My boyfriend is not sure if he wants to be with me after a year. Need guys and girls view on the situation?

[Deekr]

My boyfriend and I have been friends for 5 years. When we were younger we tried a relationship but it didn't work. We started dating a year ago. Everything was fine until we had a disagreement a week ago. The disagreement was about me getting a piercing called snake bites on the tip of my tongue. He told me that I couldn't get it, my response to him was you can tell me your opinion but that does not mean that I have to really follow it. I felt like we were in a relationship and I should take his feelings into consideration so I came up with a compromise. I told him there might be a way to get a fake piercing so I can see if I like it or not or if it really isn't a great idea. He still told me no. I told him okay well if i want it then I'm going to get it. He told me then he won't kiss me and he is not going to be with me. I said that is fine and we didn't talk to each other for three days. I reached out first and he was very mad that I let so many days go bye without reaching out to him. I explained to him that he made the comment of not being with me so I felt that he should have reach out. After that he said cruel things like he didn't love me anymore and he was ignoring me. He came around and things started to get better. Then he started to talk to me less and less each day. He told me he needed space I gave it to him. Now he is telling me that he is not sure if he wants to be with me. He said he has had a feeling of not wanting to be with me a few times during our relationship but it always went away. This time he said the feeling won't go away. He said that its not my fault that it is just him. I tried to give some advice, I told him that he should talk to an older person that is married. Maybe even his pastor somebody that has experience with relationships so he can express his feelings and see what they think. He told me no they won't understand his feelings because it is not their feelings. I mentioned how people get counseling. I don't know what to do.

Updates

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We have now officially broken up. He told me that he wants to do him and I can do me. Of course my response was then what is the point in being in a relationship. He said well then we are not in a relationship. There it is. I'm hurt but life goes on.

[Hannah591]

Your boyfriend is childish and controlling. Mature people in love who have disagreements don't ignore the other and say they don't love them. That's childish bull. A boyfriend should never forbid you from doing something you want to do. I know if I wanted to do something to my body and my boyfriend didn't like it, he'd express his dislike but he would NEVER forbid me from doing it. That's something my abusive, controlling ex would do. You need to find better tbh.

[Deekr]

Thank you so much for the advice. My mother told me he was to controlling but I guess I thought it would get better. It makes me feel horrible because

[Deekr]

he says he love me but is not proving it.

[Hannah591]

You're stuck in the trap. If you spend the rest of your life with this man, you'll always be questioning it. He's controlling and you can do better. There are men out there that you can meet and know without a doubt that they love you. You should never have to spend a relationship questioning your worth to that person, it should always be felt. If your mother sees he's controlling, then that's enough proof. Please leave him, you won't regret it, I promise.

[PrettyBama]

You gawjus 😍

Id say leave him be. Waste of time.

[Deekr]

Thank you for the advice I have gotten out of the relationship.

[city23]

Sounds like he is tryin to get out but make you feel guilty bout it. Your piercing was his ideal opportunity. Even tho you offered a compromise. I argue bout silly things no don't speak to her but it only last half a day if that! All couples argue, it's normal. You will probably find that your better off out, with a little time. Sounds like he was controlling too, I used to be like that but grew up.

[MothMonsterMan]

He told me he needed space I gave it to him. Now he is telling me that he is not sure if he wants to be with me." "He said that its not my fault that it is just him. "

Classic lines. He wants out, and chances are, he already has someone else in mind.

[Deekr]

Thank you for the advice.