Ah, the dreaded friendzone. Both genders know this very well, and while I don't believe in it, we all very well know what the concept about it is. Maybe you're read the signs wrong, or you just want to take the chance. Either way, I'm here to help. You like someone, they don't see you the same way(even if you're cute or good looking), and they let you off easy or directly. Many people often look for advice on this topic, but no one ever looks at the positive outcome instead of the negative outcome. I'm writing this based off my own past experiences, and I haven't really seen a positve take on this elsewhere. A woman/man letting you off easy may not be what it seems, and I'll let you know why. *This myTake better applies to people who are already friends with someone*
"We're just friends for now" & "I'll Think About it"
This term is rare and doesn't come up much, but it isn't the end of the world if it's said. The for now leaves hope in the statement whereas if it wasn't there, you would have a very slim chance of them being with you romantically. So does this term actually equal rejection? Not quite. You have to understand that when you come out and tell a friend you have feelings for them, they may not see you in that sense right away. The key is to try to put yourself in the situation. You have an attractive friend but don't see him/her in that way, and you may be seeking someone else currently or you need to be sure you have feelings for them now that the cat is out of the bag. It actually comes as a shock for most, and they want to stay friends, but are actually considering being in a relationship with you. Think of it this way. You are used to doing something a certain way, then someone else tells you to do it another way. The new way doesn't sound bad, but you want to test it first to make sure you're comfortable with switching things up. If you like the new way, you'll stick with the new way(You start considering the relationship after a while). If they go back to the former way, then things will not work out between you and you'll stay friends. If a they were to say I'll think about it when you asked them out, guess what? They actually may have to think about it! They could either be in shock(wasn't expected), they could be busy(they already have plans), or maybe they just need time to think. You have to understand that if someone likes you as a friend and they find out that you like them, they need time to see if they may actually like you back.
Look for signs
If you have gone through the above then proceed to this step. Are they starting to miss you more? Are they giving you deep eye contact(pay attention to dilating pupils)? Are they comfortable with being in your space, touching even? Are they paying attention to you a lot more? Starting to call or text you when usually initiate? These little signs can show that there is some interest for you, and you need to stick with being friends for the time being. If you just take a chance to think about it, if they tell you that they miss you, you were on their mind while you may have been distant. Sometimes you have to give them a chance to really figure out if they can't be without you, and this triggers them realizing that they actually have feelings for you. If you notice that him/her are showing these signs, make sure to try and make a move(simply ask them out) within a week or two to show that you haven't lost interest, or before they lose interest. If they aren't showing any of these signs, stick with being a good friend or move on because there isn't a likely chance of you being together(there's still a chance, just a nearly impossible one).
Be Who You Are and Attempt to Flirt
After you have told them your feelings, you also need to show them. If you were being too nice to them at the beginning or being too friendly, show them your romantic side! Compliment them, flirt with them, show them who you really are instead of the friendlier side of yourself. The reasoning behind this is that they mostly haven't seen you in a romantic way. You never even flirted or attempted to make a sexual comment here and there(within reason). Show them these things and see if they start to see you in a different way, and both genders love confidence. There really isn't much to say, you just need to be yourself and express how confident and romantic you can be. Don't be shy or scared to show it since that may be the thing keeping the relationship from sprouting. If you see things starting to get awkward, DO NOT attempt to keep pushing it. You may be moving too fast, or they just aren't interested in you at all romantically. If they aren't flirting back, that's also a sign that they were really rejecting you and you need to move on.
Don't Lose Hope
These are some of the things to test before you really throw in the towel. I'm not saying that this is 100% accurate, but I want people to realize that all of the generalized things they read on the internet about relationships aren't necessarily true. Most of the things are negative because they have heard of that topic before and base their opinion on it without experiencing the situation before. In other words, not everyones situation is the same. You have to consider the different cultures and different personalities to gauge whether he/she is truly interested or playing games with you. If things don't work out, there are plenty of others out there who are willing to meet you. While it may be hard to recover if you have been falling for them for ages, you will realize that you may find others that are a suitable match for you.
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