Ex Boyfriend sent me a friend request on Facebook after almost 4 years of not speaking to each other?

[Anonymous]

Ok I have not spoken to my ex boyfriend in almost four years mainly because we had an ugly break up and he was kind of an asshole towards me after we broke up (rubbing his new gf in my face, calling me names) . It was to the point I couldn't take it anymore so I ended up deleting him off of social media. Over the years I eventually moved on and I have been happily dating my current boyfriend for almost 3 years and I have been hearing through the grapevine (mutual friends) that he had moved on as well which is fine. Now today out of nowhere he sent me a friend request on Facebook which I thought was very weird because after four years I doubt we have anything to talk about. What is my ex boyfriends intentions?

[Ozanne]

He's either friend-collecting or it's an ego boost and wants you to see how great he's doing or wants to see how life without him panned out for you. None of that is healthy. You aren't friends. You're exes. What possible purpose does it serve to be on each other's Facebook? You didn't even have a decent breakup where you could be friends afterward, so that's out. You're with someone now, and it's not really fair to him to include an old boyfriend on your page to start liking and commenting on your life. He had his chance years ago and it ended badly. You're right - you have NOTHING to talk about. If he thinks talking about stuff is to pick up and talk about great things in your lives, again, what possible purpose does it serve? You both know you moved on, and you know you're happy. Is it worth the risk of hard feelings from your current boyfriend who might not be okay with this, or friends, puzzled that you are allowing him to see your life through Facebook? Allowing this turns in to senseless curiosity and then the awkward time when you think you should just delete him. So if it were me, I wouldn't add him back nor speak to him and save all that possible hard feeling from ever happening. You have a good thing going on now without him. Leave it in the past. Good luck! :)

[Ozanne]

Thank you for MH:) Good luck!

[Kynnedy14]

Don't answer the friend request because that is you going backwards in your life and you don't want to go through that strife again in your life. The reason why i said that is that you guys may hit it off again by him liking you pictures or messaging you on facebook. His intentions are probably to get back together with you but it may be a rebound relationship and nothing serious. Yes it will be very very very weird talking to an for 4 years. So do not accept his friend request.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Well, the rule i have in my relationships a ex is ex no matter what
i don't befriend them back, i go on with life wish them the best
when things aren't going good in relationships believe they will
try coming back to you but don't fall for being used for second best

[MothMonsterMan]

He probably lost his last girlfriend he's going back to his "little black book" of past girlfriends and hooks up. Just ignore him.

[Anonymous]

He wants some of that old pussy. Really, he's probably thought about the times you two banged.

[Asker]

lol well that's the thing we never had sex.

[Opinion Owner]

Well he's clearly unsatisfied with how that never happened then XD

[SpiderGirl226]

maybe he want to patch up your friendship c: