His family thinks Im gold digger? (?)?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy who is really cool and we chatted and went on date and dated a almost 6 months. I didn't knew his family or he was rich. So he asked me to meet his family when I met them, they gave cold shoulder, his sister called me names his mother just glared me. I was pretty sad about it I didn't like it, he didn't notice that. After weeks his sister called me, and told me to stay way from him. Then she just hang up. He loves his family I know he would do anything for them, I should dump him, but I can't cause I really like him. His family is full of troubles Im not really into mood to get dumped again. Im done people using me and choosing someone else.

Im just done.

[Anonymous]

his sister called you names? What did she say and how did it happen? Is she little? I had a similar experience with my ex, I met his dad once, he just glared at me and walked away, I honestly don't remember him saying anything to me. Because I really cared about my bf that totally hurt me and made me feel like just some whore he was screwing. But my ex probably had me over without asking his dad and it was a bad time, he was just coming home from work, etc... but this brings up an important thought, how is your bf introducing you to the family? It shouldn't be all on you and his family to have you guys get to know each other he is an important link/common ground between you all, he can fill them in on how interesting you are, your goals, achievements, are hard working, kind, etc. and his fam needs love too, he tell you all the amazing things about his mom and sis etc.
ugh my comp feels like its guna fry. lol gotta go!

[Anonymous]

Well then stay and let them call you names while he does nothing about it? Ummmm yeah no.. Or break up with him! Why stay with someone when he lets his family treat you that way?

[MrAtticusLebowski]

You kinda have no choice do you? You have to learn how to deal with a SO hostile family, every one should. This is different though, the fact he doesn't see what's happening is bad. If you really care about him sit him down and tell him why you're thinking of leaving him. Eventually hell realize his family is chasing women away from him. That sucks, that really sucks.

It's not soo much he should be standing up for you. It's that he needs to let his family know some boundaries. I've been in situations like this (except the wealthy SO part) it's not pretty. Plus, im not one to keep my mouth shut. I don't need my girls family to like me. I expect her to be her own person. Good luck QA.

[thtdiablo]

Your biggest problem is your fear of being alone. This relationship will not make you happy. If you get together with him, marry him later, it will surely not end well. Reconsider your choices.

You can be on your own and this time it wouldn't be you who gets dumped, you'd be the one dumping. I'd say, do it. There will never be a perfect relationship, but at least one, where the entire family will at least respect you.

[thtdiablo]

Let me correct it to: At least the largest part of the family will respect you. Some issues might always occur. But here's the problem that those people who will be closest to you, look down on you. That's not going to work.

[Helloanswer]

Doesn't really sound legitimate... If you really liked him then you wouldn't care what his family thinks about you.. They're irrelevant. It's about YOU and HIM
that's it point blank
Not his sister or his parents should be the cause of your breakup.. If he really likes you as well then you'll know

[Asker]

I really don't that.

[Buwwy]

by the sounds of it, he's not aware of the problem between you and his family. if you really do like him, you shouldn't be too concerned about his family's approval. you should tell your boyfriend exactly what is distressing you. and if anyone, it's him that would best be able to solve the issue within his family.

[Tractorbeam]

There are people who'll judge you by what you have, but they're fools.

What's more important is what you went through to get what you have. If it was handed to you on a plate, it doesn't make you worth anything.

[Phoenix98]

He sounds like he is oblivious to the problems surrounding you and his family. Honestly you should sit him down and talk to him about before making any rash choices.