My GF won't answer my calls or Text messages?

[Anonymous]

Monday June 30th, was talkin to my gf, all of sudden messages just stopped, that whole week she hasn't answered my text feared that my text messages havnt been going through, then she wouldn't answer my calls, well finally that sat, she tells me we are fine, i know i shoulda taken that as we are good, but i kept texting her, and now i fear that i made things worse, she didn't tell me she wanted space or anything, did i truly messed up and caused my gf to break up w/ me or is there still a chance. would she have told me she want to break up if she wanted to?

[147703]

Even though she hasn't said anything yet, I'd say she's probably feeling a little overwhelmed by the amount you contact her. My advice would be even though she hasn't said it's a problem, you should just cut back the amount of times you text her. I have a challenge for you, set a period of time, I'd say 3 days, where you do not text her first. Let her come to you. Don't tell her you are doing it, just do it. It will give her space to breathe, and make her realize she want's to talk to you on her own. If she does NOT text you after 3 days, just say something like "hey babe how's everything going? been thinking of you." that's it. and wait for her to respond again. Any time you feel yourself over-thinking or over-texting, repeat this challenge. A good rule of thumb in general, is if you send more than 3 consecutive texts (aside from telling a long story), it's a bad sign, and repeat challenge. The most you should text her in a day without a response, is 3, but the more days that go by without her responding, then it should be reduced to maybe once a day, or every other day. Just my suggestions :) Good luck!

[Asker]

well she did say we are fine Saturday that just passed

[Asker]

so think she probably woulda told me she wanted to break up if she felt that way and not just ignore me?

[Asker]

i want her to know that i do trust her and everything

[147703]

If she was going to break up with you, it would have been immediately before disappearing for a week, or immediately after she got back in contact. I'd say you're probably in the clear, but I'd still give her some space in the meantime.

[carebearagent]

Did you guys get into an argument? Do you think that she is busy with something or someone else?

[Asker]

i know she has 2 jobs now

[carebearagent]

Do you think that she has time for a relationship? She might not have the time anymore. If you are not happy with the fact that she isn't responding or acting like a girlfriend, then maybe you should tell her how you feel and end the relationship.

[Jadaallynn22]

Although she hasn't said she wants space I think it's pretty obvious that she does. Do not keep texting her because that will only push her further and further away. Try going a few days without texting her and wait until she text you first

[Annymous8]

Are you clingy?

[Asker]

now i think about it guess you can say i am, i mean i text her daily but she never said that was wanting space or anything, and now im afraid i pushed her away, what can i do to fix it

[Annymous8]

Leave her alone for a while.

[Asker]

so since she said she's not breaking up, i probably have nothing to worry about? and she probably woulda told me she wanted to break up if that was the case?

[Annymous8]

I would think she would tell you if you two were breaking up. Again, leave her alone.

[Asker]

ok i'll try that, thanks