My Bf thinks girls grinding on him is not a big deal.. I don't think its ok.. Am I wrong? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

ok.. so I told my bf I got invited to the club with by my cousins.. I asked him if he's fine with it.. all I was gonna do is dance with my girls.. he says yes.. and then ask me if he can go clubbing.. and I say its a little bit different.. who ;you gonna be dancing with? are you just gonna stand in a corner? he said no, that he's obviously gonna dance with other girls... and he was serious.. I told him I wasn't ok for other girls to grind on his dick.. he said.. but they are not.. I have pants... I got really upset.. because he has different mindsets... I am not used to a guy telling me he wants to grind with other girls.. he told me straight out... am I wrong? what do I do?

[AJElectric]

Well your first mistake is dating a guy that likes to go dancing in clubs. No. 2 since you made this mistake already then if your going to a club to dance then he should be able to also. And because guys don't dance with each other (straight guys anyway) and it would be stupid to dance alone it shouldn't be unreasonable for him to dance with another girl. He doesn't have to let her grind him i have seen plenty of people dance and not grind like i am sure you and your girlfriends won't be with each other. But if u feel that insecure about your man dancing with other women in the club you have 3 options 1. Find new boyfriend who doesn't like clubs, suck it up butter cup and let him go dance with other women, or last invite him to come with you and your girls to bring their boyfriends or if there single, ask your boyfriend to bring some of his guy friends with him.

[JackKerouac77]

Still not sure why people "grind" as a dance form these days. Why not invite the girl back to your place and get it over with? Everyone knows what's implied/hinted at.

Glad that you expressed your dissatisfaction and reasons for it. Y'all should have a serious conversation about why it makes him upset/what you expect from each other. Otherwise, why be in a relationship?

[CommieDearest]

I had this same argument with my ex kinda. He didn't "ask" if it was okay because I don't really do the whole give permission to go places thing, but instead he decided to call and brag about all the chicks he and his buddy danced with in way too much detail. Total. Asshole. No, it's not wrong to be upset about that. Guys with girlfriends shouldn't be dry humping other women. Why this isn't obvious to some, I'll never know

[IsThisNameTakenToo]

Why would dancing with other girls mean they would grind on his dick? And why is it OK for you to go to a club, but not for him? I don't think that's fair.

[JaneRain]

I don't think you are wrong. Just ask him how he would feel if you let another guy grope your boobs cos, you have a shirt.. and bra

[Schnikies]

You're not wrong, if you feel that strongly and it makes you uncomfortable he should respect that.