We have known each other for a year and dated for more than 6 months. He's a couple of years older than me and has a good job. I, on the other hand am still pursuing my higher education. As in my country students need to have regular attendance and spend long hours in the class, it is not possible for me to have a job besides my studies. I'm preparing for them though.
He has a notion that I'm too pretty for him (obviously it springs up from his own insecurities regarding his appearance). I never want him to feel like I'm taking monetary advantage of him. So, when we meet- we split all expenses, since his journey costs more than mine (we don't live in the same locale), I contribute as much as I can to make the journey fare even. As my birthday was few days ago, I made it clear that I didn't expect any gifts and no such things came in between. There was never any gifts or extra expenses that he had to invest in. I have gifted books, chocolates etc though.
However, he has asked me a lot of the times why I'm with him. He also says that he thinks I would leave him if he quits. I have told him that I like him as a person, and find him to a very charming, intelligent man with a great personality. But the more I mention his intelligence he feels it has something to do with his job.
I won't lie, I do appreciate the fact that he is successful - but it's not why he thinks it is. I find him to be ambitious and capable of doing things. His job isn't financially aiding me so there's no reason that I'd leave him if he quits. At times, he makes me feel really inferior for being unemployed.
No matter whether we keep on going like this or break up, I don't want to appear as the gold digger. How do I make him know that I'm not after his money?
