Call me later" id be deleting his number. Id never chase him.

[RalphBlack]

If he knows better then he would just move onto to some girl that will appreciate him to have enough self respect to not have approval seeking behavior.

[pyramid_princess]

Whatever!

[pyramid_princess]

Id delete his number cos it would appear he was arrogant by his behaviour, what nice guy would say that?

[RalphBlack]

What? Can you read?

[pyramid_princess]

What? Can you not understand? Do you not realise what you actually said?

[pyramid_princess]

I agree with some of what you stated, but not all of it!

[RalphBlack]

"There is a difference between chasing and reaching out!"

[pyramid_princess]

i agree, thats why if he said " great, call me later" id think he wasn't that interested and trying to get me to chase after him. i agree with everything else on your take. Its that one particular statement i have an issue with. If i guy left my place and said that, quite frankly id feel a little hurt.

[RalphBlack]

Well, I shoulda made it specific and defined it as a flirty, "Hey call me later" like he wants her to

[RalphBlack]

Come on! haha really? Like Im gonna remember writing every specific detail? lol

[pyramid_princess]

Yeah thats much better, id appreciate that, i would need to have a sign he wanted to see me again,

[RalphBlack]

Well its not just the words but the actions. I am sure if the guy really likes you and you like him then when he says, "Call me later" he will have a huge smile on his face. When a person smiles, it shows in the voice.
I've learned that in medical school when I took a medical reception class. always smile when you answer the phone to a customer because a smile will be in the voice

[pyramid_princess]

Yeah thats what my supervisor at work tells the staff, even though on phone you should still smile. you are totally correct! The tone of voice is important too. sometimes its not what someone actually says, its how they said it

[RalphBlack]

Also body language. If you are good at reading body language then you can read a persons interest.

[pyramid_princess]

I am a perceptive person, so i can usually read people pretty well

[RalphBlack]

You are also a woman so women usually have a more natural perception than guys do because you are more in touch with emotions.
A guy has to learn how.

[pyramid_princess]

Thats a good point, so true

[rUinSAYAN]

another guideline for desperate guys with low social skills.

just do what your brain tells you, don't fill the world with equal robots and don't worry about rejection too much

[RalphBlack]

You should do stand up

[RalphBlack]

Your picture pisses me me off even more when I read your comments.

I just stare at it all pucker faced for like 20 minutes after I read something you say

[rUinSAYAN]

stand up? which kind of way. another reason to keep that pic up longer

[rUinSAYAN]

ow you're the kezia noble freak haha. did you ever try comparing you acting like a normal guy with you acting like other people told you to be?

[RalphBlack]

Hey are we arguing on the internet? We both have exciting lives don't we?

[RalphBlack]

And come on. Kezia Noble freak? really? *sigh*
Im not even insulted. I don't even know why I am continuing this conversation with you. lol

[rUinSAYAN]

yes we are. it is not like you write your takes on here and expect that nobody comments or argues on it, if you don't want to argue keep your mind to yourself.
actually you know I am bored right now and I have about 1 hour left to discuss

[RalphBlack]

I don't mind somebody having an opinion but at least if you are going to share your point of view then be respectful of a persons point of view, my friend.

And Kezia Noble is hot dude! If you don't think so then your eyes are dried out from sticking out for so long

[rUinSAYAN]

what does being hot make her a better pick up artist?
I can tell you, I've tried so many different stuff that I can say the only way to find what you really want is to be yourself. I've been a dick, I've had a time I acted like a guy who wants to know how to get girls and it was fuckin stupid. you get respected by girls by being yourself, you don't need more, you don't want anything more than respect and (I) don't want a girlfriend, I want to have fun and keep the people around me who are good 4 me (regardless of girl or boy) and I don't care if the girl I am talking to is ugly or hot. ow I just gave info about myself just to tell some 'more mature' guy that I am on his level and I feel fuckin stupid now

[RalphBlack]

You don't have to feel stupid buddy. Im only writing these to share what I have learned. Its ok to take peoples advice but its also good to experience it.
Like my father has told me that there are people who work in an electrical office and read in the books for years about how to do electrical but when they go out and try doing electrical, they don't know jack shit.
I know where you are coming from about you explaining that you need experience, but you have to understand that it is ok to get a little wisdom along the way.
I know I am being a jack ass and kinda fanning a flame by antagonizing your heckling but come on... you're kind of bringing out the childishness that is inside of me. Id say cut it out bud!

[rUinSAYAN]

:: people can tell you how to act right but you will never know what is wrong if you didn't try it. my way of learning is doing things that is not right and learning from it, also doing 1-2 pua lines that may have worked or not, got a date and also not but the problem was that it didn't feel like me, it was not my own self who did that. the real question is: do you want to live as you or as someone who is not you? (2nd might make you happier.. or not)

[RalphBlack]

Just so you know, I have had many amazing beautiful women in my life. I just so happened to read a book about women that happened to be written by Kezia Noble. what I wrote in the last post seemed very true to me so I wrote it in a "mytake"
Doesn't mean I am not being myself because I write what somebody else wrote and made sure to give them credit for it.
When I first saw her YouTube videos I had doubts because she looks stuck up and looks like she doesn't have a brain.
I've had that book for about two years and finally picked it up to read it out of boredom.
When I read it, I was kind of surprised at how much good advice she has.
She actually tells you how to keep women instead of using them and manipulating them for one night.
I just think its cool that a woman can be a coach on how to approach a woman and be a woman.

[rUinSAYAN]

well. we can keep it like that for now? we got different minds and I respect your oppinion.

[p0rtis26]

If you want women you are right, be a mystery. However, my philosophy is to be me and if I am "the nice guy too nice of a guy" then I will take that as a compliment. That does not necessarily mean a push-over. I rather be nice than mean.

[RalphBlack]

Read anonymous above you what I wrote him 6 min ago :)

[p0rtis26]

Well stop copying my philosophy then. =)

[Kyndra]

I'll come out and say it. There is such a thing as "too nice". Not because it makes a guy seem desperate, clingy or insecure but because it makes them seem uninterested and like they're just being polite.

[RalphBlack]

Makes sense

[RalphBlack]

When a girl is too nice and awkward it doesn't make me attracted to them too. Also makes me annoyed and weirded out that they constantly are wanting to know all about every little thing

[alphadoggystyle]

But if you know a guy already likes you that way, and you have been dating him for a while. If he was to nice and trying to please you to much, then would that kill your attraction for him? If it would then it makes more sense that his behavior would make him seem desperate or clingy rather than uninterested.

[Kyndra]

@alphadoggystyle As long as it still feels like a relationship I'd still be interested in him. Although I prefer playful guys and bantering.

[ButtHearth]

Wow, a take I actually agree with. I preach this a lot, girls don't like nice guys because they come off as insecure, clingy, and boring.

[Mesonfielde]

""insecure, clingy, and boring.""

yep

[Optimisticbean]

I agree with this post as well, but if that's the case then why do I have an attractive girlfriend if I come off as you or anyone else would assume "insecure, clingy, and boring."

[Mesonfielde]

@Optimisticbean your definition of nice and his definition of nice differ

[ButtHearth]

@Mesonfielde My definition of nice is irrelevant, so is yours, and his, and any other guys'. What matters is women's definition of nice, and it's not very flattering, I assure you.

[Mesonfielde]

... the only point that matters here is your "niceness" is irrelevant if you're actually just insecure, clingy and boring.

[ButtHearth]

@Mesonfielde If you're overly nice to a girl, she will think you are insecure, clingy, and/or boring. Whether you actually are does not matter. It's the impression you give that is important.

[Mesonfielde]

Well if you're just sucking up then of course they'll get that idea, anyone would.

[RalphBlack]

They don't like nice guys but they don't like assholes.
They like a guy who makes it clear in the beginning that he doesn't want an relationship without romance but yet still keeps her wondering and wanting more.
He lets her do the chasing instead of him doing all.
The mystery dies for her when a guy constantly tries to show all of himself without her figuring it out little pieces at a time.

[BiffWebster]

for the record i don't mind clingy girls. Clingy guys, well that's a little different. Its also very important to also bring something to the table. -_- you can't appear boring at all or uninteresting

[RalphBlack]

EXACTLY!

[CaptCrisp]

Check out my take. We seem to be on the same wavelength. I'm looking for someone to start a lifestyle, style, women, money website. Askmen. com (but without the mainstream crap)

[RalphBlack]

I a long time ago made a MySpace group called Girls~Are~Confusing because back then I was totally bad with girls.
But then made a private group on Facebook as well.
I also have an open fan page called Relationships~Are~Complicated which I want to be more about any kind of relationship.
I would like to make an actual website that be about this, understand body language and the psychogy of human behavior.

[CaptCrisp]

Philosophy, psychology, human behavior are things I find interesting and am quite knowledgable on.
Where does your info come from? Experience or other sources? You can message me if you'd like a private discussion.

[RalphBlack]

Experience, things I read online and what I read in books. I also work with developmental developmental disabled people as a individual support specialist. I've been doing this for almost two years so far. Also went to school for some medical and learned little there

[CaptCrisp]

Sweet brother, I'll follow you and we'll get in touch in the future!

[RalphBlack]

Thanks man. Looking forward to it

[GoldenSunshine]

Being nice and being clingy isn't the same thing. Women actually want nice guys

[RalphBlack]

Ok, share a little of your insight

[Prof_Don]

Yup I agree... the key is all about coming off as socially effortless (aka, not trying and pressing hard to impress).

[RalphBlack]

Yes indeed! ;)

[Phoenix98]

I know I'm to nice for my own good but not in the romance department just in general.

[RalphBlack]

Well do you want to fix that?

[Phoenix98]

Nope.

[RalphBlack]

Then you aren't too nice for your own good. You just have doubt which you need to cut it out because doubt grows bigger if it isn't fixed. So if you are a nice guy, remain true to yourself, respect who you are and then life will keep flowing in its natural course for you.
Best of luck;)

[Phoenix98]

Lol there's no doubt I am really just to nice for my own good sometimes, I am incapable of turning away someone who needs help tried it couldn't do it.

[RalphBlack]

Like Mr. Rogers. He was genuinely a nice guy because that was who he was. He didn't try too hard and he lived to change the world for the better. He did it by understanding that if you listen to children also then you can learn something just as much as you can learn from an adult who has many years of wisdom and understanding.

[Phoenix98]

Lol yup he was a nice guy after the war.

[RalphBlack]

That was a rumor. He never served

[Phoenix98]

Hmm interesting, I do know a marine though served two tours fought in combat pretty nice guy.

[NovemberJoseph]

Lots of insight here bro. Wish I could give this take a like or something.

[RalphBlack]

Thanks. Glad this helped

[JackKerouac77]

Interesting take. I enjoyed the read.

[RalphBlack]

I'm glad