What should I do about my 13-year old 20-year old crush?

[Anonymous]

I am 13 and soon to turn 14 and i have had a crush on a 20-year old girl since about a year ago. she has know about my small crush on her but not really though anything of it. But, recently i have made better friends with her and she doesn't ignore me at all. we talk but mostly text and i guess i have grown on her (i guess). This is where it might get a bit wired but then again is was a already made weird by me putting with out on the internet for all to see but i would like some genuine advice and not all kinds of "what the fuck am i reading". Very recently i called her "baby" in a complete -face palm- of an accident. I guess it was a cue for her to act and i have kind of had a semi-secret relationship with her. not like a full on boyfriend and kisses and stuff like that but just a "more then friends" relationship. i fell like its a bit awkward with her being a mature adult and me being a young teenager. To be a bit bold and say im mature for my age and most people would agree with me. I really dont know what to do because i like to go even farther with her but it would be a bit weird in public and i would probably look like her younger brother which would make it even stranger if i gave her a hug and i already have an older sister one. I really like this girl and im not one to talk to any girl, im just shy that way but i was just luck that i make friends with her in the first place. and by the way guys thank you for those who read through the pain of my life and thank you more to those who respond.

[airbear2626]

Oh honey... I'm not here to judge at all but I'm not really sure how this could work out. A seven year age gap is really large especially when one party is a minor. Its not abnormal for a guy your age to have a crush on a 20 year old woman though. But what do you characterize as a "semi relationship"? What may be a semi relationship to you may just seem like a close brotherly type of relationship to her... Because I personally wouldn't be able to date a guy that much younger than me. I just need a little more info.

[crazyincalifornia]

good one.

[lumos]

She's too old for you. What you might think is a "semi-secret relationship", she most probably thinks of it as a "strictly platonic friendship". I don't know any sane 20 year old girl who would willingly date a 13 year old. Sorry. I'm sure you're very mature and all, but that doesn't change the fact that you're a kid and she's an adult. As other people have pointed out, it would be illegal for her to be in a relationship with you. So I don't really think that she sees it as a "semi-relationship".

[Anonymous]

Age doesn't matter... But when you're underage especially that young it does matter. Too old for you wait Til you're 17 or 18 to get with someone who is 20. If you like them enough stay away so you don't get them in trouble

[crazyincalifornia]

Yea!

[OldDinosaur]

Your in heaven.. relax kid. I remember 14. I was wishing a 20 year old would even look at me. Fun times ahead.

[Deft_maiden]

She is your Mrs Robinson. The issue I see here is you are a minor and anything
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sexual contact is illegal. Get it? .. It's a crime.
It fine to have a crush, but you and specially she must leave it there.
I'm sure this is not what you were hoping to hear, but that just the way it must be.
Besides you are too young period!

[Niko-r]

Im 21 and I would never date someone your age, its illegal. Regardless of how mature you are i just dont think you should go there.. When you're 18 and also an adult the age gap won't be a big deal, but right now you two would be looking for completely different things and it would never work out!

[crazyincalifornia]

She is too old for you... flat out. Fantasy at best. The crush is normal though. I had it for my science teacher in HS. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

OMFG! Cougar alert. This is crazy. No this can't work. Woww this did not help u at all im sorry but I would never think a 20yr old would like someone your age. Wouldn't your parents flip if they found out?

[LittleSally]

Damn...
No...
Too messed up.

no matter how much you grow, you'll be too young for her because she knew you when you were 13. And she was 20.

[Anonymous]

You're young. In my opinion I don't think perusing this relationship anymore is a good idea. But you should tell her how you feel about her. She needs to know. Leave the choice up to her. She should be mature about it and willing to still be friends. Or like it is now. Don't rush into anything

[GoddessofTruth]

Dude, she is too old for you.