I caught my boyfriend masturbating to p*rn?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together roughly a year and currently live together. This morning, I went into our bedroom to find my boyfriend masturbating to p*rn, he thought that I had left already. I watched behind him as he scrolled through numerous pictures and videos of women. I was so hurt that the words couldn't come out of my mouth and I was left standing there, watching as he scrolled through these girls bent over, fondling their v*ginas and b**bs. It's not the masturbating I am hurt by, I know men masturbate and (unfortunately to a womans dismay) watch p*rn.

But the thing that has hit home the hardest is our lacking sex life. I have tried just about everything, the lingerie, the toys, anal, all his sexual fantasies and nothing has worked. We have sex maybe once a fortnight, that being with me always making the first move. It has come to a point in our relationship where I ask, before I try my first move as it is constantly rejected and with my feelings and self-esteem rapidly dwindling, I don't know how much more I can take.

We have spoken about this and he assures me everything is okay. But I feel worthless and unattractive to him. I am happy to pleasure him whenever... where ever and he knows that but for some reasons goes to secretly watching p*rn, even though he knows how I feel about it.

What do I do? I am devastated, he barely has sex with me but has time to masturbate over naked women :( I'm losing my mind... Please help!

[Anonymous]

First I'm so sorry that he hurt you. Men will never understand the pain they cause when it comes to other women. I recently found out my bf of a year loves strip clubs. Needless to say the relationship is over no matter how many times he says he's sorry. I'm of the mind that he is who he is. He needs to find a woman that is ok with strippers. I am who I am and I need a man that doesn't need strippers. I think you are in the same position.

Now on another note I watch p*rn, I like it while I masturbate. I have tried in the past to watch it with my guy but he was never into that. He said I would get mad. I don't get mad over looking at women on a screen. I get mad if you are in any way actually interacting with other women. As in talking to them or having their naked body rubbed on you. Then I know that I am not enough and you don't want the monogamous relationship that I do.

I think he has a choice to make. He needs to figure out or tell you why he isn't having sex with you. Shutting you out is only going to cause more problems and you will break up.

[pureride214]

can't believe a dude wouldn't watch p*rn with you... sounds fun... i agree with you regarding strip clubs vs p*rn. i think the biggest deal could be dishonesty, the fact that it (whatever it may be) is a secret is kind of what makes it wrong

[Opinion Owner]

I agree about the honesty thing. If my bf had said when he and the guys go drinking it's at a strip club I would've dumped him then. Not something I can deal with. It's my right to not be able to deal with something. It's my right not to be lied to. I'm pissed that I find out a year into our relationship, now that I really like or love him, I don't know we were just getting to that part lol.

[Anonymous]

Sit down and watch that shit with him. That will spice things back up between you guys.

I just moved in with my boyfriend when I tured 18 and he does this all the time... shit its normal. If you don't like him watching it just join in.

[Anonymous]

Well I guess you know what he likes to look at now. Join in. If he would rather you didn't join in it might be time for a new man

[pureride214]

if he's watching p*rn instead of having sex with you, he's probably not attracted to you any more. i can't think of any other reason to choose p*rn over sex, especially if you are doing everything like you say

if i had a girl who i was attracted to that would do all of that whenever i want, i wouldn't be watching p*rn

[DaCrownlessKing]

Men are going to watch p*rn or masturbate, regardless of a committed relationship or not. I'm sure he's still attracted to you and loves you but p*rn is fantasy, and sometimes we just want to get away, understand?

[Kayleesux]

My boyfriend used to do the same thing, so I bought him a male chastity cage to prevent him from touching himself. I let him out once a week for cleanings and to have an orgasm and then he goes right back in. Completely fixed our sex life. The best part is he eats me out whenever I ask, too. Maybe give it a shot?

[Anonymous]

I would if I knew you cause my girl want have anything to do with me either anymore. you need someone that will treat you like a queen. someone that will rub your feet every day after work, or rub your back, or what ever else you want. hell I did every thing that I could I even licked her whoo whoo almost every day and still she don't want me. I feel your pain

[devilINSIDE]

He must ne having an awkward feeling of failure in sex life and feeling bad to tell you that he doesn't know how to do it :D

[Ltongtoi]

Where was he at doing this? Bedroom, kitchen, computer desk? Was he completely naked, or in underwear, robe, your panties? Do you consider yourself attractive? Do you consider him attractive? How often do the two of you have sex?

[hrnydude4u]

lol maybe he's scared or doesn't know how to just as for a quicky

[rodcassidy]

Feel bad for you. Sorry. Maybe. Watch it with him