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When Your Dream Guy Isn't Your Dream Guy After All

So I guess you could say it was all my fault. I jumped into a relationship without fully knowing the person. I tried to excuse it by saying that we met at the beginning of class which was at the end of January, but who am I kidding? We were just classmates. We clearly did not know each other on a reasonable level for us to be in a relationship at this point. It was only two weeks ago when we started dating. I thought he was so attractive and so hilarious, but that only gets you so far. By the end of the first date, I could tell he was really into me. I actually had asked him out first. I had never been so assertive in my life, but maybe I felt that I needed to be to finally get the ball rolling. I had liked him pretty much since the beginning of class, so I was ecstatic that we were finally going on a date. Anyways, we ended up going on a couple more dates and then he asked me to be his girlfriend. If any of you think that was really fast, it definitely was. We still barely knew each other. Of course I said yes because the guy I had been drooling over asked me to be his girlfriend.


When Your Dream Guy Isn't Your Dream Guy After All.


Now it's only been two weeks, and quite frankly, I'm over it. I realized that we should have spent more time dating and getting to know each other before jumping into a relationship. Here are some things I learned. For one, he's a mormon. I don't disrespect anyone for their religious beliefs, but I'm not in any place to be part of a religion right now so of course that would be a problem down the road. He's also planning on going on his two year missionary trip in a few months. When he told me this, I didn't care too much. I'm moving for school in July so I figured it would probably be a short relationship anyways.


Although those are large factors for why it would be hard to sustain a relationship, the biggest problem is his lack of understanding of my life. He has absolutely nothing wrong to say about his life and as much as I envy that and wish that I could be that positive, there are things that are just unavoidable and have left me heartbroken. He's so out of touch with reality that it drives me insane. I feel like most of the time I'm trying to make him feel better for his lack of understanding of what's happening in my life moreso than him being a comfort to me. I'm not looking for a shoulder to cry on. I'm just looking for someone to at least acknowledge the fact that a shitty situation is a shitty situation and not everything is butterflies and roses.


Sometimes I wish so much that I could be like him. He may not understand what I'm going through, but that's because he's never had to deal with it. If I hadn't, I could be ignorant like him and happy. Although at times that's an envious trait because life is easier, at least I'm at touch with reality. It's hard, but it's rewarding because I go and go until it breaks me. I'm much stronger because I have learned to be self sufficient even though I guess I have a boyfriend now. It sucks to know that you can't rely on someone, but that's when you know to throw the towel in.

When Your Dream Guy Isn't Your Dream Guy After All
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