Why do guys secretly like chubby girls? It seems every time a guy has a thin, attractive girlfriend, he usually cheats on her with a "big" girl?

[Anonymous]

It seems guys like bigger women, but don't want others to know they like them. Even if the bigger woman is attractive. And guys like to make fun of other guys for being attracted to big women, but then they cheat on their thin woman with a BBW.
Not saying all men cheat, but when they do, if they have a thin attractive girlfriend, it is usually with a BBW.

[Anonymous]

Social pressure. Just like girls ask other girls if a guy is cute or if he's a player or whatever guys talk about girls. If your guy friends are all like dude she's ugly it becomes somewhat of an attack to your ego. Say if you were to buy a Prius and thought yes I'm doing a good thing and purchasing a car I'm proud of then some guy drives up laughs and yells "fag" and then you keep driving and the girl driving next to you looks at you like you're some creep and then your best friend starts suggesting that he drives everywhere because he doesn't want to be seen riding in your car. In your head it's a great car but you're constantly bombarded with self doubt because you aren't adhering to social norms. Big girls are a similar case. Some men love em but not all men are willing to stand up and be proud of loving the women they love no matter how other people view them. We're social creatures it's inevitable to care about what others think of you.

[Opinion Owner]

Please don't read into the Prius analogy too much it was just meant to point out how a person can feel confident and ashamed about a decision at the same time

[Asker]

That's true. I think we should just let people make decisions without being called names. Unfortunately, that isn't the real world. Hopefully you don't shame your guy friends in to not liking big women! lol Some people like chocolate, others like vanilla, each person has their own preference :)

[chocolatedragon]

Hi. Black male here. I love BBWs.
That was too stereotypical lol, but yes there's a certain allure that some men will have to larger women. When you're able to please a larger woman, you feel more powerful cause you conquered her size. And because larger women don't get as much attention, they tend to put out much more. They'll give you some of the best head too. It just sucks that we're limited with some of the sex position because of weight. Personally as long as she's not big like Honey BooBoo mama, then we can work something out. I find Adele very attractive :)

https://i60.tinypic.com/5n9fyg.jpg
How could I say no to all that love?

[Asker]

That women you posted, I wouldn't consider fat or a BBW. She is real "curvy", she is what I would actually consider "thick", she has an hourglass figure. Her waist is defined, this isn't something you see when you see fat girls who label themselves "curvy."

[pr3ttybr0wn]

that's not a bbw
honey boo boo mama is

[chocolatedragon]

Oh yeah, she's not a BBW. I just wanted to show a thick girl example. Mind you a skinny girl or the thin girl you described in your intro would maybe consider her "fat". She isn't and I don't think she is, i just feel appealed to her lol.

[Asker]

Not really. I'm "average size" and a lot of my friends are thin, some are big. Having fat breasts and ass doesn't make you fat, it makes you curvy, the real curvy. She has a small waist. She has an hourglass figure. Most of us would agree that she is curvy, not fat, no where near a BBW. Larger women would say she's "too skinny" because she has a flat belly. Not saying there is anything wrong with being fat, but chubby girls have to stop labeling themselves as curvy. Most people consider hourglass figures, like the woman you posted, as curvy. She is no where near being a fat girl, she has fat, but in the right places.

[chocolatedragon]

Alright then, I thought she was the definition of chubby, but guess I was wrong lol. This isn't the kind of girl you are referring too lol.

[Asker]

Lol NOOOO. She is not chubby, at all. I never understood how Marilyn Monroe became the poster girl for the "curvy girl/fat acceptance" campaign. Marilyn was size 16 back then, but today she would've been like a size 4. But it's not even about being size 4,12,16 etc. If she is has a small waist and fat ass and breasts, she isn't chubby or fat. She has fat. But fat in the right places. She has a flat belly, she isn't chubby, chunky, or anything like that. She's the real "thick" or "curvy".
Not how fat girls like to say "I'm curvy." When they aren't even shaped like an hourglass. Nothing wrong with being fat, but ladies need to stop using "curvy" as "nice" way to call themselves bigger.
That'd be like skinny girls saying "I'm athletic" build. Or skinny guys saying "I'm muscular". No need to lie about your appearance, being fat is ok, being skinny is ok, being scrawny is ok, being curvy is ok.

[Princessofpersia]

LOL omg this made me laugh hahahah

[chocolatedragon]

So what would Adele be then :) ?
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[chocolatedragon]

I thought the image would show up lol. Maybe this one will work.

https://i59.tinypic.com/2vmy62w.jpg

[Asker]

Adele is chubby. She is still beautiful. She isn't "pretty for a big girl." She's pretty, period. I wouldn't consider Adele curvy, but you can barely see her body because of her loose clothes. She's chunky and gorgeous. :)

[chocolatedragon]

I'm glad you're so open minded. When I tell other people that BBWs don't repulse me, they look at me as if I have a fetish. Like I'm unable to look past a girl's size.

[Asker]

Lol hey, if she has it going on, she has it going on. Thin or chubby. :) I don't think Honey Boo Boo's mom is attractive though, it's not because she's a bigger lady, but because she isn't attractive lol I don't find some thin women attractive either, like I never found Paris Hilton attractive either. Not because she's really skinny, but I just never found her to be attractive. Channing Tatum either, I don't find him attractive, unlike every other living girl lol I do think Ryan Gosling is hot though. People just have different tastes. Some people you're just like "damn, he/she is hot." And some people you're just like "meh. Not my cup of tea."

[pipsani]

It's a psychological thing. As user martyfellow said, they larger the woman, the more they remind them of their mothers -- nothing to do with incest, though. See, there's actually a lot of psychology behind this, typically to deal with out animal ancestors. For instance, bigger woman, in olden times, were symbols of fertility. Not only that, but did you know most Greek goddesses were of larger variety? Back in times of old, such as the Victorian Era, a larger woman symbolised a wealthy family, whereas a tinier woman symbolised a poorer family, usually full of gentries.

[EloquentlySpeaking]

Most people and media consider fat girls unattractive, so a shitty person who only cares about what other people think will not want to be seen with a fat girl. I've never seen what you're describing, but from my experience as a former fat girl, I had to grow a personality to attract boys rather than someone who was always thin and socially accepted. I know that made me way more fun than a girl who was used to men just fawning on them and expecting constant attention/adoration/gifts.

That's society's fault as a whole, however. -shrug-

[TheLastGirlScout]

A lot of guy say bigger girls are better in bed. I have my own theories about this, which I won't share now, but there is a saying that goes "Big girls try harder". I don't strictly agree, but some do :)

[whattothink]

Actually I have heard (and been told) that bigger girls are tighter than their skinnier counterparts, thus making it better. Granted I am horribly small down there, but have had several guys that love some bigger girls that the sex is much better with them due to the fact that they just feel better.

[TheLastGirlScout]

I personally think it has a lot to do with confidence, but that's a while different subject...

[LittleSally]

Is this the same as "shorter guys try harder"?

[TheLastGirlScout]

Probably both urban myths :)

[TheLastGirlScout]

We call it Short Man Syndrome here

[Asker]

Yea, guy friends tell me they are easier and more willing to try nasty things. Probably since few people find them attractive, they are willing to "prove" themselves. Unfortunately, society still views attraction to big women as taboo or a fetish.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I don't know why guys like fat hoes

probably are real nasty and disgusting in bed

[pipsani]

That's very rude.

[backdoorman]

why am i not surprise to see this comment from you?

[StickStickity13]

People downvoted you are haters

[Asker]

This is really mean. Some big women are attractive. But I think men should be able to openly like them and not have to feel obliged to only find thin women attractive to maintain their "alpha dog" status.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I pretty much said what u said in a more crass way.

and to the people who downvoted me, idc
guys who downvoted me mad b/c their gfs look like that
girls who downvoted me mad b/c they look like that

[Asker]

No, I think they should be able to find bigger women attractive without being called nasty. They shouldn't have to hide their adoration or attraction to them.

[kheserthorpe]

You're thinking like a woman. Women have high standards looks wise for short relationships.

Guys cheat with uglier girls than those they date because they can. Men have lower standards for physical only and NSA than for dating.

The fact she's less hot than his gf is probably why he's just banging her on the side instead of dumping the gf and dating her instead. The chubby girl is better than jerking off.

[Rail2k]

I'm not really attracted to bigger girls, definitely when compared to a smaller girl. I would never cheat, but if I did I really doubt I'd do it with a larger woman, lol.

[Asker]

Guys say that, some are sincere. One of my friends said that as well. He's a "gym rat" but then he confessed to me that he was attracted to bigger women and he ended up cheating on his beautiful model girlfriend with a chubby girl. I was shocked because his girlfriend was so attractive, and shocked that he cheated. He said big girls are his fun little secret. Men and women are strange. lol
Hopefully you never find the need to cheat though.

[Theguyoverthere]

I'm not into bigger girls, but I feel like many who say they are either, being truthful, or "settling for less."

[Asker]

I wouldn't consider bigger girls as settling for less. There are a lot of attractive big women. But to you perhaps it would be, that's your valid opinion :)

[Theguyoverthere]

I know what you mean there. I'm only mentioning what the guys I see feel like with such situations. I know plenty of guys with bigger girls who have no problem and then other guys who feel they are lowering their standards.

[HipsterJoshua]

No, guys don't usually cheat on their girlfriend with a "big" girl. Maybe it happened in your environment, but it's definitely not the norm. Just like it's only a small minority of guys who are attracted to big women.

[genericname85]

because people tend to confuse "chubby" either with curvy or with fat. i wish i could find a BBW attractive like in "shallow hal"

[Asker]

There are some attractive big women out there though. :)

[genericname85]

no they can be pretty but not so much sexually attractive. at least not to me. depends on how "fat" they are.

[Asker]

Fair enough. Everyone has their preferences. We don't have to be politically correct and pretend that we are attracted to someone we aren't like big women. Sure some big women can be sexually attractive to some guys, but not all guys are "brainwashed media pigs" for not thinking this way. To each his own :)

[genericname85]

i don´t consider myself "brainwashed" i don´t like the beauty standard but if i hear bbw i think of something like this: https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-
F2abO4HRN60/T4ZW5i5KCXI/AAAAAAAACMI/biC6eulLJpQ/s400/bbw-model. jpg

that would never work for me. i don´t want my girl to have more mass then me.

[genericname85]

damn i messed up the link. you have to remove the space

[Anonymous]

a guy I work with says that bigger girls are more willing to take it up the ass

[Asker]

Haha, my guy friends say this too. They usually are willing to do more freaky things than thinner girls.

[lordAlex818]

I've never actually seen a guy cheat with a chubby girl, and I don't know many guys who like chubby girls.

[martyfellow]

maybe the big girls remind the guys of their mothers?

[whattothink]

If this was true I wouldn't have been single for 3 years...

[Asker]

They seem to only like big women to have a "secret relationship". Men mock other men for finding big women attractive. I think if they like BBW, they should be able to do so openly. But usually, if a guy cheats on his "status symbol" trophy girlfriend to have a secret relationships with a chubby girl. It's wrong for both girls to be used and decieved.

[whattothink]

Yeah, I never found that to be true for myself. We were pretty open about our relationships. I think you are just jealous about something for some reason. Maybe these chubby girls are much better people than the "trophies". Beauty is so much more than just the outside.

[Asker]

Not jealous. I think guys should be able to openly say they like big women without feeling like they're strange for having attractions to them. I also think it's unfair to the bigger women to be in hiding while the man goes back to his main girlfriend.

[whattothink]

I'm pretty sure they do. If not you just aren't around the right guys. Kinda like me when a guy tells me I'm cute, but in a different way (eyeroll). It's ok though, I feel sorry for them for missing out on the awesomeness that was me.

[Asker]

I agree. The "your pretty for a ____ girl" compliments are ridiculous. And I don't mean offense, but I see your age is 30-35, I'm in the 18-24 age range. Men my age tend to still be immature and want "status symbol" girlfriends to prove they're alpha dogs. Not all men my age have this mentality of course, but a lot do.

[whattothink]

Not necessarily. I dated so much more when I was younger. The younger guys were more willing to be seen with me. Not so much at my current age. Even on dating sites 95% of the guys my age want "athletic/slender" and nothing else.

[Anonymous]

"Not saying all men cheat, but when they do, if they have a thin attractive girlfriend, it is usually with a BBW."

I have NEVER seen what you describe here so I have to call bullshit. This is a clear case of you taking a minuscule sample of reality and trying to extrapolate it to everyone.

[Anonymous]

I think it has more to do with big girls being a slump buster.

[middleton]

Because chubby girls he is not looking for a relationship just a fuck